Couples Counseling

[blueta2]

if a dude punches you and you stay with him, you need your fucking head examined...and i mean that in the most respectful way...

Yes some time in therapy and 4 years in Al Anon followed.
A man never hit me before and then something happened to me and I weakened and decided to get into a relationSHIT with that abuser.

I would never be with anyone like that again...


But I now understand why woman stay with abusers...so I don't judge anymore

 

[digimon7068]

Yes some time in therapy and 4 years in Al Anon followed.
A man never hit me before and then something happened to me and I weakened and decided to get into a relationSHIT with that abuser.

I would never be with anyone like that again...


But I now understand why woman stay with abusers...so I don't judge anymore

why do they? i don't get that either. every relationship has it's highs and lows and if you really care about the other person, you work your way through it. but, you never accept even the slightest physical abuse...even a threat of it...you walk away and don't look back...this isn't asscrackistan or one of those fucked up countries where women are property.

 

[blueta2]

It's not that easy....the dynamic of codependency is created in these sort of situations. If it were easy, all abused people would leave. He didn't start off abusive, but his mental abuse was so subtle, it almost felt surreal

 

[digimon7068]

It's not that easy....the dynamic of codependency is created in these sort of situations. If it were easy, all abused people would leave. He didn't start off abusive, but his mental abuse was so subtle, it almost felt surreal

it's a mental illness...they're never easy.

 

[caligirl85]

i'm trying to make sense out of that situation (if that is in fact their situation)...i've noticed it a lot lately...it really blows my mind when the kids are little girls and mom abandons them with dad...it's like there are some genes missing or something...i know that part of being a good mom/parent is learned behavior, but part of it is also genetic imho, especially for moms...the whole animal world is that way and we are animals too.

he's being honest (i believe) and they are in counseling...this subject must have come up...and if it didn't, it should...at the next meeting. mom's aren't supposed to do shit like that...and she needs to face that reality and then figure out if she even has what it takes to be a good mom. of course, this is all just my opinion and i have nothing scientific to base it on.

even if they were just getting busy at lunch time...most working mom's use part of their lunch break to call the care-giver and see how the kids are doing.

Digi...I have some more thoughts and will write them out later since I'm on my cell in a parking lot waiting for my kid. Perhaps a different perspective from both my own life and from my career. I will add I have had to work full time since my son was 6 months old and initially you may call the caregiver but not very often. They tend to find it annoying. Stay tuned...but let me ask you..if she was a single parent, would you have the same feelings about a lunch time rendezvous?

 

[digimon7068]

Digi...I have some more thoughts and will write them out later since I'm on my cell in a parking lot waiting for my kid. Perhaps a different perspective from both my own life and from my career. I will add I have had to work full time since my son was 6 months old and initially you may call the caregiver but not very often. They tend to find it annoying. Stay tuned...but let me ask you..if she was a single parent, would you have the same feelings about a lunch time rendezvous?

i don't have any particular feelings about her...but i get your point...touche.

if she had been banging the cap'n at lunchtime? i'd definitely feel different about that.

 

[wootoom]

I got the hangover hornys so bad..I want to fuck my gf right in the pussy

 

[digimon7068]

I got the hangover hornys so bad..I want to fuck my gf right in the pussy

i'm always horny as hell when i'm hungover too.

stress also makes me horny.

 

[-SD-]

I got the hangover hornys so bad..I want to fuck my gf right in the pussy

hahahahahahahaha fuck im dying over that

 

[bigbassturd]

Bro you know I love you but you're being a gotdam idiot. That fuckn hor would still be slobbing that prius fgts dick if it was up to her. She would have never told you if he hadn't said shit and you fuckin know it, no matter what you lie and tell yourself.

She hasn't given a fuck about your or your marriage for 4 years and god knows how much longer or how many others there would be if prius fgt didn't tell you. She would NEVER have told you. Period.

Get the fuck out of there while you can. Don't stay for the kids, you aren't married to them and they aren't married to her. I got full custody of my daughter and her hoar mother gets to fuck off while I live happy with someone who actually gives a shit about me.

Stop listening to that jackass fuckin theRapist who tells you it's normal to cheat. It's not. It's normal to have enough nuts to bring up your problems with the person you have them with and either resolve them or move on.

Bringing another person into the relationship should be totally out of the question.

Fuck that nasty cheating bitch, you KNOW deep down she would have kept it up if it weren't for prius fgt getting his wife preg and moving on.

Call that fucker and ask him what motivated him to tell you. I can almost promise you'll get a different story than the hoar is telling.

Oh, btw, beat his prius fgt ass for dicking your wife down and more importantly for driving a prius.