typically a spotter doesn't have to put forth that much effort to help the lifter, even with big weights... unless, of course, that lifter has gone considerably past failure and begins to have the spotter do the majority of the work...
i disagree with the statement "a spot can be a crutch", i mean i think this is where you would see the gains. When your on that last rep with a spotter you are pushing really hard and really taxing your chest and tris. If there was no spotter you wouldn't be able to do that last rep, and i think thats where the gains come from.
well really that last rep is the failure rep, its when the bar is about 3-5lbs too heavy and thats what the spotter picks up. But, thats just the way i see it, i tried to think it out logically, what made sense to me.
I dont think I need to re-think the weight I use(I dont use much anyway), it is simply that my 125 pound GF cannot help much with pulling up 225 pounds.B]
She's not supposed to help much. When I spot someone, the most I want to help them is with the tips of my index fingers, and vice versa. I hate when someone tries to pull the weight up for me. Forced reps are better done by yourself, my man. But dude, if you're really that paranoid about her, grab a better spotter.
Pretty much....you dont want the bar to hit the pins on the way down. You want them set just below where the bar hits your sternum. Then you can just let out your air...and the pins will catch the bar.