My teenage son

[stevesmi]

as long as he is dating and says he is 'in love' with her they are gonna fool around..

i agree with what burn said above, best thing is for him to not date in high school seriously.. go out on a friday night with friends after the game and have dinner/play darts or whatever kids in your town do. but not to obsess over a girl and just hang out with her all the time like it sounds like he is doing. its a bad situation no matter what.. lets say they stay together and then at 18 one goes off to NY for school and the other to FL or whatever.. then what? you get broken hearts with kids who don't know any better.

a lot of guys in high school are too dorky to get girls. the jocks that got girls i can remember several of them go their gf's pregnant and i remember those girls getting abortions or sometimes having the baby and being pregnant at 16..

I had 2 gf's during high school. one of them wanted to get dicked but i turned her down, but we did other things.. reason i turned her down was just because i didn't feel like i was ready, we were only together like a week and she wanted sex... i made 5.20 an hour and i didn't want a baby, i had goals in life and wanted to go to college etc... we dated for 3 months and I had a car so we almost ended up having sex a couple times but we would get interrupted either at my parents house or when we tried to skip school we would get caught. so it never happened luckily. i regret getting into a relationship like that because i ultimately got mind fucked by this girl, now i hear she has 3 kids by 2 different guys... so i could of easily been one of those guys. her parents were dysfunctional and her dad was some irish dude who never liked that his daughter was dating so i beleive his strictness backfired.

anyway they are gonna eventually find a way to do it so its gonna be up to him and what he has learned and seen from life experiences which will determine if he goes through with it or if he says no he wants to wait. but it sounds like a bad situation if he says he 'loves her' .. i would rather my teenage son have sex than be in love with a girl at that age. its gonna end bad eventually. my point being him being in a serious relationship at 15 is more dangerous to me than having protective sex a few times with girls he doesn't really care about. sneak some condoms into his wallet and backpack and try and convince him that he doesn't really love her and there is a big difference between him liking this girl a lot and actual love. hopefully she doesn't end up like burn said keeping him from his goals.. i remember friends that would turn down scholarships or opportunities to go to colleges to stay in our shit town just to be with a girl and then a year later that girl dumps them or cheats on them. those are opportunities that don't come around a 2nd time

 

[bigbassturd]

Steve, I think you either just described my highschool, or the storyline from Varsity Blues...

 

[jiggagold]

I'm ashamed I'm from the same state as spy wizard.

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[Headholio]

V.....

I know you've heard a bunch of opinions already about involving blueshirt with your kids, but I think dabuffguy could not have said it any better:

I used to be a tempermental, impatient prick and since growing close to my 14yo cousin these last couple years I have turned into much more of a gentle, yet still masculine person. Not only have I been a support and guidance to him, but he has also made me a much better person through striving to be that good example and wanting him to have someone like that to look to because honestly, I love that kid more than anyone else. His parents thank me for being a good role model and a "big brother".

If you could get a similar result from connecting your son to blueshirt, how great would that be? For your son, for blueshirt, and for you!

 

[Headholio]

because i've raised 3 children to adulthood, 2 of my own and 1 that was adopted..

and i've had the opportunity to read many books on child development and behavioral modification..

positive motivation in children and in business is always preferred and more effective than negative reinforcement.

but that's just me... oh and my own behavior as a teen and rebellious young adult..

your experience must be different..

I think SpyWizard has some excellent advice and philosophy, in theory. But in application, it is not so simple.
positive motivation should always be considered with teaching kids, but that doesn't mean it will always work.
Is it possible to have a 15 year old boy want to avoid sex the same way you want him to avoid sex?
Maybe that idea could be instiled in some people, but there is no one way to teach that works for every kid.

 

[WoodyO]

I trust my 16 year old daughter. She says she doesn't want to have sex. She's an honor student on her schools varsity cross country team, and she's dead-set on going to college outside of CA. She's applying to Notre Dame this year, and isn't going to let a BF or a baby get in her way. I'm glad my kid has goals and a good head on her shoulders.

 

[jiggagold]

And in her mouth

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[miplank]

lol

 

[dabuffguy]

I can't believe this has gone unsaid up to this point:

She's cheating on him.

 

[jiggagold]

Shut up virgin pussy

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