My GF has ZERO sex drive

[resqguy]

Ok, ladies...here's my dilemma. I've been with my current girlfriend for almost two years. She's beautiful, funny, intelligent, successful...blah, blah, blah. She and I get along better than anyone either of us has ever dated. The sex is really good, but it's infrequent. By "infrequent," I mean only about once per week. And even then, it's pretty tough to get her into the mood. She's a little embarassed about it because she claims that she's always had little to no sex drive. Is this normal? Because I've never been with a woman with such low libido...maybe I've just been lucky, haha. This is, by no means, hurting our relationship. Rather, she and I were curious if there were things she/I could do to increase her desire to have sex. Any thoughts?

ResQ

 

[blueta2]

how old is she?

 

[all the whey]

Has it always been that infrequent? If it is now she is losing interest.

If she always had a low sex drive, then it will only get worse the longer you are together. Everyone know the sex is at its highest rate in the beginning of a relationship.

You sound young. Forget about having a girlfriend.

 

[blueta2]

Has it always been that infrequent? If it is knew she is losing interest.

If she always had a low sex drive, then it will only get worse the longer you are together. Everyone know the sex is at its highest rate in the beginning of a relationship.

You sound young. Forget about having a girlfriend.

dumbest advice I ever heard.......go clean a litter box ;-)

 

[resqguy]

Yeah, I was ignoring the whole "forget about having a girlfriend" thing...

She's 32, I'm 33. Throughout the whole relationship, sex has been infrequent...even in the beginning. I'm pretty sure it has nothing to do with her losing interest, considering she's been initiating several "moving in together" talks lately...

 

[Gymgurl]

Hmmm....meds such as the pill, antidepressants, stress, hormones out of whack....can all cause it....

 

[blueta2]

Well she should be in her prime. Loss of libido is a tricky thing. It can be a physical thing or a mental thing. She may have an issue with thyroid. Many times hypo or hyper thyroid conditions can cause the libido to decrease.
Also, she may feel pain during sex etc.
She may also have some past experience that makes it difficult for her to be more sexual.
The reason are vast. I am sure it's not you. But like I said, when most women hit their "dirty thirties" their sexy drives goes nuts.
If it bothers her (not you) that she doesn't feel sexual, she can start by getting a physical check up.

 

[resqguy]

She's been on the pill since high school, but she doesn't take any anti-depressants. Her job definitely stresses her out...

 

[resqguy]

Well she should be in her prime. Loss of libido is a tricky thing. It can be a physical thing or a mental thing. She may have an issue with thyroid. Many times hypo or hyper thyroid conditions can cause the libido to decrease.
Also, she may feel pain during sex etc.
She may also have some past experience that makes it difficult for her to be more sexual.
The reason are vast. I am sure it's not you. But like I said, when most women hit their "dirty thirties" their sexy drives goes nuts.
If it bothers her (not you) that she doesn't feel sexual, she can start by getting a physical check up.

That's funny that you mentioned the "dirty thirties," because she even brought that up. As far as pain, she doesn't mention any...besides the occassional "too hard/too deep." She was hoping there was some type of over-the-counter supp she could try before going to her Dr.

 

[all the whey]

dumbest advice I ever heard.......go clean a litter box ;-)

That is solid and honest advice. However, I did assume he was younger and mentioned about not having to have a girlfriend. Most younger people stay in their first relationships longer than they should.

Bro, rule number 1 is never ask women about relationship advice. Lets get some guys in here.