Ok, I'm old and married 3 times but I'm still learning. One thing I've learned is that there is no absolute way for all women. I had some luck getting a few who were easy so thought I was pretty good.......watch out!
There is a method that works for most women and it isn't what most of us do, most of the time :-( It's called "Gentle", Slow, Patient stroking while watching her response and listening to her when she complains. I'm going to try it tonight
My second wife was easy. I learned some very bad habits with her because she responded to anything I did with powerful, wet orgasms. My current wife is totally different and I am still learning how to make her happy..........wish me luck