i got into the most surreal disagreement with my kid

[Lumberg]

crazy story. the idea of why people like this exist is interesting though...is it a breakdown of society that these people don't get more help, or is it just an individual breakdown? NeedToBuild's posts are food for thought.

 

[stilleto]

crazy story. the idea of why people like this exist is interesting though...is it a breakdown of society that these people don't get more help, or is it just an individual breakdown? NeedToBuild's posts are food for thought.

well in a way...
maybe she doesn't need help. I mean, she looks like a lunatic to ME, but maybe a woman walking around in 5" heels and fake boobs and lips looks like a lunatic to HER.
who's to say which is normal, or acceptable?

I mean, it doesn't mean I would ever let this gross woman in my car, but I can't assume she wants or needs a makeover, or that she is lonely or wants help in any way.

 

[mochara]

the way i would look at it, is it doesnt cost anything to be nice ,but if you do invite her for coffee ,she might think its ok to invite her self next time and make it a regular thing ,so for that reason i would nt do it .

 

[stilleto]

well in a way...
maybe she doesn't need help. I mean, she looks like a lunatic to ME, but maybe a woman walking around in 5" heels and fake boobs and lips looks like a lunatic to HER.
who's to say which is normal, or acceptable?

I mean, it doesn't mean I would ever let this gross woman in my car, but I can't assume she wants or needs a makeover, or that she is lonely or wants help in any way.

wait. I should clarify... the fictitious person in my comparison with the fake boobs and lips and high heels is not me.

 

[Captain FT]

wait. I should clarify... the fictitious person in my comparison with the fake boobs and lips and high heels is not me.

Riiiiight

 

[mustang_00]

if the lady don't drive you could use that as an excuse on why you never went for "coffee." play it off like you don't have time or whatever. or does she live in distance?

story needed "and then i pulled out my samurai sword and chopped her wig off and said NOOOOOO i'm allergic to shellfish"

always always play one uppey with crazy people!! freak those mother fuckers out for once!

 

[Mr. dB]

I didn't know you had fake lips.

 

[nangiggles]

it aint stilleto, im pretty sure hers are real...

 

[trex74]

not sure if i'm annoyed or proud.

my daughter's best friend is this boy, "B". My daughter once told me that B's father is huge and gross and just sits in front of a computer all day and has terminal cancer. B has 3 siblings, 1 of whom is 18 and mentally retarded. As she told me this, I realized that I have seen a woman at the grocery store who looks INSANE walking around with a retarded adult boy and a few younger kids. I described her and my daughter said it sounded just like B's mom.

Well today we went to the grocery store and there she was. My daughter introduced us and the woman was... indescribable. She wears a long, matted wig. her real hair is a different color, and she pins it to the wig in strange places that stick UP(hard to describe, but I know what I saw). She has 1 tooth, and it's rotted. She wore ORANGE lipstick all over her mouth. I mean, not necessarily on her lips, and not covering all of her lips either- it was mostly on the rest of her face- like on her cheeks and chin. She wore a LOT of clothes that were mismatched and a little dirty - long flowery skirt, leopard tights, white old lady sandals, different flowery blouse, sparkly tank top, dirty scarf around her neck, fake rings on every finger, string tight around her fingers, and magic marker on her arms.

So this woman goes on about how nice my daughter is, and that "B" is her favorite child of hers and that he's such a good, smart boy. She asked if i worked and I said I do. I asked if she worked and she said, "no. believe it or not, I have a college degree (i guess she knows she doesn't look like she would) but since my husband has stage 4 cancer, I get paid by the state to take care of him."

Then she said that maybe one day we could go out for coffee. I said, "uh. sure." and she said that she doesn't drive so I would have to and she might have to bring her (retarded) son with her.
I said, "well I don't have much time because I work, but if i do, i'll call you."

So at home, my daughter kept telling me how nice she is and I stayed quiet. I asked her what their house was like and she said she's not sure because it's always dark, but that B gets straight As and takes care of his family- he's the one that makes sure the rent is paid, etc.
She asked if i was going to have coffee with B's mom and I said, "no."
Now she's mad at me because I'm judging her. I said, "yeah, I am. She looks insane. i'm sure she's very nice, but I don't have to have her in my car or house and I don't want to have coffee with her. I have plenty of friends."
But she's still mad at me for just saying no.

I vote you should be proud of your daughter. The mom sounds like she is in a very trying situation- husband with stage 4 cancer, a grown kid with an intellectual disability. I'm not sure I would be able to handle all that without going a little crazy myself.
"B" must be a godsend to her, the poor boy. It's nice that your daughter is being a friend to him despite his living situation.

 

[-SD-]

i didnt know you had fake boobs