Think I should tell my wife?

[troubledone]

What's up guys...

Long time member here under a different name bu need my anonymity on this one. I have been married for two years, and been with my wife for almost 10 (college). I never cheated in that time but used to keep things 'fresh' for myself by visiting asian massage parlors and just j/o looking at the naked girl - like a really good porn. Did this every few months and it kept me same while friends were doing much worse...

Well, I recently found a place that offers peep shows in the same room where i could do my relatively innocent act. Until recently. The last few times the girl 'gave me hand' and now I feel like a piece of shit. I have never hooked up with another girl through college or the past 10 years. I barely even flirt. However, I now let a stripper/peep lady j/o me twice. I feel horribly guilty and promised myself i would never do it again. Love my wife and dont want to upset her. Meant nothing and I have no desire to be with anyone else it was just like a really good masturbation to me.

I am full of guilt and thinking of telling her which i know will end our otherwise perfect relationship. What do you guys think?

Thanks

 

[pappad]

Well I will say, that if you really love your wife keep your pecker in your own hand! That being said, I feel there is NO need to tell her and make her feel terrible because of something you can't seem to control. If you are serious about your relationship you need to stop going to places like that. If you need to keep things fresh sexually you should discuss that with your wife. I am sure if you communicate openly about your needs she will do whatever is needed short of crossing her moral lines to make you happy!

I hope I didn't come off like a jerk but I feel you need to hear it straight!!!

 

[BNG]

Let me be blunt.

You want to alleviate your guilt by confessing to her your indiscretions? So she'll feel bad, lose trust in you, and make her feel inadequate? So you can feel less guilty?

You shouldn't be doing things that make you feel guilty. You shouldn't be looking outside the marriage for any sexual gratification. You need to sex it up with your woman. She's probably bored with you too.

 

[glover]

I agree with all reply's. Do not tell her. Think about her feelings now not yours.

 

[digger]

What's up guys...

Long time member here under a different name bu need my anonymity on this one.

Not how we roll. Freebie accounts are one to a customer.

 

[needtogetaas]

Speaking from experence. Do not tell her. Its b far the worst thing you could ever do. It will not make her trust you more, it will not make you feel better. It will make her trust you less and she will do everything she can to make sure you feel like shit and never ever
live it down. It will fuck you for the rest of the time you are with her.

 

[bigjd69]

If you want to poss. end your marriage or stay married and get tortured for the rest of your life tell her. She will never trust you again.

 

[flex229]

man, if you love her, don't tell her. it will do no good. just quit doing it. and quit forever.

 

[heavy_duty]

never tell her. ever!

 

[hardwood]

No, no, no, stop doing things that make you feel bad but never tell her. It would probably end things.