It's finally happened. My husband wants a baby.

[trailseeker]

Whaaagh!

I've managed to abate him for seven years, and now he springs this on me. Having kids never even occured to me. Im still working on my physique and trying to reduce my last chunks of bodyfat after losing 110 pounds over the last two years, and he wants to go and f***k all of it up by impregnating me. I'm only 27; maybe I can put him off for another seven years.

Anyone else have this dilemma?

 

[trailseeker]

I just realized my avatar matches this post perfectly!

 

[spatts]

You can get it back. If you're going to have kids eventually, may as well do it while you're young.

 

[Ceebs]

I just realized my avatar matches this post perfectly!

Took the words right out of my mouth.

It is entirely possible to not blow up while pregnant, if you eat healthfully and maintain your activity level. Nourishing a growing baby doesn't give you license to sit on your butt eating donuts, as much fun as that would be. In fact, labor is easier for people who're fit. (That is to say it's ever easy...) I was always told that 30 pounds is the minimum gain for good fetal health, though I could be misinformed, and I'm sure it varies from body to body.

You say your husband wants the baby, but aside from the weight concerns, you didn't specify how you yourself feel about it. Do you know?

 

[Sassy69]

BTW, can you think of anything that keeps you on your feet more than a kid does? Instant cardio!

 

[trailseeker]

BTW, can you think of anything that keeps you on your feet more than a kid does? Instant cardio!

Hee hee; absolutely.

I think part of the reason Im not so gung-ho about kids is that Ive spent most of my life around them. My mother has done in-home daycare since I was 5, and I spent the entire time I lived at home bottle-feeding, burping, diapering, etc. infants and toddlers. I also spent from 2000-2002 working in a facility where I was in charge of 8 toddlers from 9-6 mon-fri, so Im very aware of the trials and tribulations involved with kids. (Although I know its ALWAYS different with your own.). Lets just say that because of my experience I have a somewhat different outlook on childrearing than most women my age; for them, it's an adventure and a surprise. For me, I sort of know what to expect...when Im expecting...HA HA HA! Sorry... couldnt help it!

 

[Hannibal]

Anyone else have this dilemma?

I wish...

Hopefully you two can come to a compromise, because you BOTH will be pregnant...remember that. And when the time is right for you both I wish you the best of luck.

 

[circusgirl]

Make sure he's willing to do his share of the diaper changing/butt scrubbing part.

I have a lot of relatives with small children, in most cases the wives do 99% of the nasty part of the work (schlepping junior(s) around, cleaning/disinfecting/diaper changing, teaching the kid to not touch that, not put crap that's not food in their mouths, no the stove is not a toy darling etc).

Does your husband realise that if you have kids, this will be the centre of his existence for 18+ years? Also, he will have to share your attention with junior, and sacrifice his time, effort and hobbies as well as you will?

Women in general are ready for the sacrifices but a lot of guys seem to think they'll just keep on doing their usual thing, and get pissed when they find out they can't....

Don't mean to sound negative, but these things are important, as you will need some "me time" as well after the birth or you will go stir crazy.... think of all the energy a little kid has, you will need your hubbie's help our the kid will wear you out!

 

[SouthernBell]

Children are wonderful, espically you own children. Don't worry about the weight issues, when you are holding that precious child in your arms you will forget all of that and with in time your figure will be back. But when you make this choice to bring another life into this world, you must make sure you and your spouse are both ready for it. Giving up sleeping late or even sleeping for that fact, and being able to pick up and go are things that are gonna change, not to mention all of the others this list can go on and on. Everyone has a little bit of selfishness in them and you have to be willing to let that go. Don't concieve until you are ready to change your entire life to love and care for that little one. When you are ready this will be the best thing you have ever done. Good luck.

SB

 

[MULE1]

HAHAHAHAHA, explain it to him, telll him your not ready, if that doesnt work tell him how much responsiblity a child is...ie: no more nights on the town, getting up in the wee hrs of the morning to feed or change, no more going on romantic getaway, sex will slow down, because you'll be exhausted from work and taking care of a child. Borrow the neighbors 3 yr old and let em sleep over for a few nights, that will change his mind.



By the way I have 5