I'm feeling down right now folks, due to the girl

[musclemom]

Healother, honey, I'm gonna tell you a secret:

Being a CHRISTIAN hasn't got SHIT to do with sexual behavior. The laws and restrictions against sexual behavior come from ancient Hebraic law, and those grew out of the Jewish effort to place their culture in absolute opposition to goddess worship/paganism.

I'll never understand why Christians insist on even going anywhere near the Old Testament, those are Hebrew laws. Read the New Testament and you tell me what the Christ (not his disciples) said about sex and personal behavior. Nada. I think he said more about keeping kosher or not than he did about rubbing our naughty bits together.

Being a Christian means you follow the teachings of Christ, and Christ came to tell the Jews that the crap they were believing/following needed an upgrade. So be a Christian and stop worrying about Old Testament law.

 

[the_clockwork]

Is this healother a real guy?? I remember evansteve but are these fictional characters created by a bored ex or current member?? Can someone really be this desperate?

My advice: Be yourself and just go talk to a girl you find attractive, don't be a creepy online stalker-dater unless you are using a dating site!! facebook and myspace are known stalker sites and you only make yourself look like a stalker by asking girls out you've never met on them.

P.S. -- She's 18 in high school?? She's fucking insane, gauranteed!

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Is this healother a real guy?? I remember evansteve but are these fictional characters created by a bored ex or current member?? Can someone really be this desperate?

My advice: Be yourself and just go talk to a girl you find attractive, don't be a creepy online stalker-dater unless you are using a dating site!! facebook and myspace are known stalker sites and you only make yourself look like a stalker by asking girls out you've never met on them.

P.S. -- She's 18 in high school?? She's fucking insane, gauranteed!

Just ignore his threads and he will go away eventually. Fucking every one of his despirate threads suck us in, and they get to over 10 pages... so who is more of a loser...him for posting this, or those of us who month after month, year after year post on his threads giving him the same advice over and over and over...

 

[theoak01]

fuck i cant believe i missed this until now.

this dude is def SWV material

 

[samoth]

Just ignore his threads and he will go away eventually. Fucking every one of his despirate threads suck us in, and they get to over 10 pages... so who is more of a loser...him for posting this, or those of us who month after month, year after year post on his threads giving him the same advice over and over and over...

He's really just an alter trying to win the TOTW contest.

 

[-SD-]

Just ignore his threads and he will go away eventually. Fucking every one of his despirate threads suck us in, and they get to over 10 pages... so who is more of a loser...him for posting this, or those of us who month after month, year after year post on his threads giving him the same advice over and over and over...

But see guys like you and me can keep on posting up in this shit because weve forgotten about more sex than flexygel will ever know. Its a compulsion for a well experienced guy to try to pass on knowledge and wisdom to the young ones. You know we cant help it rob.

 

[Gambino]

Just ignore his threads and he will go away eventually. Fucking every one of his despirate threads suck us in, and they get to over 10 pages... so who is more of a loser...him for posting this, or those of us who month after month, year after year post on his threads giving him the same advice over and over and over...

that's harsh bro
he legitimatley needs our help/suggestions.
though he comes across stubborn and antiquated i fully believe he takes it all in and processes it.
he's not a bad bro, just confused about shit. that's why we offer assistance.

 

[-SD-]

Quit asking questions about everything and just do it. Remember, leap of faith does not ask questions. Do it. Do it.

 

[healother]

fuck man, I had to come out of retirement to help a good bro in need.

This is a big problem with staying so inexperienced about women, sex, love, relationships, feelings, etc. for so damn long.

You should be STOKED at what happened! A hottie 18 year old played with your cock! That was it man. Maybe you'd get to do more, but maybe not, but you went to have some fun and you had some fun. Why feel so down?

You are going to (hopefully) meet many women you are attracted to. Very few of these women will ever show interest in you, and even few than that will you date. Hopefully one day you will end up marrying one of them.

There is nothing wrong with going out and exploring now. Experience life, soak it all up, take this time and LEARN from it! Learn about yourself, about others, about relationships. This will only help you down the road when you find yourself in a serious relationship with a lot more at stake than your feelings and fragile ego.

