Have you ever dropped a relationship

[Frisky]

well once you have been burned you dont want to touch the fire again. its completely understandible. i dont think its a matter of wanting to be alone, its the hidden fear of getting burned again. i agree you will have to completely and truely trust the person to let them in. were not young anymore and foolish to jump into any relationship that comes along. with time comes experience. sometimes we get to clouded by the fact that their may never be a perfect someone out there. the trick is finding that perfect someone that is perfect to you.

I've NEVER been burned in a relationship. I can honestly say the of the two that meant anything, I ended one and the other ended mutally. Sure it was hard but 'burned' I don't consider that burned.

I was never that high school chick that cried all day cause her and her boyfriend broke up... I was more of the one that was out that weekend hanging out with him and his new girlfriend. Never bothered me one bit.

Most of my relationships ended with me telling them goodbye or with us slowly and eventually not seeing each other (mostly with the ones i'd only had a few dates with)

Thats why I don't really understand my run reason when 'maybe' he's a good guy.

 

[StickFigure]

It's called being self destructive. There isn't a single person out there that can say that they have never hesitated, had second thoughts, got cold feet, questioned their motive, wondered if they made the right choice, or whatever. It's human. But you have to be willing to move forward, move past those thoughts and even take a chance, be willing to risk a little. If your not willing to do that, you choose to shut people out of your life and yes, you will end up old and alone.

 

[Frisky]

It's called being self destructive. There isn't a single person out there that can say that they have never hesitated, had second thoughts, got cold feet, questioned their motive, wondered if they made the right choice, or whatever. It's human. But you have to be willing to move forward, move past those thoughts and even take a chance, be willing to risk a little. If your not willing to do that, you choose to shut people out of your life and yes, you will end up old and alone.

I have my dog, and she loves me unconditionally. She even gets all excited when I get home everyday even though I don't have supper cooked

 

[H_T_]

cuz you're psycho.

 

[nycgirl]

It's called being self destructive. There isn't a single person out there that can say that they have never hesitated, had second thoughts, got cold feet, questioned their motive, wondered if they made the right choice, or whatever. It's human. But you have to be willing to move forward, move past those thoughts and even take a chance, be willing to risk a little. If your not willing to do that, you choose to shut people out of your life and yes, you will end up old and alone.

Well Said.

Relationships are not meant to last. Some end in 3 days, some end in 3 weeks, others end at death. A real connection can happen with someone you only know for a brief amount of time. That said, sometimes people are not meant to be with each other. Shit happens.

There's a difference between an instinct (i.e., you feel that person is lying, or something isn't right) and being afraid to be with someone out of fear of getting hurt or not being able to give yourself to that person. If the reason why someone is dropping a relationship is because they are not comfortable (with him/herself or people, in general) or its because they are afraid, then its time to be alone for awhile.

 

[Frisky]

cuz you're psycho.

Tell me something I don't know

 

[bigmann245]

I have my dog, and she loves me unconditionally. She even gets all excited when I get home everyday even though I don't have supper cooked

i never made my wife cook..... ever.... and i got excited when she came home also. believe me, we are out there, just keep looking and not pushing away.

 

[EnderJE]

Yep. Been there. Did that. Except we didn't break up "officially". I just stopped seeing her.

Then after I'm married with kids, I run into that psycho again and realize that she assumed that we were still dating. Hello? It's been more then five years!

 

[H_T_]

Tell me something I don't know

that your reality is based on fantasy.

 

[Frisky]

Well Said.

Relationships are not meant to last. Some end in 3 days, some end in 3 weeks, others end at death. A real connection can happen with someone you only know for a brief amount of time. That said, sometimes people are not meant to be with each other. Shit happens.

There's a difference between an instinct (i.e., you feel that person is lying, or something isn't right) and being afraid to be with someone out of fear of getting hurt or not being able to give yourself to that person. If the reason why someone is dropping a relationship is because they are not comfortable (with him/herself or people, in general) or its because they are afraid, then its time to be alone for awhile.

But is it right to base a break up on instincts? If its just a feeling that you have, is it ok to confront him/her with it? I myself hated when my X would concoct something in his mind and come to me with it.

Not saying that the other reason is good either, cause either way.. the way I view relationships is fucked up.