cheated on my diet!! =( freaking out! encouragement plz!?

[believeNme]

Hey guys..... I've been doing pretty good with my diet. (even though i haven't been eating enough during the day). I end up eating a little too much at night but it's not "bad" food. Anyhow, i struggle with bulimia, and ate alot of almonds and fatty salad dressing last night at dinner and made myself get sick. I was really mad at myself. Then this morning (after last night) i felt so crappy i decided to take my one day a week off from the gym. And every time i do that i find it very tempting to eat bad. Weird. SO i did good all day, but ate at Macarroni grill tonight and had whole wheat pasta with a rich sauce, bread, and a glass of wine. I didn't over eat but stilll felt guilty. Then at starbucks had a chocolate chip cookie. I feel like i'll never reach my goals if i do this. I know this is long.... sorry. I just really could use some encouragement or tips to deal with these behaviors. Also, i've hurt both of my feet (planter stitualitos) sp? and can barely do cardio but force myself to do it an hour a day. Any help on the most effective cardio with low impact on my feet would help too! I know this is long, but i had to get this OUT!!! THanks for listening! =)

 

[tommymac]

probably best to schedule in some cheat meals like 1 or 2 a week maybe weekend lunches would be good so you dont feel guilty

im guessing your that endomorph bodytype

i pretty much never go over 15% bf luckily for me cause i cant

also what you ate sounded like as healthy as i get lol ...

my cheat meals are more like 2 whole family pizzas and a 6 pack of beer

 

[believeNme]

=))) That sounds equally delish!! I can't remeber what endo/ecto morph's look like. But in fruit terms im a "pear". I don't weigh myself because (when i go to the atlanta center for eating disorders they weigh us without telling us the #) it freaks me out. But im guessing im about 140-145? 5'4". Nice shape, great muscle tone, just GOT to get my diet tight to see my hard work! I have 3 weeks till my little brothers wedding and i wanna look good enough that i might find my own soulmate there Also... how much wine can i drink on tha weekend? one or 2 glasses? How does that affect progress?

 

[jenscats5]

There's no reason why you can't enjoy a cheat meal 1x a week if you're not competing. And, IMO, you did it the right way by going out to eat & having a great meal - just pick up the next day where you left off..

 

[believeNme]

Thanks Jenscat =) Your right. Im just one of those intensly extreme people. And when i "mess up" i either want to starve myself or fall off the path all together. Its just frusterating. I didn't have ONE SWEET for a year and a half at one point. And i was eating 1,400K a day the whole time and keeping my cardio way up. I got REALLY skinny, and in my TWISTED mind i felt good. Knew i didn't look good but felt in control. For the last year however it's been a constant struggle!!!

 

[kimchee411]

If you wake up feeling guilty about a previous day's cheating, just remember, it's a new day, and it's going to be different. What's done is done, and nothing's going to change that -- just let it go and move forward.

It's hard to say what keeps one on track; everybody's different. Personally, I think keeping a blog of the specifics of my diet and training that's updated everyday has helped me tremendously. At first it was like, "I don't want to embarass myself to the world by having to write how I already fell off the wagon," but now I just eat this way by force of habit, and I've realized that this isn't just "a diet", it's "my diet". Once my cutting cycle is done, I'm still going to eat the same foods, just a lot more to bulk up. And when I look at food now, I don't see flavors so much as I see nutrients. Reading people's positive comments about my dedication and how I look has also been a big motivator for me

It's just a matter of finding out what will keep you going for a while so that you build good HABITS. Everyone has their cheat days, but if you're really used to good eating habits, then you shouldn't even think twice, much less come down on yourself, before you get back on track. Having a positive attitude is everything.

Oh, and spending a lot of time reading these boards has been a big motivator for me too

To be honest, I'll be worried the day that I absolutely REFUSE to cheat ever again; it just means that there's something terribly wrong with my mentality and attitude towards body image. I am doing this because being healthy and looking good is a positive thing; not because being fat is a sin! Besides, I think good food is one of life's greatest pleasures, not to mention the fact that it's a big part of social interaction. Some culinary creations are so beautiful and pleasing to the pallate they really are art! (And I'm not just talking about fancy, expensive food!) Everyone should enjoy great tasting foods from time to time, but like anything, it's all about self-control. I really feel sorry for those who can't appreciate fine cuisine.

Good luck!

 

[believeNme]

thanks so much for the reply kimchee =) it's so nice to hear your encouragemant =) I've been doing good this week so far....It feels good! MODERATION is an ugly word for me because its my greatest challenge in life...but im always striving for it. How long has it taken you to start looking at food as nutrients? It seems like forever for me! =)

 

[nikkita]

Don't be hard on yourself! enjoy having a cheat day a week have fun!
for not feeling guilty just try to eat your daily protein requirement, do not lower it, it can be with food or protein shakes.

 

[believeNme]

thanks nikkita =)....out of curiosity, what does keeping my protein up on the cheat days help?

 

[Lifterforlife]

Keep this in mind, each meal is an entity in itself. If you found yourself "cheating" on the last meal, nothing you can really do to "fix" it. Just continue on, use it as a stepping stone and realize your shortcomings. Learn from it.

On another note, don't be too hard on yourself. This will lead to unnatural things to try to "fix" it like skipping the next meal, etc. You cannot fix it in this way, as mentioned each meal is an entitiy in itself and your body still needs to be fed and nourished. Just get right back in the saddle.