relationship sex Q? women....?

[buckydingdong]

looking for some women's advice on this one. I've been in the same relationship for nearly 2.5 years. We started out having wild sex after being together 2 months. both virgins. after the first ohh... 6-8 months, she started not being as horny, basically, it slowly tapered off to where in january she announced she wont have sex anymore until married, and she only kisses me, anything else and she starts talking to change the subject usually, since the end of january we have messed around maybe 4 times and 2 of those times i could tell she was really not into it.

Okay, so for the women, what gives? She is almost 19, i'm 21, she's a freshman in college and i'm about to graduate. I love her, but i honestly dont want to spend my best years wanting to fuck constantly and getting rejected by the person who used to have sex with me. whenever i bring it up to her she gets mad and doesnt want to talk about it, and answers all my questions with "I dont know"

either she is stupid as hell (w/ a 4.0 gpa) or she is thinking/up to something she won't tell me about. Can some with the female mind elaborate?
thanks,

ps - guys, if you want to throw in some "shes fucking other guys" or "you have a small dick" go ahead.

 

[Paulos]

You have a small dick and she's probably fucking other guys.


Either way, there are other girls...dump the bitch.

 

[Pamela]

Do you love her and do you want to marry her?

 

[Puddles]

With a 4.0 gpa, maybe she's overly focussing herself in her schoolwork...that could lower her libido. But, she's gotta talk to ya about it...holding stuff in won't get you or her anywhere. There may be something she's embarrassed about, but if you two plan on being husband and wife, there needs to be a good amount of trust and openness for it to succeed. Have you picked out a date for the wedding yet? I'm wondering if she's pushing you to set the date, or maybe she's heavily involved with wedding plans already, or maybe you've got enough time to work through this issue before making the final commitment. Sex isn't everything in a marriage, but it can be a huge problem if the two people are very different in how much and how often they want it...only leading to problems with years of frustration down the road.

 

[ANABOLICK1]

Bro, you gotta step back from the situation...don't push sex on her, let her be for a while. My guess is that she doesn't want to get tied down, or get too involved right now. I think she has doubts of settling with you.
She is very young and she may not know what she wants.
If she feels anything for you, she'll be back.
In the meantime, there are other fish in the sea.

 

[DJ_UFO]

This is your solution.!!...Marry her tomorrow and start bangin'!!!

 

[Bikini Mod]

To cut to the heart of the matter:

Life is short.
You are both WAAAAAY too young.
I know it hurts, but end the relationship and move on.

Yes, a very "guy" response, I know but to sit and dissect the psychology of this, I believe will yield no positive result. THIS IS NOT NORMAL BEHAVIOR FOR ANYONE, MALE OR FEMALE.

She is your GIRLFRIEND, not your wife of 5 years and mother of your two kids.... Is this what you want your future to look like? THEN THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT IT WILL BE LIKE.

Let it go and move on.

 

[DrBones]

Buddy, I was in the same situation as you.... aside from the marriage part
I was with her almost the exact same time frame as well... At first the sex life was good, then eventually it seemed like doing it was an EXTREME chore.... I wanted to.. but she never seemed to be in the mood...

We broke up in October and even though I miss her A LOT... I know there would have been no way in hell I could have ever stayed with someone so sexually repressed.... If its bad now... There is only room for it to get worse...
Maybe see if she wants to go to a councilor...
Whenever I brought up the subject to my ex, she would get upset and say the exact same thing "I don't want to talk about it"

I always tried to tell her that I thought it was an important part of a relationship... but she never seemed to care or want to listen....

If you decide to move on, it will probably be one of the hardest things in your life... It was DEFINITELY the hardest thing I've ever done... over 6 months later and I still think about her almost daily.... But in my heart I know its probably the best decision.

Good lucky buddy

 

[buckydingdong]

we aren't getting married or anything, she wants to after she graduates from college and i have a job. I guess she can't handle not having the security or something. So anyways, yep says no (more) sex til marriage. It seems either like a trap or she just doesnt like sex. Everyone still saying this doesn't get any better? She says she will feel better about doing it when she is married. I still am calling bullshit on this though, plus i think its fishy that she would just up and stop. I'd still like to hear a few more responses

 

[TheDarkSideNinja]

Hmmmmm....

You prolly have a smaller twank than the one her other fuck buddy has and shes scared you will know her pussy has been tampered with!!! It sucks but thats what it sounds like to me. Once girls get to college they turn into lil hoes....I learned my lesson bout girlz...there so scandoulouzzzzzzzzzzzzz haha