PSA: If we have a fight and you don't get laid for a week or more....

[slat1]

... it's not that you are being punished. It is that we don't like to put out for assholes and pricks, which we think you have been.

It is also not that we are holding a grudge. We are females, we have gargantuan memories. We just simply haven't yet forgotten what a total asshat you were during our last arguement.

Quit whining that you think it sucks that we would punish you for disagreeing with us and realize that, much like you, we don't want to bang someone for whom the very act of breathing is no longer up to our standards.

Thank you.

PS: this is a spin-off from another thread, and not reflective of my current state of mind with regard to my man.

Just thought I would pass this along.
This should never happen. If it does you are equally at fault. Why? Because you are trying to make a relationship work with someone you are not meant to be with.
If you are in a loving and caring relationship you will take the time to talk to your S/O and let them know why you feel the way you do. They inturn will explain their thought process leading up to what happened. That should be it. You would have an understanding of each other feelings so it would never happen again.
If you are not capable of acting like a mature person you are not mature enough to be in a relationship.
If you attempt to have the conversation and your partner is not a willing participant. You do not have a partner.
Its pretty simple. If you feel the need to punish the person you are dating or married too. You are not with the right person!

 

[-SD-]

Just thought I would pass this along.
This should never happen. If it does you are equally at fault. Why? Because you are trying to make a relationship work with someone you are not meant to be with.
If you are in a loving and caring relationship you will take the time to talk to your S/O and let them know why you feel the way you do. They inturn will explain their thought process leading up to what happened. That should be it. You would have an understanding of each other feelings so it would never happen again.
If you are not capable of acting like a mature person you are not mature enough to be in a relationship.
If you attempt to have the conversation and your partner is not a willing participant. You do not have a partner.
Its pretty simple. If you feel the need to punish the person you are dating or married too. You are not with the right person!

Dude, youre trying to talk sense to a spiteful wife. Forget it bor.

 

[habitualhealth]

It is also not that we are holding a grudge. We are females, we have gargantuan memories. We just simply haven't yet forgotten what a total asshat you were during our last arguement.

Wow, this is SO true! lol @ total asshat. Very well said.

Why is it that men expect their slate to be wiped clean in only a minutes time w/out them making any effort to make amends? God knows they don't budge until we're groveling at their feet.

 

[nycgirl]

If you are in a loving and caring relationship you will take the time to talk to your S/O and let them know why you feel the way you do. They inturn will explain their thought process leading up to what happened. That should be it. You would have an understanding of each other feelings so it would never happen again.
If you are not capable of acting like a mature person you are not mature enough to be in a relationship.
If you attempt to have the conversation and your partner is not a willing participant. You do not have a partner.
Its pretty simple. If you feel the need to punish the person you are dating or married too. You are not with the right person!

Agreed.

That is your partner not a child. Taking a toy away from a child - fine. Withholding sex from your partner (which in my opinion is not a tool or game or some sort of reward) - immature.

I will also add another thought - behavior like this will possibly cause him to start looking someplace else to get the loving he isn't getting at home.

 

[aandd]

Just thought I would pass this along.
This should never happen. If it does you are equally at fault. Why? Because you are trying to make a relationship work with someone you are not meant to be with.
If you are in a loving and caring relationship you will take the time to talk to your S/O and let them know why you feel the way you do. They inturn will explain their thought process leading up to what happened. That should be it. You would have an understanding of each other feelings so it would never happen again.
If you are not capable of acting like a mature person you are not mature enough to be in a relationship.
If you attempt to have the conversation and your partner is not a willing participant. You do not have a partner.
Its pretty simple. If you feel the need to punish the person you are dating or married too. You are not with the right person!

Hmmm, I guess that's one r'ship dynamic. But there are MANY different ones out there. In all honesty - this was a bit toungue in cheek based on conversations I've had with other married female friends. In our house, we tend to argue it out right then, and then take a few days to let the after effects blow over.

I don't know about the whole "meant for each other" thing, I don't think I really believe that. I think that if you have deep feelings for each other and a commitment to the r'ship - most anything can be worked through.. soulmates or not.

 

[aandd]

That is your partner not a child. Taking a toy away from a child - fine. Withholding sex from your partner (which in my opinion is not a tool or game or some sort of reward) - immature.

Ok, this is my point though. It's not a reward OR a punishment. It's simply a fact of if two people arent' getting along, there is much less chance of an atmosphere condusive to sex being created.

I will also add another thought - behavior like this will possibly cause him to start looking someplace else to get the loving he isn't getting at home.

If there is infidelity, there are many many more issues in the rship than a simple fight.

 

[habitualhealth]

Agreed.

That is your partner not a child. Taking a toy away from a child - fine. Withholding sex from your partner (which in my opinion is not a tool or game or some sort of reward) - immature.

I will also add another thought - behavior like this will possibly cause him to start looking someplace else to get the loving he isn't getting at home.

I think this same idea can apply to the needs OUTSIDE of the bedroom. Emotional, supportive, encouraging, entertainment (ie: jokes, fun, laughter), affection. I do think there's a fine line of using "going somewhere else" just as an excuse to be a skeezer though. I think if a relationship is at that point...someone needs to be mature enough and just end it before much bigger problems occur. (imo)

Agreed, w/holding sex as a punishment is very immature (and not much fun if ya ask me). But, there's no way I'm hopping in the sack with someone if I'm pissed/hurt with them. Thanks, but I'll take the couch.

 

[slat1]

Hmmm, I guess that's one r'ship dynamic. But there are MANY different ones out there. In all honesty - this was a bit toungue in cheek based on conversations I've had with other married female friends. In our house, we tend to argue it out right then, and then take a few days to let the after effects blow over.

I don't know about the whole "meant for each other" thing, I don't think I really believe that. I think that if you have deep feelings for each other and a commitment to the r'ship - most anything can be worked through.. soulmates or not.

If you care and respect the other person you will be able to sit down and talk it out without yelling.
If you or your partner have to fight it out or yell there is a greater problem inside of both of you that needs to be addressed...

 

[alien amp pharm]

But, there's no way I'm hopping in the sack with someone if I'm pissed/hurt with them. Thanks, but I'll take the couch.

You belong in the floor.







...or the kitchen, take your pick.

 

[rnch]

the title of this thread sounds like the sex life of most of my married friends.