breaking up

[TheOak84]

if ur thinking about splitting up, does that mean u should? its not that i dont love her anymore, but im about to start school, which i have to work to pay for, and lift weights which i wont stop for anyone, not even God himself. i wont have time for alot of petty things she likes. like phone calls and her hanging out and trying to keep me up. for the next few months im not gonna be partying on the week ends, just school and work and eating and sleeping. so what should i do? i really wanna focus on myself, and i know she wont understand that, cuz shes immature. maybe we can 'take a break' or some shit.

any comments?

 

[TheOak84]

no one has advice on breaking up?

 

[coverguy]

Just because you're thinking about it doesn't mean you should do it. You should take some time and analyze the situation. In many cases, i feel, if you're thinking about it you'll come up with other reasons to support it.

 

[PBR]

Oak, you have pretty much already made up your mind....your statement is very direct...you seem to know what is going to take place and are "a matter of fact" about it...in this case- if the effort cannot/ will not, be put into place, then a break-up is a wise choice....I think this way also, it will show respect to both of you and free one another up to continue life without getting into a situation that will lead inevitabley to dispair....its like a band-aid...pull it off quick, or take it off slow- either way, its gonna sting- how long is up to you....

 

[HdanSjr]

I agree with PBR...seems like your mind is made up...my 2 cents though, don't stay in a situation where you start asking those types of questions and having thoughts about breaking up or just "taking a break" Those thoughts will wear you down...i've been there.

 

[StickFigure]

Oak, you have pretty much already made up your mind....your statement is very direct...you seem to know what is going to take place and are "a matter of fact" about it...in this case- if the effort cannot/ will not, be put into place, then a break-up is a wise choice....I think this way also, it will show respect to both of you and free one another up to continue life without getting into a situation that will lead inevitabley to dispair....its like a band-aid...pull it off quick, or take it off slow- either way, its gonna sting- how long is up to you....

DITTO!!

 

[TRUEsoldier]

if ur thinking about splitting up, does that mean u should? its not that i dont love her anymore, but im about to start school, which i have to work to pay for, and lift weights which i wont stop for anyone, not even God himself. i wont have time for alot of petty things she likes. like phone calls and her hanging out and trying to keep me up. for the next few months im not gonna be partying on the week ends, just school and work and eating and sleeping. so what should i do? i really wanna focus on myself, and i know she wont understand that, cuz shes immature. maybe we can 'take a break' or some shit.

any comments?

Bro, do what makes you happy! and if she is not in the picture that you are painting that makes you happy, then you should split! and as I always say, "she'll get over it"

Peace

 

[The Red Dragon]

Your tone indicates that you want to break it off, seems like you want confirmation . I could be wrong. Go for it if it makes you happy. You are the most important person in your life anyhow, I wouldn't hold myself back cuz of a girlfriend...You're stuck with yourself permanently, girlfriends come and go.

 

[Austin316]

just grin and bear it, do it. Man, Im having a kid soon, wasn't ready for it but Ive accepted it, and Im happy about it, but Ive had those college years, Ive partied on the weekends, Ive had a lot of single time, Im still young, but heck least I did do all that, now Im starting to focos on my future and being a dad, and hoping her pregnancy is ok, and being there for her as well. You got nothing holding you back right now but yourself, don't do her the disrespect of keeping her around if its something you really don't want at this point in your life, what you want is to be a care free college kid who can do what he wants and answer to nobody, and thats perfectly OK. Just be honest, do it, its gonna hurt her, but she will move on, shit happens, life happens, just gotta deal