Should I invite my girlfriend to this board? I'm conflicted...

[muskles]

i wouldn't tell her right away. i mean what if she turns out to be someone who's not going to be around for long. why would you want to tell something that important in the beginning?

be like an onion.. let her peel off the layers

 

[Audacious1]

Listen, if you like her, be straight foward with her. If things work out and you are together for a while, she'll find out one way or another. It's who you are and if she doesn't like the fact you take the stuff, then find someone who does.

 

[muskles]

i politely disagree. i don't think it's necessary to tell all in the name of being straight forward. you can be completely straight forward and not give away all your personal information all at once. i wouldn't tell right away.. but that's just me.

 

[Gladiola]

(I passed her a note in class one day to make sure).

That was cute

I don't think anyone can say for sure when it's best to "talk about this stuff".

If she is really opposed to gear, she might not like coming to this site anyway.

Personally I don't think gear is that much of a big deal or anything for her to be upset about.... but I know that is not necessarily what everyone thinks. Heck, my boyfriend freaks out simply because I DON'T DISAPPROVE (it makes him mad that I think it's OK to do, even though I don't do it, Yeah, how dumb is that??).

So if it's worth the risk... don't know. Sorry that's not too helpful

 

[Audacious1]

Ok Muskles, you have a point...if she asks, tell her, otherwise, if you don't feel comfortable telling her, don't. Just don't lie if she asks.

 

[frorider6]

Well, frustration led me to consider bringing her here. Frustration at trying to teach her the proper way to train and dispell so many myths. But I think I'll keep my usage and this board to myself for now. However, somewhere between now and a ring, I'll tell her.

 

[Sassy69]

Sounds like a good choice for the moment. No need to bring controversy to a relationship just as it is still forming. But keep pounding away at her on the free weights thing. I think you might ask her "Why NOT?" For centuries women have done most of the heavy work in the family anyway - now that we have the free time to pay some organization money so we can lift heavy stuff in special rooms instead of bales of hay out in a field, why not? If the question is between free weights & machines, free weights help you establish balance and control. You don't even have to lift that heavy if you maintain good form. Cable work is great for the final touches before a comp. People practice posing for conditioning.

Its maybe not the weight lifted, but the intensity of the workout. Who can argue with the fact that the body is a wonderful thing - it will respond to a good challenge all the time! Let it get content & it will get bored & squishy.

 

[frorider6]

Intensity is another thing I'm trying to teach her. She asked how much weight she should use for biceps and triceps. I told her as much as she needed to go to failure at 8ish reps with good form.

 

[Trance]

Think about it like this - if the situation was reversed, would you want her to tell you? If you found out she was doing them, would you be pissed that she didn't trust you enough to tell you?

I think if you're going to continue using them, you should tell her. It might not be a bige deal to her at all.

 

[muskles]

frorider6,

good decision i think. i agree w/ audacious1, though, don't lie if the subject comes up. my b/f and i were talking about bb on the way to the mall and right on our way in i asked him if he'd ever juiced... ha ha kind of put him on the spot right in public he didn't lie, he just postponed the subject til we were alone.. i didn't know anything about it at the time, but i was pretty accepting.. my only concern was for his health, but after reading up i figured out he knew what he was doing.

sorry we won't get to chat with her 4 now, but feel free to ask us any questions til then