what do women want as far as charactoristics

[georgie24]

everytime i get close to a girl they end up shying away. how do you ladies liked to be talked to when first meeting with a guy? what are some do's and donts i should take heed to when starting to date

right now im-----> about my progress thus far im really confused about all this type stuff

if you read this post please respond or pm me

 

[sermon_of_mockery]

they like the guys with deep feelings,and deep pockets@!!

 

[lilchit]

id almost have to see you in action. im really curious! guys techniques are so different. it fascinates me, really.

try not to approach a group of girls.........go in for the kill when shes not with the pack.

dont use a line, unless its a REALLY good one.

make a clean, confident, decisive move. dont let her smell fear.

have SOMETHING to say. and something else to say, and something else to say. then move along. (without getting her number, or making a date, or getting turned down) then you can "bump into her" again, or not, depending on what kind of vibe you got.

avoid hit and runs unless you can tell she wants to meet you.

youd rather come off "hard to get, but interrested" than "trying too hard".

and a smile doesnt hurt!

 

[makedah]

I'm curious -- how old are you, georgie?

I can't tell if your post is about how to 'pick up' a woman or how to approach a friend for a date. Is this about confidence or techniques?

I'm assuming it's about picking someone up...

Like lilchit said, it's hard to recommend stuff without knowing you.

I think you should just be friendly. I know that I used to hate it when random men hit on me. Ewww, back off!!!

If you want to date someone and you're unsure about how to talk to women, I don't think you should try to approach women that you don't know. I think that you should start by getting 'referrals' from your friends or meeting women in places where you already work and play.

There's a lot of pressure on people to be 'hooked up' with someone. But I think you should just relax and enjoy your life.

 

[supertech69]

I've found that speking to them just like you would any other stranger that you meet (politely) look at their eyes when they are talking (not their chest) and smile like you're paying attention and interested in what they are saying, even if you're not. If she's interested, it will go from there. Take some time to learn a little about them before you ask them out. I'm not real good at conversation but, like I said if they have interest, they will start talking and it will just flow. Try not to be nervouse or at least don't let it show. Be confident, not cocky. Women can sense confidence a mile away, usually just by the way you carry yourself before you ever even get over to them to speak. Just my $.02

 

[georgie24]

OK guys im 24 years old and an ex-fatty i lost about 70 pounds of fat within the last year. i have a whole new body but the same mentality .
i have a slight anxiety prob as well im getting that looked into very soon.

what else do you guys wanna know about me? im willing to open up and see whats going on


thanks everyone

 

[supertech69]

Hey bro, I was with the same girl from 17 - 25 (cheated on her a few times) but, once I was divorced, I started lifting and gained pretty rapidly, basically got a whole new body and a whole new attitude. I was very shy and it was hard for me to meet girls at first. What I did to get over it was, I started going to clubs by myself and hitting the dance floor. A few beers helped relax me. You've got to push yourself to try and pickup any girl that you have interest in. Who cares if they say no, don't let it push you back in a shell. Move on to the next one. If you ask 10 of them, 1 is bound to say yes. It's a hard thing to get over but, only you can make it happen. You gotta swallow your pride and go for it. It gets easier every time. You can often meet them on the dance floor by eye contact and grinding w/out even sayin a word. If you go by yourself, it doesn't give you the option to hide behind your buddies or let them do the talking. Go in head first.

 

[Norman Bates]

1. Show confidence

2. get a good pair of shoes and clean clothes ( guess you already have that)

3. Go to a club and hit on girls just to be rejected, you need to get accostumed to that, else you will be frustrated too easily

4.don´t talk about facts, rather about emotional things (you were traveling around the world? must have been a great feeling of freedom bla bla...)

5. if she puts up some shit like not returning your calls,don´t call back a second time; if you meet her again and she gets to talk about it tell her that you are pissed off and that you don´t tolerate that, but don´t get too angry and offer her another chance

6.if some girls is inviting herself on your expense dump her, she is just trying to rip you off ( female variation of the one night stand game)

7.she will be looking for something in a guy, characteristics like providing security, adventure... try to find out (subtly) and tell her that you can provide what she is looking for. e.g. you can ask what she was missing with her last bf

8.don´t give your phone number, always ask for hers

9.if you are rich show it

PS: anyone feel free to criticize if any1 thinks i´m writing bullshit

 

[supertech69]

That's the #1 reason I carry a pager. People always tell me it's a waste of money to have a pager and a cell but, I don't want women calling my house or my cell. Especialy if my girl is home!

 

[makedah]

Hmm. Dating advice from Norman Bates... What would Mother think?

I think he makes some good points -- the good shoes suggestion was very much on point.

I like Norman's idea of getting rejected a few times to ease your fear of being rejected. I just think you should choose a 'safer' (for your ego) situation than random women, who might be MUCH ruder than someone you are acquainted with. I'm glad to hear that you are getting some help for your anxiety problem - if that includes therapy, don't be surprised if your therapist sends you to get rejected!

If you have self-esteem problems (I guess that you did and that you were also young), then you should really ease into this. Overweight people don't necessarily have low self-esteem and poor body image, but I think this is what you meant by the "fatty mentality." As you can see for yourself right now, what you think about how you look is just as important as how you 'actually' look. Low self-esteem is not only often a big turnoff for women (unless you find a woman who likes a 'project.' But she often has low self-esteem, herself!!!), but it will lead you into BAAAAD relationships that will only bring your self-esteem down even more. Really, really start working on this before you get serious about meeting someone.

Where I must strongly disagree with Norman Bates is on the phone number thing. After some silly mistakes, I have learned to never consider a man who doesn't give me his phone number (not his cell, his work number or his pager). What is he trying to hide? I know MANY women who think the same way.

Give yourself some time. You've changed a LOT this year, and you're quite young.

I have some questions. How long were you overweight? Did you date or have a girlfriend while you were overweight?