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How Do Homosexuals Feel About Homophobes?

john937 said:


We call 'em Queens, and there's a lot of gay people that don't like them anymore than you do.
Particularly when they effect speech mannerism's like "Miss thing!", "You go girl!".
But we'll put up with them if they give good blow jobs.

The gays that aren't butch are obvious, so you notice them.
The butch gay guy at the next workout station doesn't register a blip on your gaydar screen,
so you assume he's straight.
Most straight people believe they don't know any gay people. That's so mistaken.


This is just SO true. Straights have a stereotype of what a gay person is. The fact is that most of them aren't queens, but the regular Joe you work out next to at the gym, most people immediately assume is straight. They also assume that some guy with a string of pretty girlfriends is also straight.

Most people would laugh if I told them my ex-boyfriend is gay. He has a reputation for being such a ladies man that they wouldn't consider it possible. He's just using these women because he's so closeted. He's not even bisexual.

Most gays put the percentage of the population at 10% but even if it's a conservative 5 percent:
Each gay person has two parents and probably a brother, sister, aunt, uncle, grandfather, grandmother
That means 5%*7 relatives = 35% of the population have a close relative that is gay
not to mention coworkers, neighbors, doctors, barbers...

I'd also have to say, the acting girly is somewhat a regional thing. It's much more prevalent here in Texas than when I lived in California.
Same with drag shows, they're all over the place here in Texas. In California the only people that went to see drag shows were the tourists.

You're so right about the girly thing. Where I live camp is in. When I go to Sydney the guys are much more butch. If people are camp that is fine. I personally have no problem with it. I think others do because they feel threatened by people who don't conform to society's ideas about gender behaviour. Flexed1 pops to mind as an example. You see gays persecute eachother too - although they'll justify it as something else.

There are so many guys who play up the hyper-masculine stereotypes that they think make them "real men". But when feminists question this they get hassled for it. But when it comes to homosexuals, it is the queens, not those who criticise their campness who cop the flak.
 
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GinNJuice said:


Oh, so you didn't do it for the music at all! From what you say, you were in the chours for the sole reason of fighting the political battles of gays. ......

Well, don't come on this site and complain and cry about not being able to sing in San Fransico, just because you were gay... Don't say that you were not allowed to sing....... that's not what you were doing at all! YOUR SOLE PURPOSE WAS TO SHOVE IT DOWN PEOPLES THROAT THAT YOU WERE GAY.... and you were fighting the political battle.

Now you won't support another group of gays just because they want to sing instead of making a political statement! That is pretty damn sad.:rolleyes: That seems like gay discrimination to me.

I was hoping you would respond in the way that you did:D It shows what kind of person you really are.

I'm out for the day.... So, John, come up with some lame excuse and I'll read it tomorrow.
 


Oh, so you didn't do it for the music at all! From what you say, you were in the chours for the sole reason of fighting the political battles of gays. ......

No, we just wanted to sing and have a concert.
In order to have that concert we had to do battle.
20 years later the gays of SF no longer have to do that battle, and that's progress in my eyes, but it's not why we had a chorus.
We had a chorus to enrich our COMMUNITY, again it's all about making a sense of COMMUNITY!


Now you won't support another group of gays just because they want to sing instead of making a political statement!

I've already said I respect their singing ability and wish them well.
I'm just pointing out that the Texas Gay COMMUNITY has not benefited the way the SF community has.
 
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GinNJuice said:


LOL....

.... Do you get where I'm going with this? You weren't having sex on stage, and you weren't singing about gay issues, so it doesn't seem appropriate to add "Gay" in your title...

Unless, you agree with Hans that it was "a social organistion for people to mix with their own type"..... is that the case?

Oh brother. Are you really this clueless?

Here is the way it works. The dominant culture oppresses and marginalizes minority populations by disempowering them. It does this through a variety of means. It uses explicit means -- like poll taxes and formal segregation with black people, disenfranchising women, making it illegal for gay people to even assemble, much less have sex with one another.

But it operates more subtely too. The dom culture eliminates the history of the group from its official record. Thus, until 40 years ago, you could not pick up a text book and find any significant mention of black people who made any important contribution to American culture. Ditto for women. Now you can't find any mention of gay people who made significant contributions. Indeed, the gay rights struggle, an important social movement in America, isn't even taught.

Of course, members of the dom culture argue -- just as they are here -- that there should be no "special" history, no special mention of the contributions of these minorities because, after all, we are all Americans. Ironically, though, by the very effort of marginalizing populations -- by forcing them into ghettoes and closets -- the dom culture actually sows the seeds of alternative cultures. By not admitting them to the main culture, they invite the formation of rebellious alternative cultures.

The dilemma of the minority member then becomes, as a person denied access to the privileges of the dom culture, to find his identity within his group. This means uncovering the heritage that is the source of his or her oppression. For black people, it meant penetrating the wall of slavery -- to confront the fact that they were brought here illegally and to rediscover their origins, which are quite different from that of the nation's white religious settlers. For women, in the '60s, it meant penetrating the wall of partriarchal domination of the body -- of finding ownership and autonomy in their own bodies. For gay people, it meant penetrating the wall of the closet, likewise claiming ownership of the body's erotic desire.

