How to approach women in the clubs, to dance

[blueta2]

My take, guys should not dance!
When I used to go out dancing, guys used to try all the time to grind or dance up to me. It was such a turn off!
Don't ask any girl to dance. Lean up against the bar, look cool and send her a drink

 

[Nobledude]

Healtoher, stop the madness....just get out there and find out for yourself first hand...stop being a pussy looking for E advice...you should have mustered enough knowledge by now.to be able to get your cherry popped...

 

[Stefka]

People turn into stupid animals at clubs.
I have had men dance up behind me and start grinding (which is bad enough) but one BIT my shoulder (wtf?) a few decided to lick my neck and one full on grabbed my boobs. Seriously, what the fuck is wrong with people?

 

[Razorguns]

the women have spoken:

don't be that night at the roxbury guy, trying to scam on any chick that comes close to him, by grinding on them. quick way to look like a club loser.

r

 

[Nobledude]

People turn into stupid animals at clubs.
I have had men dance up behind me and start grinding (which is bad enough) but one BIT my shoulder (wtf?) a few decided to lick my neck and one full on grabbed my boobs. Seriously, what the fuck is wrong with people?

alcohol.....makes wonders...

 

[GoldenDelicious]

ok, do you think that I need to show up at the club with some attractive ppl to have social value then? because so far ive been going solo and dancing by myself a lot.

other high value people. they can be attracive, interesting, or importnatnly, female. going to a club with women makes you FAR more attractive to women because for those chicks to be with you, you must be good.

remember, im not looking for sex, which is why i enjoy the grinding part. I dont have a place to bring women home to, and i wont for a really long time. if she has a place, great. But I'm still not looking for sex, thats too much with a stranger. makeout, feely, sure, sex no.

the point is, youll have whatever you want. its up to you (and her)

i guess i'd be willing to test it out where i dont grind with a girl while im at the club. but if she does all the work and puts her ass in my crotch, should I still turn that down?

yes. turning it down demonstrates that youre too valuable to do that cheap shit. itll make her, and other women, want you more. jsut be playful about it. i give em a pat on the bum and say "shoo!"

working as a bartender sounds like it might be cool, but i have a lot to learn about drinks before i do that, so it will be awhile before i become a bartender.

not really. go and be the guy who picks up all the glasses, then once you have your foot in the door, youll learn to do the rest. the only people who usually get behind the bar are usually female, followed by guys who have worked up to it.

plus i want a job with health benefits and how would a bartender job help that? and i want to be available at normal hours so i can go on dates at night with women. and since most bartender jobs arent full time id probably need another part time job too.

yeah, you would. even one night a weekend would do. youll feel like youre out partying, trust me

im sure what you do works. but it sounds like what biteme does is working for him too.

i like biteme. i like biteme a lot.

but i would steal bitemes girl from under his nose so fast its not funny.

honestly, working out and getting a good body sounds a lot simpler. bodies are easy to understand, people arent.

i know some guys with stupendous bodies and awesome, model like looks, that have had sex ONCE in their lives, or are virgins. on the flipside, my housemate is a young, normal looking guy who actually LISTENS TO WHAT I TELL HIM and last week, he had sex with a bargirl IN THE DAMN BAR

now shush and listen to me. i know what im talking about. i dont want to scare the shit out of you with numbers or stories (because itll depress you or make you think im lying) but just shup, and listen.

 

[Nobledude]

other high value people. they can be attracive, interesting, or importnatnly, female. going to a club with women makes you FAR more attractive to women because for those chicks to be with you, you must be good.

the point is, youll have whatever you want. its up to you (and her)

yes. turning it down demonstrates that youre too valuable to do that cheap shit. itll make her, and other women, want you more. jsut be playful about it. i give em a pat on the bum and say "shoo!"

not really. go and be the guy who picks up all the glasses, then once you have your foot in the door, youll learn to do the rest. the only people who usually get behind the bar are usually female, followed by guys who have worked up to it.

yeah, you would. even one night a weekend would do. youll feel like youre out partying, trust me

i like biteme. i like biteme a lot.

but i would steal bitemes girl from under his nose so fast its not funny.

i know some guys with stupendous bodies and awesome, model like looks, that have had sex ONCE in their lives, or are virgins. on the flipside, my housemate is a young, normal looking guy who actually LISTENS TO WHAT I TELL HIM and last week, he had sex with a bargirl IN THE DAMN BAR

now shush and listen to me. i know what im talking about. i dont want to scare the shit out of you with numbers or stories (because itll depress you or make you think im lying) but just shup, and listen.

damn, you really have time for Healother's tribulations...

 

[vansmack2000]

Last night I was out on the dance floor with one male friend and three female ones. It was like child's play to strike up a conversation with one of the girls dancing around us. You get the eye contact, give them a smile and they smile back and you go.

A wing woman is just about the best way to go

 

[Island Son]

Forget the "talking" stuff, it comes after not before. I think most of the women here have ideals about what they'd like to happen, not what actually works.

If it's a club, it's probably too loud to hear each other. What you need is to be dressed appropriately+1 (blend in, but be slightly better than average), take care of the details (breath/teeth/hair/shoes), and be laid back. Make confident eye contact, if she looks back, then escalate to a smile. When she give you the vibe (sometimes it's a smile, sometimes she's suddenly next to you) then dance with her for a bit, lead her off the floor... separate and kill

oh, and only go after the ones you really want. No woman wants to talk to you if you've been insincerely bouncing around the room.

don't depend on wingmen, just be interested, social, chat with people, introduce them to each other etc. Remember, it's fun!

 

[jh1]

alcohol.....makes wonders...

Alcohol? LOL

Try X, K, and cocaine...