What would you do if your 16 old kid did this?

[Pat_McCrotch]

You didn't fail as a parent; kids go thru these periods - just take her for a day away together and try to find out whats making her so angry. I know it sounds too silly but it beats making it worse.

This might be a good idea. and tell her calmly there are consequences and this is not gunna ever ever ever happen again. Tell her will happen if it does. Tell her she will go tojail and be kicked out of the house. Tll her you love her and this is her last get out of jail ticket.

She will pay for this out of her pocket. Giver a timeline. Tell her if it is not done this and this will happen. In a calm loving voice. If she does anything like this and this will happen.

it will happen again and when it does remind her of yalls talk.

 

[nzrodney]

Yes this really hurts. When the anger wears off, you realize that you failed as a parent and that you have a very messed up kid and even though you love them very much, if you keep letting them get away with murder, it will only get worse and I know what I've got to do and it's hard and I feel sorry for her.

You know Bro none of us went to parenting school. It is one of my beliefs that in a life one chooses their parents. For what ever reason there is often previous karma to be resolved, lessons to be taught & learned. You may dissagree with my philosophy, that is fine, but if nothing elso, contemplate this - We choose our own parents before we get here.

 

[Cal_21]

Make her go see a therapist. Not dissing your daughter or anything at all bro. I don't mean it in an asshole kinda way. Just that she sounds really angry, and maybe it would benefit her? Just throwing that out there. Sorry if it came out wrong, i didn't mean it in a dickhead way i promise.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Asses must be kicked!

 

[stilleto]

i'm sorry you're having a hard time with her.

personally, i wouldn't call the police, but i would get her help. I would insist that she see a pshychiatrist and I would lay down some new laws in the house that she had better listen to.

she's crying out for help and obviously has a lot of anger.

 

[Spartacus]

i'm sorry you're having a hard time with her.

personally, i wouldn't call the police, but i would get her help. I would insist that she see a pshychiatrist and I would lay down some new laws in the house that she had better listen to.

she's crying out for help and obviously has a lot of anger.

'sup
you little whore
fall in line

 

[Spartacus]

I will listen to bikinimom. I will not ignore bikinimom's advice. bikinimom is GOD.

 

[stilleto]

'sup
you little whore
fall in line

want some oatmeal?

 

[Spartacus]

He say "One and one and one is three"
Got to be good-looking 'cause he's so hard to see
Come together right now over me
__________________

 

[stosstruppe]

You didn't fail as a parent; kids go thru these periods - just take her for a day away together and try to find out whats making her so angry. I know it sounds too silly but it beats making it worse.

Do they fuck. I have never heard a child unleash such extensive premeditated damage on a parent's property in my life and I live in one the most deprived areas in the UK where young anti social behaviour is the norm. This is because you wouldn't let her have your car for common sense reasons as well? Christ, you'd think to bring about such a response you'd gutted and skinned the dog infront of her.

Get rid of her. Your obligation to her upbringing ends when she reaches 16-18 (subject to country). She - your own blood - actually threatened to tell the police of your test use ?! Why should you and your new partner have to suffer that shower of shite from a legal adult?

I received a lot of discipline / tough love (would be coined as physical child abuse nowadays) from my old man yet I loved and respected him and his property because I was fed, clothed, sheltered and welcome to live in his home until my early twenties while at uni.

Some people are just arseholes regardless of their upbringing. Wash your hands of it.