threesome question

[pauly]

Fuck you man. Sorry if I don't take this "lightly" like most of you. Do you think I care to catch a fuckin' disease? Huh? What would happen if one of us did? It would ruin our whole fuckin' relationship. Lord knows there are too many hoes out there that like to spread they're fuckin' legs for everyone, so at least 75% of the female population has some friggin' critter. I don't go for the whole thing of bringin' a chick home from the bar when God knows who the fuck she is, what she's got, and what she's capable of. I don't need some fuckin' psycho thinkin' that its gonna be an "all -the-time" thing, callin' one of us up.......or even tryin' to hook up with the BF. I don't need that fuckin' shit man. If and when it happens, it will just be for pure fun, a one time deal. You can't plan this shit out, its gotta be a spur-of-the-moment type thing, and with someone that we know. And if I have to think about this anymore, then I'm gonna just say FUCK IT to the whole idea. I'm a fun chick, and I can get crazy/silly/sexy/freaky etc., Pauly knows this. And don't even tell me I've gone overboard on this. I'm not concentrated on having a 3-some, if it happens, it happens.....I'd rather concentrate on the person that I love.

Ok good point bout the critters, i'll give you that. But the rest sounds, IS, insecurity. If you even THINK that we'd have a threesome and me and the other girl fooled around (which is what a 3some is to me) that i would even care bout her a FRACTION of what i feel for you. You dissapoint me, not because you dont' want to do this for me, but because you obviously don't hold that much faith in our relationship. Forget this whole fuckin deal, if it stresses you that much.....forget it. We went thru this before and i dont' want to go thru it again with you. You knew this is what i wanted but obviously YOU are not ready for this MENTALLY. I'm not upset at all, just dissapointed.

 

[tripleV]

GOD DAMMIT!!!! why cant you all live here, or at least visit. We could have some damn good fun!!!!!!!!

 

[manny78]

GOD DAMMIT!!!! why cant you all live here, or at least visit. We could have some damn good fun!!!!!!!!

I said that many times: ONTARIO SUCKS !!! No seriously TripleV why the hell are you living in Ottawa, I have a cousin working for the federal gov there and the only thing I heard from him was: damn this city is so boring.... Thats why I'll pray not to be sent by the RCMP in Ontario lol

 

[manny78]

TripleV, this maybe a dumb question, but is that you in your avatar (looks like a younger madonna)?

lol yup TV is Madonna no one is suppose to know that lol

 

[sheez_ripped]

guys...get a grip on the 3some thing...

it doesn't have to be someone u pick up at a bar....there is probably "alternative" clubs in your area where u can go dance and check out the gurls...if u do meet someone....work it like u would if it was a guy/gurl situation...get to know them first....geez....and second of all...u have to have a really different kind of relationship to handle this....

ya can't do it just because one of u wants to....no taking it for the team....it's gotta be because u both find it hot....

u have to be really secure with each other...most couples i know that are into this stuff have been together a while.....or are married and have been for a while....

it's not gonna help a relationship with problems...will usually make it much worse....

 

[tripleV]

just found a web site that may help, i luv it and am looking myself

http://www.iwantu.com/browse.love

 

[Wombat]

I would ask Wombat-- Im sure hes got a few tips under his belt!!

Maybe just a few-----

1. The rainbow necklace is a good one----My wife has one.
2. Keep reminding your girlfriend that you only want to see her fuck another girl. That you do not have to touch her(but you and I both know that when the time comes, you will be right in there)

3. If your not into techno---start listening to it and go to clubs that play techno---bi-sexual woman love that shit

4. If your girlfriend doesn't roll(xtc) -- you may want to introduce her to it

5. When the question comes up with other woman of have you two ever had a 3-some --always answer just twice---even if you never have---and even when you have had it more then you can count----innocents plays a major role. If the woman asks have you(the man)touched the other girl----say just once---and my girlfriend really liked it when I was with the other girl(Don't say this around your girlfriend) she may blow it for you.

6. This one is key----Always make your girlfriend feel like she is the best looking woman in the room. Don't be overly excited when your with another woman. Let your woman go crazy and take whatever she will give you. Remember you don't want to blow it by fucking this other chick like your girl is not even in the room. Don't treat it like it is going to be the only time. Your girl may after you have done it once say that she liked it but does not want to do it again. Tell her that you agree(even though in your head, you know it won't be the last time) but play it off like it is. It will always come up again

7. Use protection no matter what! Your girlfriend will rest alittle easier and know that you care for her safety. She will say things like "well even with protection we can still get things" Tell her life a risk----enjoy it while your here but be a safe as you can!

8. make it known to some of the friends that you both hang out with are into this type of shit-----Some won't agree but who the fuck cares if they do or not----Once word gets out, it will come to you both when you least expect it---But don't mess around with good friends----A friend of a friend is cool.

