What's up with girls that hang out with their ex-boyfriends?

[Raina]

I would NEVER expect my partner to tolerate that. lol When I make decisions about what I'm going to do I try to think of how I would feel if my partner was doing the same thing. I wouldn't approve. I'm not that stupid.

I think you know when a guy really is just a friend to a girl when he wants to know her significant other and winds up being friends with her SO and hanging out with him. If a guy is friends with a girl and won't hang out with her and her SO, his interest isn't in friendship.

 

[Mr. Black]

Most girls are clueless to men's intentions. ".

Yep, We are very sneaky in nature...

 

[KillahBee]

Yep, We are very sneaky in nature...

the way I see it - the girls are just oblivious. they also don't want to admit to themselves that the reason this guy is being so nice to them and listening to them blab on and on is because he knows it will get him in the panties. it's demoralizing to them, especially if they are naturally insecure

 

[Hiatussin]

I would NEVER expect my partner to tolerate that. lol When I make decisions about what I'm going to do I try to think of how I would feel if my partner was doing the same thing. I wouldn't approve. I'm not that stupid.

I think you know when a guy really is just a friend to a girl when he wants to know her significant other and winds up being friends with her SO and hanging out with him. If a guy is friends with a girl and won't hang out with her and her SO, his interest isn't in friendship.

You´re underestimating how sneaky and how deperate some people are.

 

[Hiatussin]

the way I see it - the girls are just oblivious. they also don't want to admit to themselves that the reason this guy is being so nice to them and listening to them blab on and on is because he knows it will get him in the panties. it's demoralizing to them, especially if they are naturally insecure

I honestly can´t recall a single time in my life that I was really trying to make a good impression or be specifically nice to a girl for any reason than that I found her attractive.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

I had an ex that I hung out with because he fed my ego. I'm a bitch, I know it. I had been leveled by another guy and my ex thought the sun rose and set on me. It was a much needed ego/self-esteem/self-confidence boost. It felt good to know that I still had "something" and that there was someone else out there who still thought I was great, even if the other guy had shit all over me. Figuratively speaking of course

 

[Hiatussin]

I had an ex that I hung out with because he fed my ego. I'm a bitch, I know it. I had been leveled by another guy and my ex thought the sun rose and set on me. It was a much needed ego/self-esteem/self-confidence boost. It felt good to know that I still had "something" and that there was someone else out there who still thought I was great, even if the other guy had shit all over me. Figuratively speaking of course

Were you conscious of this at the time? did you actually call him to meet up, thinking, I need it to feel better about myself?

I think your behaviour was both pathetic and cruel btw

 

[EnderJE]

I had an ex that I hung out with because he fed my ego. I'm a bitch, I know it. I had been leveled by another guy and my ex thought the sun rose and set on me. It was a much needed ego/self-esteem/self-confidence boost. It felt good to know that I still had "something" and that there was someone else out there who still thought I was great, even if the other guy had shit all over me. Figuratively speaking of course

And then you fucked him and moved on?

 

[Beachboy6294]

I would NEVER expect my partner to tolerate that. lol When I make decisions about what I'm going to do I try to think of how I would feel if my partner was doing the same thing. I wouldn't approve. I'm not that stupid.

I think you know when a guy really is just a friend to a girl when he wants to know her significant other and winds up being friends with her SO and hanging out with him. If a guy is friends with a girl and won't hang out with her and her SO, his interest isn't in friendship.

I have no problem with being just friends with some girls but it really sucks to really like a girl and fall into the friends category!! I learned my leason about that when I was younger. As for being friends with an ex only after at least a year or more apart so time can heal things.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Were you conscious of this at the time? did you actually call him to meet up, thinking, I need it to feel better about myself?

I think your behaviour was both pathetic and cruel btw

Think what you will, doesn't bother me.

But no, it wasn't a conscious decision. I didn't realize it until later and yes, I felt bad about it after the fact. To be honest, it was a therapist who pointed it out to me several years later. Despite the impression, I am not a cold heartless bitch. I just play one on TV