Couples Counseling

[digimon7068]

My ex was swearing on his kids heads he was not cheating...we were in couples therapy, AA couples groups and he was telling anyone who would listen that I Was "crazy" for accusing him.
Well I finally caught him, he laughed in my face and I asked him to leave. I never took him back. Cheating was my deal breaker. Though when he punched me, that should have been the deal breaker.
Now there is scum like my ex who are just chronic liars and cheaters then there are people who make mistakes. If you feel she is a chronic cheater, then you will never have peace.
This mistrust eats you like cancer. If she just messed up and you feel she is not chronic, then maybe it can work.

I sympathize and relate and sorry you have to go through this. It's SO painful!!! This is why I stay single. I was with a guy all summer who I've known since HS and we work we've worked out together at the gym for years....we started to date, he was "falling" and then I found out he used to scam seniors in a telemarketing scam. I ended it! Hard to trust and find good people.

if a dude punches you and you stay with him, you need your fucking head examined...and i mean that in the most respectful way...

 

[Captain FT]

so all this stuff took place at lunch time or there were times when she took time (e.g., in the evening) that she should have been spending with her kids to play hide-the-salami with her co-worker?

This all took place during the day at work.

 

[digimon7068]

This all took place during the day at work.

is she a good mom?

 

[Captain FT]

even if they were just getting busy at lunch time...most working mom's use part of their lunch break to call the care-giver and see how the kids are doing.

The caregiver was her mom so we weren't really worried about how the kids were doing during the day.

 

[Captain FT]

is she a good mom?

Yes she is a good mom outside of not thinking about the kids and how everyone's life would be impacted if I ever found out about the affair and wanted to split. She's lucky I'm a very loving and forgiving man.

 

[digimon7068]

The caregiver was her mom so we weren't really worried about how the kids were doing during the day.

but "mommy" still calls home...they can't help themselves...they're ALWAYS worried when their kids aren't in the same room with them.

 

[Captain FT]

Yeah they would pretty much talk every day too so she did that.

 

[nangiggles]

Wtf digi so once a woman becomes a mother they no longer have needs, wants, desire for a bit of "me" time and they have to spend every living breathing moment with their kids or they are bad mothers?

So glad my uterus is in mint condition.

 

[digimon7068]

Wtf digi so once a woman becomes a mother they no longer have needs, wants, desire for a bit of "me" time and they have to spend every living breathing moment with their kids or they are bad mothers?

So glad my uterus is in mint condition.

you're adding words and thoughts to my sentences that i neither uttered nor inferred.

when you have kids you (both parents) set all sorts of "personal" stuff aside...you don't turn it off...it just takes a backseat...if you're not prepared to do that? don't have kids because you'll be a really shitty parent and your kids will be assholes...that's the number one problem in the u.s. right now. you know that as well as anyone...that's what you do for a living, right? hell, if it wasn't for shitty parents, you'd need to look for a new job.

also, i never said anyone had to do anything...i'm just telling you what i have observed...there is a certain pattern of behavior that all good/successful parents seem to follow...and moms are different than dads (women are different than men)...this isn't like a newsflash for you, right??

 

[sexyMFer]

Not if she's cooking supper or waiting naked in bed