Some people get through all this really early, in their teens, and are ready for real relationships in their 20s. But there are many people, myself included, that don't really start experiencing this until college or later and aren't really ready for anything too serious until their mid to late twenties, some guys its even longer.

You have testosterone in your body, you are designed to find women attractive. They are designed to get you all flustered over them. You will want to do all kinds of things with them. Whether or not you do is your call, but keep in mind this is all normal and natural behavior that needs to be expressed in some way. Your body is producing fluids that will affect your behavior, and even more fluids that my physically be released from your body periodically no if ands or buts.

Take this experience and learn from it. She's 18 bro, she doesn't want a boyfriend, she wants to experiment, find a guy that makes her feel different than others, and she'll break his heart or he'll break hers, its inevitable. You had the right idea heading into this, when you almost met her at 4am one morning. Just go, have fun, if its not fun, leave and don't do it again. But do me a favor and try to have fun bro. This your life you are living here.

thanks for coming out of retirement to respond, lol.
Yeah, having fun is pretty important. Honestly, I think it would be great if sex could be both really fun and meaningful but not have all those sad feelings tied into. I wonder if that is even possible.

I dont think we will meet again, judging by the fact that she isnt talking to me online much anymore. I told her my parents will be gone for a whole week at the end of feb, and said she could come over if she wanted to and she said "we'll see"

She actually does want a boyfriend, she is really into some guy right now, but she thinks he's afraid to get involved with her because he's shy or something. This girl wants no relationship with me because I'm too old.

I also think its because I displayed signs of sexual immaturity around her (constantly grabbing at her boobs and smiling, while we were cuddling) and also I just act kind of insecure around her (I act insecure by nature, which is something that women are supposed to do, not men, so that is a bad fit for me, and I either have to start acting more manly (stop acting insecure and stop doing other things), or i wont have a shot. Being yourself just doesnt work if 'yourself' isnt 'manly' by woman standards.

i really hope to meet more women again, but the women online on hotornot.com are so stuck up and hardly talk to me, or want to hang out with me, and ive spend days clicking just to get 30 ppl on my match list.

its looking pretty bleak. i'd go out and try to approach women in the real world but i have no idea how to do it in person, and id probably look desperate and like a fool. i hate having to hide my desire for a woman, so i usually come off way too forward and obvious.

i really hope this girls wasnt my only little oasis in a life of singleness and unhappiness. its weird that i feel like i need a chick to be happy, but its just how i am (after 22 years of singleness), and thats probably considered unmanly as well.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Havent been on EF as much, because the last few days I've been feeling down, because of the girl on facebook that I met in person. As some of you know, she's 18 and in highschool, im 22, and we fooled around, she touched my penis, but wouldnt let me kiss her or go in her pants. At first I was just upset about that part.

But later I started thinking about her more, and realized that I may not get to see her again, as she is thinking about asking this one guy out pretty soon, and I was just a fool around buddy. I know men arent supposed to have emotions or feel down about this stuff, but it happened to me. Seriously, like I cant get her off my mind, and I dont understand why, I think the only reason I'm attracted to her is because she grabbed my dick, we have nothing else in common really.

I dont know if I feel bad that I might not just get to kiss her, or if I feel bad because I like her but wont get to have her.

In either case, I regret what I did the other night, cuz its been on my mind and I've felt depressed about it the last few days. And now I'm no longer innocent or the virgin I used to be. I wasted it away, on a woman I wasnt even in a relationship with. I wonder if maybe sexual acts are special and should be saved for people who care for you, or else you get burned.

This girl doesnt want a relationship with me, and told me i didnt get hard enough the other day when she tried to give me a handjob the other day.
How is that supposed to make a man feel?

Anyways, I still may have a chance to kiss her and do more with her, as she said she'd be up for it when she has time if she doesnt hit it off with the guy at the dance she's going to on friday.

I'm confused. I wonder if I even should see her again, even if given another opportunity. I dont know if it would make me feel better or worse. And I only have limited time as the window of opportunity is closing very fast. I better hope she doesnt hit it off with the guy at the dance this friday, so maybe saturday we can hang out again. And both our parents will be around this weekend so it cant happen at either of our houses for 2 weeks.

bail shes pwning u you fucked up somehow during the sex and turned her off to everything and now shes mindfucking u dont even look at her agian