9. Your girl will tell you that she doesn't want to do it with a stranger----That is when XTC comes in to play----You can meet a person one day and the next day you think you have known them your whole life.

10. If the 3 of you are fucking around in a room and your wife goes to the bathroom----DONT TOUCH THE GIRL---You are being set up(tested) When she comes back into the room have the other girl tell her that you have been a good boy and are waiting until she returns----Down the road your girl will have issues and bring up silly things----But this will be a good one to throw back at her that you would not touch her when she was not in the room. This one has got me into a little hot-water a couple of times.

11. Don't go out to a club looking for it. Go out to have a good time and let your girl control the pace. Follow behind and put up the scraps. If you two split up in a club and you find yourself talking to a hottie---tell her you have a girlfriend right off the bat and that you would like to introduce her to her. But never mention anything about sex----That sort of thing will iron itself out----When you introduce a girl to your woman---The girl will think that it is kind of strange that you are doing such a thing---And will either take off or hang out---

12. Hang out at strip clubs with your girl and when you go home talk dirty shit about a certain girl that danced for you both. The more you hang out at these places the more you will be invited to parties and clubs that these types of woman hang out at. But to do so drugs will be a given. The best thing to do is to be-friend a stripper who parties. You may have to be tolerable of raves and similiar gatherings.

Hope some of these help

 

[SeXKiTTen_CanDy]

Azia baby I know how you feel

I wouldn't want no bitch touching my man.

 

[RealDeal]

Wombat had some good suggestions...

My girl also feels the same way as BigRugbyMan. I just heard about it a few months ago, and I cannot say I was disappointed.

Anyway, I don't think it's as easy to accomplish as some people make it out to be. That's unless you or your girl just happen to have female friends who are also into the same lifestyle...then pulling in a 3rd party may not be very difficult. 'Course, then you have to deal with possible "weirdness" down the road if the 2nd chick & you & your girl are not all relaxed & carefree about it.

My g/f & I tried the strip club hangout deal, and I've never dropped so much $ in two straight months in my life! We had a couple of close calls, or almosts, but when it comes down to it strippers are always out for money. They'll tell you whatever bullshit to get another dance or two outta you, then flake out come the "afterparty". We've tried about 3 different clubs, all with the same results. My girl has gotten a little collection of phone numbers, but some aren't that hot, others have excess baggage & yet others are just total flakes.

My g/f ALWAYS gets asked if she's a new dancer, so we're not an unattractive couple. The only success so far was found online. It didn't turn into a 3-some since there was another couple involved, but the girls got it one while us guys watched, then we coupled-up. Not exactly what we wanted, but it made for a f'ing hot evening.

Things to watch consider if searching online:

1) There are LOTS of bullshitters out there who are more likely to scam you than anything (i.e. lonely, ugly, hairy bastards hoping to trick women into sending their nudie pics). Require various photos first (in different surroundings, nude/clothed) and better yet, a phone conversation w/your girl right off.

2) There are THOUSANDS of the "Couple Seeking Bi-Female" listings out there. Your chances are much better having your girl post a "Woman Seeking Woman" ad and going from there. You'll get more responses and unsolicited messages.

3) Make the first meeting in neutral location (i.e. bar, club, etc.). See if the attraction is there between you all before getting into a potentially uncomfortable situation.

Wombat's suggestions were good, and definately set ground rules BEFORE any encounters. Who can do what to whom, what's off-limits, and don't cross the lines drawn. Determine if fucking some other chick is worth risking your current relationship for...that's IF your g/f says no-no to it.

BigRugbyMan - if your g/f has a few girls in mind, then can we assume that she knows these girls are at the very least bi-curious? If she doesn't know it, then it can be quite difficult for your girl to breech that topic...I know it is for mine. Unless she knows for sure or she's asking a stripper, she won't discuss it for fear of embarassment if the chick is like "WTF?"

There are bound to be girls with the same curiosity at Tech, but unless you or your g/f know some of them or you search at a strip club or online, then they're not very easy to find. Web sites can be very useful, you just need to be aware of the issues I mentioned above.

Good luck. Know this was long, but I posed a question about this a few months ago when my girl let me in on her desires, and most of the posts I received were dumbass or smartass comments. You fuckers!

Oh yeah, some sites:

http://www.adultfriendfinder.com
http://www.iwantu.com
http://www.justbi.com (for your girl)
http://www.swingersingles.com (I think)

 

[Trouble]

I too have suddenly found myself looking at other women but not for just me..I would love to have a threesome w/ my boyfriend, just knowing I would be turning him on soo excites me. I have never had these feelings before & I am in my mid 30's...If only I could find someone for us?????