Truth or Envy

[chinadoll]

I have a question may sound crazy but here it goes. I was discussing my progress on losing bf with a close friend of mine and much to my suprise she said that I was losing too much and I looked aneroxic. Well here is the question she is overweight and is not doing so well dropping the pounds. Everyone ealse says that I am doing great. This is the only negative comment I have recieved. Do you think that maybee she is just frustrated about her weight and wants to discourage me or do you think that she is right.

 

[Arioch]

She is frustrated. It is much easier to cut other people down with a few words than to build a "whole new you" through diet and exercise. One takes a couple of seconds and a small amount of air, the other takes pain, sacrifice, and dedication. Is it any wonder most people never manage it?

 

[Gladiola]

Oh gee, she's overweight & you are both female... hmm, this scenario is something I've never encountered, & can't imagine
this is my office on a near daily basis.

Odds are she's jealous & trying to cut you down. In trying to cut you down, she's trying to make herself feel better about being fat (like what YOU'RE doing is the unhealthy thing, rather than what SHE is doing being unhealthy).

BUT - if you are seriously concerned that you are loosing weight too fast - how many pounds have you lost in what period of time? 1-2# per week is a good pace for fat loss. If you are doing ketosis, you will lose a lot of water weight the first week.

 

[chinadoll]

well right now I am 125lbs at 17%bf some of my measurements are thighs 22" biceps 11-1/2" (I know they are small) waist 26"
hips 34" chest 34" I don't consider myself bony I definitely have muscle that is noticeable. I eat healthy 6-times a day and work with weights 5-days a week. Not for toning for building muscle. My weight is no concern to me my apperance is.

 

[chinadoll]

well right now I am 125lbs at 17%bf some of my measurements are thighs 22" biceps 11-1/2" (I know they are small) waist 26"
hips 34" chest 34" I don't consider myself bony I definitely have muscle that is noticeable. I eat healthy 6-times a day and work with weights 5-days a week. Not for toning for building muscle. My weight is no concern to me my apperance is. I started seriously working out in January at a weight of 135lbs 20% bf four months I am at where I am now. I did not deprive my body of anyting.

 

[muskles]

:: expect more criticism ::

my mom has been telling me the same thing lately.. "if u lose anymore weight, you'll look anorexic".. it's hard for people who are overweight to even see the diff b/t skinny or fit people.. they just see small and if it makes them uncomfortable they will say words like 'anorexic' or 'unhealthy'... just tell them that you eat a box of donuts every morning and u don't know why u keep looking better and better!!

i'm getting used to the idea that because i'm learning how to manipulate my physical appearance where most others don't know where to start, some and maybe a lot of people are going to respond negatively. my man was bulking a few months ago and had lots of extra luv handles.. some of our drinking friends had SO MUCH FUN teasing him about it.. now he's getting ripped and they just go back to feeling bad about themselves.. but don't want to change their habits..

people are just fickle.. do what makes you feel good about yourself, and don't let their opinions get to you, hon

he he.. can't wait to see how my family reacts when i bulk someday

 

[fhg43]

well right now I am 125lbs at 17%bf some of my measurements are thighs 22" biceps 11-1/2" (I know they are small) waist 26"
hips 34" chest 34" I don't consider myself bony I definitely have muscle that is noticeable. I eat healthy 6-times a day and work with weights 5-days a week. Not for toning for building muscle. My weight is no concern to me my apperance is. I started seriously working out in January at a weight of 135lbs 20% bf four months I am at where I am now. I did not deprive my body of anyting.

How tall are you?

Your stats sound great. I think your friend is jealous. I hear women make these comments all the time. They are insecure about themselves so they criticize and tear down others-guys do the same thing to. IMO 17% is pretty low for the 'average' women which is why your friend might make such a comment. She is used to seeing not solean people. Lots of people don't realize that extremely fit lean individuals/athletes look skinny. They seem to think everyone is rolly-polly like them. 61% of the US is overwieght and 25% of the US is obese (stats courtesy NBC news the other night). So peoples perceptions are gonna be skewed.

FHG

 

[velvett]

Reads like you are looking fabulous - I bet you are about 5'5" - 5'7"? It's unfortunate to have received such a comment from a friend but if you were anorexic your weight would be lower and your body fat higher.

... and since your friend didn't tell you...

HIGH FIVE for all your hard work and success.

 

[Sassy69]

Personally I think the last person you need to believe about whether or not you are losign too much body fat is some fat person. Unless your friend has some background & knowledge of diet & training, she's probably jealous. I think our friends who see us losing weight are good to listen to as far as just a general comment about your progress, but its up to you to be happy with your progress. If you are feeling too tired all the time or hungry, then maybe take a second look at yourself and evaluate where you are. Otherwise be happy that its working!

Hell most people dont' even understand what body fat is, so who are they to say if you are losing it too fast?

 

[Torchy]

You just tell your friend that spatts said, "Pbbbhhhht!"

Spats, how exactly do you say that?