Wanting to quit drugs and lift again, please help.......

[PatBateman]

One of my best friends is doing this right now. Literally. He's my roommate, I've known him for 14 years. He goes through about $2400/week in OC's.

He quite, cold, back in early June. That was a complete disaster, I had to sit here and babysit for weeks. He was so depressed. Intensely suicidal. He didn't sleep for 9 days. I've never admitted this, but there were times I secretly wish he would just finally kill himself. It's tough to spend 12+ hours a day, days on end, with someone who does nothing other than cry, vomit and stare at the wall. I watched him go from 184# to 137#, took him to the ER three times due to kidney issues. He improved to "just staring" (ie depressed but no suicidal talk) by early July. He seemed all fixed by early September.

Now he has started agian, continuously fuk'd up since the 14th of this month. I hate him now. I'll be here when he falls apart though.

GO GET HELP. If you want your life back GO GET HELP.

if you really care for this person, it sounds like it is time for some type of intervention. where is his family? he needs some help from the sounds of it.

 

[thx9000]

if you really care for this person, it sounds like it is time for some type of intervention. where is his family? he needs some help from the sounds of it.

They couldn't care less. Well, maybe they do but you would think not. He hasn't spoken to his dad since he was 15, he's seen his mom a total of maybe two weeks since he started college and that was 10 years ago. He visits her for exactly one day every year or two, and she lives 1400 miles from here. That's it for his family. He was one other friend, other than me, and that dude's just as fucked up as he is.

The biggest problem: he thinks everything is just fine. He says, "this is exactly what I want to be doing with the rest of my life." He only stopped back in June b/c his buddy's wife threatened to leave with their two kids. So they both cleaned up for a few months. Making matters worse, he has basically unlimited money. To be honest, this is actually very stressful for me...Oh well.

 

[PatBateman]

They couldn't care less. Well, maybe they do but you would think not. He hasn't spoken to his dad since he was 15, he's seen his mom a total of maybe two weeks since he started college and that was 10 years ago. He visits her for exactly one day every year or two, and she lives 1400 miles from here. That's it for his family. He was one other friend, other than me, and that dude's just as fucked up as he is.

The biggest problem: he thinks everything is just fine. He says, "this is exactly what I want to be doing with the rest of my life." He only stopped back in June b/c his buddy's wife threatened to leave with their two kids. So they both cleaned up for a few months. Making matters worse, he has basically unlimited money. To be honest, this is actually very stressful for me...Oh well.

short of beating the guy senseless so he goes to the hospital and has to give up drugs and recover for a month, I would move far away from these two guys fast. they sound like they are bringing you down, and really, from what you describe, what do they bring to the table?

 

[_Yossarian_]

2BeSwoleAgain

Not getting professional help is the worst thing you can do. My ex girl got into H my first year in college. Too much money combined with too much time on her hands led to a quick downfall. It got to the point where I couldn't watch her treat herself like that. So I called her parents and told them what was happening. They came the next day and took her back home and checked her into rehab the next day. Almost two months later she came out a new person, totally full of life, and ready to take control of her life. I honestly believe that without rehab, eventually she would have overdosed. Heroin has the ability to sink its claws in so deep, you can only pull them out with the help of others. You think you have control, but you don't. Dont fuck around with Methadone, its just going from one addiction to the other. Dont be ashamed! Check yourself into rehab, and focus your new found energy on something positive, like lifting. You've got the strength to do it. NOW is the time to seize the day, cause there might not be another....

 

[solidspine]

You will be in my prayers,


been exactly where you are now,


you can heal, but you can not do it alone.

 

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it's good that you realized that you have a problem. it may sound stupid, but i've found prison or jail to be a good way to force yourself to quit any addiction you have. i've known a couple of alcoholics to have sobered up after doing some time. just a thought...

 

[Focker]

Bro you're gonna make it. I can feel it. First of all you have admitted to yourself that you do have a problem. This is the first step to making a full recovery. Second, you beleive that you can quit on your own which is the truth. If you feel you can do it, then you can. It's gonna be a rough road for the next year or two but no matter how bad you feel just remember that you can't go on living like this forever. If methadone will help, then get it. As far as professional help goes, I cannot advise but I can tell you that if you believe in yourself, you can pull through it. You're going to find out really soon that 95% of your friends are really not your friends. You need to ditch them now or they will just cause you to relapse and bring you down. Throughout the days to come there will be many oportunities to "bang the bang" but you hafta be a man and walk away. You're gonna feel like shit but thats just part of recovery. It only gets better. The longer you've been clean, the better you will feel. You body will regrow and so will your true friends and family. In the end, if you stay clean you will be proud of yourself and will look back in disbelief at the old you. You can make it, I know this. Hang in there....

 

[Heffe]

You need professional help big time bro, getting off is one thing - staying off is another. Just ask my wife. She is in Hazelden treatment center right now. This is the place where many of the celebrities go. Hazelden and the Betty Ford clinic are the two best treatment facilities in the world. This is the number for Hazelden: 651-257-4010

My wife is alcoholic and had been relapsing for the past two months until I caught her and got her into treatment. She had been sober for 3 1/2 years then out of the blue she started again - she is 5'7" tall, weighs 130 lbs and was drinking a quart of vodka per day - AND NOBODY KNEW!!! Not me, not our daughter or her parents or friends. People that see her everyday and none of us knew until I took a sip out of her soda bottle and tasted the vodka in it. If she continued this for much longer she probably would have killed herself. Get some pro help, they'll help you stay off!!! She did a cheesy outpatient program the first time and it didn't work obviously, that's why she's now in Hazelden.

 

[Machiavellian Muscle]

My brother got real bad w/this and battled for 10 years. In my house my brother stole everything from my parents. Funny cause my parents still lock everything to this day out of old habit. The longer you go the harder it will be to break free. Best bet is to seak professional help if possible. Will be a constant battle but you have only been using for 2 months. Don't wait any longer because it will only get worse and your 185 will become 145. Good luck.

 

[RICOSUAVE]

interesting enough one of my good friends whent trough your ordeal , he fist got hooked with oxy, then he moved on Heroin, he is your age, big kit and with a good heart , his problem is he has an adictive personality. he went form beign 230 lbs to 187 in about six months, his girlfriend dumped him he had tow jobs , one he lost. so he did the this: he got two of his best friend to take four days off from work with him ( they watch over him) he whent at it cold turkey- I know it takes some guts to do this ,but never the less he did, it needs to be done, it is your life we talking about here, you got to love your self first, you know this , you just admitted-- you realy have two choises here 1. you keep doing this and feeling soory for your self and keep hoping that soem day you get out of this( thsi may take you the rest of your life wich may not be too long) 2. you take four days of your life get rid of it cold turkey-and live the rest of it happy
your choise, you decide let me know!