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pitbullstl said:......................and back to the original topic.
Unlike Chef, and Frisky (not placing blame or flaming in any way)....I am still married to the mother of my children. She and my kids share an equal standing in the schematics of my priorities..
My kids and wife are the single most important things in my world, none moreso than the other. If you decide to pick sides (children vs. spouse) at some point one or the other............or both will resent you like no other.
wutangnomo said:Exactly. Some people make wrong decisions, which may take many years to realize or rear its ugly head down the road. This does not mean they don't try hard enough or are not commmited enough, which is what you were saying with your earlier post.
wutangnomo said:How am I doing my parent's a disservice by saying it's luck? They were arranged. That means they did not know one another before they were wed. You're telling me that's not luck? Of course it is. Luck does not take away from my parent's hard work and commitment. You're saying that "hard fucking work" and "commitment" will supercede any road bumps and incompatibilities between a married couple, which is not always the case. If your husband should cheat on you, become abusive, etc etc amongst who knows what else (always possible), do you think hard work and commitment will resolve all those problems? Fact is many couples go through all this and it just isn't enough. Come back to me when you're 40 or 45 and we'll see.
Yeah I rule LOL But seriously some really great replies here I knew if we tried hard enough we could still have intelligant topics on C & C.PBR said:some really great posts here...QT caused quite a stir....
you were very successful , and nobody got bombed!!!!! imagine that, in the midst of a heated and debatable subject no less, and no loss of life....maybe there's hope.superqt4u2nv said:Yeah I rule LOL But seriously some really great replies here I knew if we tried hard enough we could still have intelligant topics on C & C.
I believe luck is an element, but only at the beginning. As in my case, it was pure luck that we met with each other and started dating. We'd both had partners who were, on the surface, better fits.. We honestly didn't know each other well enough to say we loved each other. I think we were just in love with an ideal, & we made it work.PBR said:some really great posts here...QT caused quite a stir...I lead my life from a spiritual perspective, i dont believe in fate, luck or a draw from the hat. I believe relationships go much deeper than what most described here...Doctrines , rules , labels, religions, judgements all have one thing in common- they change, they fail, they are temporary...love is everlasting no matter what position its in.
Dude, I knew from your avatar that you were cool, but, I have to say that was one of the most concisely intelligent posts I have ever seen. Very true words. Thank you.PBR said:you cannot get a man or a woman to make a commitment.
Commitment is an internal act. The ability to make a commitment is something we grow up to. its a developmental point, a willingness to be an adult. it is the ability to choose to direct ones life...
It happens inside.
some really great posts here...QT caused quite a stir...I lead my life from a spiritual perspective, i dont believe in fate, luck or a draw from the hat. I believe relationships go much deeper than what most described here...Doctrines , rules , labels, religions, judgements all have one thing in common- they change, they fail, they are temporary...love is everlasting no matter what position its in.