I'm feeling down right now folks, due to the girl

[p0ink]

My active service ended in november bro, I am inactive for 4 more years however. I got out because I wanted to see what it felt like to be a civilian again. & if you were ever a grunt in the marines, you know that bullshit and stress can be unreal. I am haveing a very difficult time transitioning back into civilian life & the only thing im certain of these days is I miss being a marine

meh, i've had my fair share of active duty time, even though i'm not active duty.

why dont you join the guard/reserves? my roommate was in the marines for 6 years, got out, and joined the guard.

he can't stand being in, but he can't stand the thought of not being in.

double-edged sword.

 

[healother]

and isnt that the reality of it all...while youre at home being super moral christian guy, the girl you constantly put on a pedestal and think is made of sugar and spice, and everything nice...is getting fucked by someone else. someone who might not be so moral. or decent. or well intentioned. or viable.

this is going to be the pattern of your life unless you rapidly get a clue, steve.

i repeat: this is how life will be for you. forever. until youre dead. unless you get a clue. you will continue to be sexually and socially outclassed by other men, have women choose others over you, and live a life of torment where you ask yourself why oh why oh why isnt it happening for me, since im such a decent moral christian guy, why oh why oh why, poor little me, life is bullshit, life is bullshit

i have lost count of the number of guys i know who have had a crush on a girl, worked their asses off in the gym/at work to get a car/body/house to impress her (all indirect means of attracting her) or being super nice, and all the while, the girl is being sexed by someone else. then they sometimes get the girl, not knowing that she has had sex with 4/5/6 guys in the period the guy has been crushing on her, and celibate.

i dont even know what i want anymore.

decide what you want (sex? marriage? whatever) and take the logical steps to round out your emotional/social intelligence to make yourself attractive to the person you want to do that with, and let me be frank:

yeah, i definately need to decide on what i want.

being forever brainwashed by your parents/priest IS NOT ATTRACTIVE

i dont try to be brainwashed by them i try to be my own person. any damage they've done to me though will have to be reversed.

questioning every move you make in life IS NOT ATTRACTIVE

agreed

feeling guilty for liking sex IS NOT ATTRACTIVE

agreed

having zero sexual experience, ever IS NOT ATTRACTIVE

not necessarily true. some christian women and other abstinent women want pure men. but whatever.

having zero dating experience, ever IS NOT ATTRACTIVE

probably true. and then that makes it even harder to date people. its a vicious cycle.

sitting on your arse talking about working out but not doing it IS NOT ATTRACTIVE

i do workout now, havent you been reading my threads lately??

forever asking advice on things you should have worked out by now IS NOT ATTRACTIVE

well then i guess i suck then, if i cant work shit out, ey?

never applying ANY advice is FUCKING ANNOYING, and therefore IS NOT ATTRACTIVE

most of the time when i get advice i dont even ask for it. people are like 'healother, do this'.
and most of the time when i ask a question, its not to get advice back, im just curious what others would do in a similar situation.

now ask yourself this: how in Gods name are you supposed to attract someone, when youve got all these baseline unnattractive qualities? how?

the answer: YOU CANT.

get a clue steve. get it fast. or get used to the shitty feeling in your gut youve got right now, because it isnt going to go away, because the girl youre crushing on will ALWAYS be getting fucked by someone else.

and liking it.

I will work on my character, because thats important in life, but I'm going to do it for me, and not for some girl. I want to be myself, and not go around and do stuff just for the sake of attracting women.

 

[jh1]

Thank your parents for this.

 

[Jon79]

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Fuck Em All!!!!!!!!

 

[healother]

Thank your parents for this.

yea, they had somewhat of an influence im sure. but they are not to blame. i am the one to blame, cuz i could have gotten laid by now if i tried harder or had more willpower, but i've failed. i guess i dont want it bad enough.