What's up with girls that hang out with their ex-boyfriends?

[Raina]

the way I see it - the girls are just oblivious. they also don't want to admit to themselves that the reason this guy is being so nice to them and listening to them blab on and on is because he knows it will get him in the panties.

Exactly. They're lying to themselves because they need that backup plan around. Goes back to games. Total waste of time.

And QT- I don't agree with you. If I wanted to go hang out with an ex all the time and used the "don't you trust me" guilt trip card that would be wrong. At least for me. It's not an issue of trust it's an issue of respect. It comes down to respecting your partner and putting your relationship first even if it means some "sacrifice".

 

[*MissFit*]

I hung out with an ex.. once.. and thought he wanted to be my friend..

NOpe.. he wanted sex..

In most instances i gotta agree with the boys.. once you have that chemistry..it's hard to go past it..

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Exactly. They're lying to themselves because they need that backup plan around. Goes back to games. Total waste of time.

And QT- I don't agree with you. If I wanted to go hang out with an ex all the time and used the "don't you trust me" guilt trip card that would be wrong. At least for me. It's not an issue of trust it's an issue of respect. It comes down to respecting your partner and putting your relationship first even if it means some "sacrifice".

I have no desire to get back with my ex and he is not a back up plan. My ex’s that I am good friends with went out ages ago 3 years is a lot of time and distance from those romantic feelings. The other guys that is an ex and also a good friend we went out in HS. People evolve I am different person then I was with either of those guys. I know why those relationships didn’t work and still don’t think they ever would. He is a friend plain and simple. You can use that logic of all guys want to bang every chick so then no guy is ever really nice to you he just wants to get laid. Also BS IMO I am lucky to hold several men as some of my best friends one or two happen to be guys that I once had a relationship with many moons ago so what. I am extremely loyal when I am with someone I am with them any man that gets involved in a relationship with me knows that about me. It would not bother me in the least bit if my man happened to be friends with an ex gf. Respect for your partner means a lot of different things to different people, to me that is loyalty your with them tell the official end of the relationship.

 

[Raina]

99% of my friends are male but we've never dated. Nor have things ever been flirty or anything else with them ever. That makes me uncomfy. If someone acts like that with me, I won't spend time with them.

I suppose it's a to each his/her own situation. I would never choose to hang out with someone if I knew that it would cause my parter 2 minutes of discomfort. I'd hope to get the same respect.

Thankfully almost everyone I've ever dated lives out of state now. I never have to see them. I am in contact with 1 guy from my past. We were friends for years before we briefly dated. He lives in KY now with his wife. We talk every 6 months or so just to check in. That's the extent of it.

 

[alien amp pharm]

I hang out with an exGF all the time. Sometimes guys get pissed when she dates them but who cares. I don't want to pork her what-so-ever but I can't say she feels the same.

Damn I am such a stud.

 

[*MissFit*]

I dunno..for the most part men in general don't just want to be my friend.. whether it be an ex or just a guy in general.

I think though it might be how one is.. i think some women have a lot of sex apeal whereas others are more like one of the guys..

I could be wrong.. maybe canadian guys r just pigs

 

[rnch]

ah sex, I guess I answered my own question.

"ex-sex" is the best sex!

 

[Hiatussin]

I dunno..for the most part men in general don't just want to be my friend.. whether it be an ex or just a guy in general.

I think though it might be how one is.. i think some women have a lot of sex apeal whereas others are more like one of the guys..

I could be wrong.. maybe canadian guys r just pigs

We´re not pigs we have standards. When it comes to friendship, girls don´t cut it

 

[SoreArms]

we used to have sex, now we just hang and watch movies (we both have bizare taste in flicks and its hard to find others to share with), eat sushi, go dancing, etc.... There are still strong feelings on both sides but she's got a bf and I know I'll only be an asshole to her again so this is best.

 

[Hiatussin]

we used to have sex, now we just hang and watch movies (we both have bizare taste in flicks and its hard to find others to share with), eat sushi, go dancing, etc.... There are still strong feelings on both sides but she's got a bf and I know I'll only be an asshole to her again so this is best.

eat sushi and watch cult flicks... pretentious wiseass emo bastards.
I like both actually.
Know Jess (given name Jesus) Franco?