How to approach women in the clubs, to dance

[Island Son]

You should check out a west indian soca club sometime. Nobody asks, you just grab a random woman from behind, grind for a couple minutes, release, grab another woman, repeat. No talking, no names. Fricking awesome

 

[musclemom]

Alcohol? LOL

Try X, K, and cocaine...

Well, there's always Roofies and a well muscled buddy with no morals to help transport the unconscious (hense, unresisting) female

 

[Tweakle]

Remembering your last jaunt the one time you got some action, you had one hottie dancing with you. Then you went back to the skank who turned you down previously and lo and behold she was suddenly interested in the contents of your pants.

girls see other girls blowing you off and don't want the 2nd prize. Girls want what other girls want, doesn't matter if it's a bag of dogshit, if other girls want it then it must be valuable.

There is a lesson to be learned from this, if you can figure out what it is.

ignore the 30 something women posting about not wanting young stevie to rub his package on them.. the kid is going to horrible cheeseball funbars filled with drunk teenagers and skanks in their early 20's. The only women in your age bracket in places like that are blown out old cougars looking to re-affirm that they're still worth something in the sexual marketplace

 

[heatherrae]

Remembering your last jaunt the one time you got some action, you had one hottie dancing with you. Then you went back to the skank who turned you down previously and lo and behold she was suddenly interested in the contents of your pants.

girls see other girls blowing you off and don't want the 2nd prize. Girls want what other girls want, doesn't matter if it's a bag of dogshit, if other girls want it then it must be valuable.

There is a lesson to be learned from this, if you can figure out what it is.

ignore the 30 something women posting about not wanting young stevie to rub his package on them.. the kid is going to horrible cheeseball funbars filled with drunk teenagers and skanks in their early 20's. The only women in your age bracket in places like that are blown out old cougars looking to re-affirm that they're still worth something in the sexual marketplace

Spoken like a truly immature little idiot.

Incidentally, all the twenty somethings on this thread agreed that they don't like the idiotic leg humping, either.

 

[Stefka]

Yep, Nef and I hate the leg-humpers.

 

[Tweakle]

woah there lil miss progesterone, I noticed you missed the whole point of lil stevies dilemma in your hurry to offer worldy wise advice, & went off on a tirade about not wanting to be dry humped but sadly this one's not all about you

unless you're pulling on the tube top and tiger print mini for the mid-week festivities at Banana Joes?

 

[Island Son]

hear, hear, Tweakle and Nobledude!

I wouldn't start off with the grinding, you've gotta work up to it. Shouldn't be a problem though
Get out there, see what works, what doesn't, and who it works on. There's no single approach that works on everyone, but you can find one that works on who you want.

 

[Yarg!]

women pretty much respond to one thing and one thing only - social value.

you need to be a person of value in that persons eyes before they do anything with you, whether its give you their name or have sex in the VIP toilets

there are different sorts of things you can do to prove that you have social value. these include (and ill keep it simple or ill type for an hour):

being well groomed/good looking
having high value friends eg other good looking fun people
having status in the club eg being a bartender, dj, or celebrity
any excellent skill or attribute eg being a good dancer, being really funny/smart/entertaining

what you need to do line your social value up with what you want from the girl, and compare it to HER social value.

the bottom line is, the more social value you have relative to the girl youre talking to, the more likely a girl is to do what you want.

mr nobody ugly guy walking up to an average girl in the club asking for her name = rejection

brad pitt walking up to the hottest girl and wanting a foot massage = a decent chance of it happening

why? because his celebrity status gives him mad social value, and she is more inclined to associate with him

when you walk up to a girl and ask her to dance in a club, youre not just asking her to dance. youre saying "im interested in you for xyz reason" and so shes going to look at who you are, what you look like, who you know, how you come across, WHAT YOU ACTUALLY WANT (a dance? a kiss? sex?) and how she feels about that (is kissing you going to be fun? is dancing with you going to be fun? is sexing you going to be fun? what will it do to HER social value if she does these things with you ie hot chick dancing sexy with loser guy becomes less valuable socially) and then shes going to make a decision

so if i were you and i wanted to dance a lot, i would take it easy with the grinding, because in a club environment your social value is pretty low, grinding expresses a lot of sexual interest (that they may not want, let alone reciprocate) and the more you try to do it with any random chick, the less likely you are to get it.

instead, like RG said, talk to the owmen first, and express to them why you are a socially valuable person. talk about the interesting htings in your life. talk about the things about you particularly that make people say "hey. this guy is pretty cool, i like him". then, once they like you, plus have looked you up and down and seen your nice clothes, interesting sneakers, bracelet from some interesting little villiage in pakistan that you tell a funny story about etc etc, you can ask them to dance.

or you could just get up, dance like a champion by yourself (thereby broadcasting that you are valuable cos youre just such a mad dancer) and some women will respond to that, if you can tbe bothered going through all the steps.

i still think grinding sucks though. you look like a tool, it lowers your value, and like i said to you once before, its either get a cheap feel in a nightclub, or control yourself, and get very real sex someplace else.

preferably in the VIP toilets, so you can tell a good story on EF lol

also, i think you should get a job in a cool college bar. youll make loads of friends with people that are valuable in the clubscene, and youll become valuable by association. plus, you get to see the clubscene from the sober underside, and become a LOT more savvy as a result

(last night i looked like THE BIGGEST PLAYER, my social value was in the stratosphere but i felt like a dick, so i dumped them and got out of there before everyone else in the club realised how playerish i really am and i get busted lol)

 

[Yarg!]

talk after, they cant hear you on the dance floor.
try to get into the club bout 4hrs before closing otherwise they might all be taken.
trying to bust into a group of 3 women by yourself is hard, they would not want to sperate from their friends infront of them. so how do you get them to seperate? well you can depend on a wingman .. if they dont look like shit, or ask them all to dance if youre good looking and can dance , however i find the best way to single out women is to stand near the bar
and pretend youre pondering a drink to order. when a girl comes up to buy a drink by herself, ask her to dance. also you can stand some distance from the bathrooms (usually there is only one route in clubs to the bathroom so stand at the outskirts of the dance floor, and not too close to the bathroom itself lest you come off looking like a pervert or something). when a good looking one comes out by herself, 'hey u want to dance?".

try it: your options recap:

dress impecibally
try to ask them all to dance at once
get a wingman
stand near the bar and ask them to dance /drinks from there
stand a distance (15-20 ft) from the bathroom and ask them to dance as they come out

 

[M Pwrd]

All you guys are working to hard...I find the best way is to go up to a good looking group of girls waiting to get a drink at the bar and say hey me and my buddies got some bottles up in VIP if you wanna join us. Thats how I always do it. Then again I wont bother to club unless I have vip because I hate being stuck standing around a bar.