my wife won't fuck

[jubei]

No shit... WTF is wrong with your wife. She sounds mental. You sound normal except for your incredibly poor choice of spouse. Get the fuck out.

 

[presguy]

i had the same problem. i tried everything from wine to candles to trips on weekends. she used to try and make me feel guilty for trying.

i went 7 months without sex trying to wait it out thinking it would get better. i eventually got some on the side and left her. it may sound shallow, but it causes frustration like ive never had before.

 

[milo hobgoblin]

Yup

Been there... Done that.

No fucking way Id waste another day of my life on some cold bitch who doesnt like sex.

Just move on....

 

[§äñît¥ Pôí§ðñ]

has she always been that way, or just recently?

 

[THeMaCHinE]

How many hours per week of undivided attention (no tv, no movie, just time with no distractions) do you give one another?

Do you ever try to just go with the flow vs. giving her the feeling that you only want to be with her to fuck her?

Who does the majority of the housework in the relationship?

Are you both in careers?

Do you have any kids? How old?

What is the last thing you did to make her feel appreciated? When was it? How long was it until the time before that?

Have you ever been to any form of marriage counseling?

Are you *nice* to your wife?

Is your wife on medication/birth control?

Are you on anything?

 

[Stryker1992]

theres more to this story then you're telling us. why don't you start back at the beginning when she first started doing this and why. we may seriously be able to help you if you tell us what's up

What are you, my therapist!

 

[Stryker1992]

i had the same problem. i tried everything from wine to candles to trips on weekends. she used to try and make me feel guilty for trying.

i went 7 months without sex trying to wait it out thinking it would get better. i eventually got some on the side and left her. it may sound shallow, but it causes frustration like ive never had before.

Finally, someone who knows what I am saying. I swear to you guys, I am very nice and normal. I have two masters degrees and I am working on my ph d. We spend time together but she likes to watch a lot of tv.

My wife is a pro athlete and I am a retired semi pro. We are 30. She just sucks in bed and is not sexually motivated. I try everything dudes! I am nice, flowers, dinner, eating the pink, kisses on the neck, etc, etc.

 

[gingersnap]

Sounds like she has anger towards you that she for some reason will not openly communicate. This sounds like passive aggressive behavior to me. If you want to save the marriage I think professional counseling would help immensely. Sorry you are going through this, nobody deserves to be treated like that!

 

[Badbart]

Is she on anti-depressants if she is that will kill her sex drive. Same thing happened to me when my ex-wife went on anti-depressants. It was the worst four years of my life. After I got rid of her its been great. Some people are just cold and heartless and a lot of times nothing can be done.

 

[Stryker1992]

After I got rid of her its been great.

Thanks for all the input guys, I am not going to answer all of the questions as it is personal, I am just venting. Believe me anything you can ask I have explored.

I am a psychologist!