In this effort, we came together and created explosive alternative cultures. The idea of black or gay pride is necessitated by the generations-long effort by the dominant culture not merely to oppress but to disappear minorities behind the phony argument of assimilation -- even as they are denied equality. This lives today in don't ask/don't tell. GEt back in the closet. And what has the result been? A radical increase in discharges for homosexuality. Scratch an assimilationist and you'll find a segregationist trying to look polite.

Most of you are far too young to have any idea of what it was like to have grown up being told you are second-rate, to have no legal right to love whom you choose, to be threatened with imprisonment just for going to a bar and drinking with people like yourself, to be subject to court committal to a state mental hospital because you love members of your own gender, to live continually under the threat of violence, to have to hide the fundamental facts of your life from your own family. Sounds lke a totalitarian state, doesn't it? Well, for gay people it was -- as it was for black people until the '60s.

So, try to imagine what it was like if you were 20 years old, from a world where gay people weren't even allowed to assemble, and you land in San Francisco and you see several hundred men defying stupid laws by standing up and singing, identifying themselves openly as gay. Imagine what it was like for those of us who wanted to be writers but had been told we could never write about our own lives. So we founded our own magazines because the mainstream wouldn't publish us. It was earth-shattering for us.

You don't understand this because you have utterly NO sense of what it is like to be pursued, oppressed and hated in America. It is grotesque trivialization and completely ignorant of the actual status of gay people in America -- read your own words, for god's sake -- to say that a gay cultural identity is not necessary. You don't offer participation in the mainstream. You offer at best tolerance as long as we disappear the things that make us different.

To deny the development of alternative cultures makes as much sense as saying that the relgiously persecuted had no right to establish a separate culture over 200 years ago -- namely the United States of America.
 
PURE EXTRACT said:
I have a good question...why is that most gay people (and I know many) act more like women than most women do? It wouldn't bother me so much if they didn’t act so...girly. I mean it's like the ones I know are so damn feminine, and it's not because I KNOW they're gay, it's because they try so hard to act like a woman...it's kind of annoying.

How come you know so many gay people?
 
john937 said:


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BTW - yes I'm in there, the only pic I've posted on EF.
I'm right of center, 3rd row from the top.
The fuzzy one.


You look great, John. :D
 
Most of you are far too young to have any idea of what it was like to have grown up being told you are second-rate, to have no legal right to love whom you choose, to be threatened with imprisonment just for going to a bar and drinking with people like yourself, to be subject to court committal to a state mental hospital because you love members of your own gender, to live continually under the threat of violence, to have to hide the fundamental facts of your life from your own family. Sounds lke a totalitarian state, doesn't it? Well, for gay people it was -- as it was for black people until the '60s.

So, try to imagine what it was like if you were 20 years old, from a world where gay people weren't even allowed to assemble, and you land in San Francisco and you see several hundred men defying stupid laws by standing up and singing, identifying themselves openly as gay. Imagine what it was like for those of us who wanted to be writers but had been told we could never write about our own lives. So we founded our own magazines because the mainstream wouldn't publish us. It was earth-shattering for us.



"Miss thing! You go girl!" :D

You look great, John.

I guess you can see my biceps were particularly pumped that day!

Anyway, I'm outta here. See ya'll tuhmarrow.
 
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[QUOTEOriginally posted by PURE EXTRACT
I have a good question...why is that most gay people (and I know many) act more like women than most women do? It wouldn't bother me so much if they didn’t act so...girly. I mean it's like the ones I know are so damn feminine, and it's not because I KNOW they're gay, it's because they try so hard to act like a woman...it's kind of annoying. [/QUOTE]


OK, well if you take the 1 in 10 statistic for the number of gay people and then compare that to the number of queens you meet, then doesn't that put things into perspective? I don't meet that many queeny men in my daily life, yet 1 in 10 people around me is a lot of people.

In any case ask yourself why are you annoyed by queeny guys? We are brought up with quite strong ideas about how a man behaves and how a woman behaves. So when people come across butch lesbians or camp men who violate these ideas of how they are "supposed" to behave then it bugs people and is a threat to some of them.

At the end of the day why does it matter if someone is camp? Who are they hurting? No one.
 
God almighty!!! If it is that fucking bad to be gay... put your pp in a vagina. It feels fine.

ask somebody.
 
flexed1 said:
Those of you who know me know I am gay. That said I guess I would be called a homophobe. Reason is simple any gays whom walk around like girls, act like girls, and who walk around and let others think thta all gays are like this I stay clear away from and even make fun of.

I am 100% man the only difference is i prefer to sleep with a man. My other half like me avoids parades ( why do we need a fucking parade) flags, and flaunting. People respect me for being a person and when they get to know me for being a cool gay guy they can joke with.

Yes, I am a homephobe as I don't want what others see on television to represent me. Its maybe about time thta folks like me who have normal relationships and beleive in equal rights for everyone and who offer a different view of gays steps foward so that most folks don't think gays just wear dresses and spread aids. I am monagamus and happy being so and I also voted proudly for Bush.

Agreed. Keep your preferences to yourself and everything should be ok.
 
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