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JEEEEEEZUS........won't take off the shirt for sex?
She really needs help. This is the most classic case of anorexia nervosa. We studied a hospital in one of my Biopsychology classes (psychopathology, actually) that actually admits ppl like her and not only deals with the food aspect, but ALSO, and most importantly w/ the self-confidence issue. I can't remember the name of the place, but I do remember that they had a damn good turn-around rate. Anyone know the name of this place?
PS: 95% of runway models are NASTY. If she's into models, tell her to check out Victoria Secret.....they have actual meat on the bones........much sexier.
She really needs help. This is the most classic case of anorexia nervosa. We studied a hospital in one of my Biopsychology classes (psychopathology, actually) that actually admits ppl like her and not only deals with the food aspect, but ALSO, and most importantly w/ the self-confidence issue. I can't remember the name of the place, but I do remember that they had a damn good turn-around rate. Anyone know the name of this place?
PS: 95% of runway models are NASTY. If she's into models, tell her to check out Victoria Secret.....they have actual meat on the bones........much sexier.
Sassy69
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And even the fitness girls have an "off season" -- the people you see captured in the pages of the muscle mags or the fashion mags do NOT always look that great. There's 'off season" and also air brushing. There is no reason to make yourself feel bad that you can't live up to this perceived image that isn't even reality. Those who actually do manage to maintain those looks will probably (if they haven't already) develop severe problems later in life for abusing their bodies like they do.
Its good to have goals if you want to improve yourself, but the goals REALLY need to be realistic. If not, then the validity of the goal itself needs to be questioned & realistic goals reset. Chasing an image is just a waste of the precious life that God gave you.
Its good to have goals if you want to improve yourself, but the goals REALLY need to be realistic. If not, then the validity of the goal itself needs to be questioned & realistic goals reset. Chasing an image is just a waste of the precious life that God gave you.
mrstamiina
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rvd_brock said:
I would like the name too?
That's what can happen with starvation. The body eventually turns a corner and starts storing every calorie as fat (because starvation eats up muscle tissue resulting in lowered metabolism, plus a bunch of other factors related to survival.) You might think she looks better, but if she's still trying to starve herself, it sounds like she has or is on her way to an eating disorder.
Eating disorders have one of the highest mortality rates of all psychiatric illnesses. More than body image, eating disorders are about control. People with eating disorders typically feel that food intake and how their bodies look is the only thing in life they can control.
ED's are extremely difficult to treat, as the sufferer doesn't believe they have a problem (because starvation can alter brain chemistry) and will resist attempts by others to help. Help is perceived as a threat that people just want make them fat.
I wasted 20 years of my life with an eating disorder, and believe me, it's a sucky way to live. Physically I got over it with therapy and medication, but mentally I didn't get over it until I took up weight training (which soon led me to adopt a better diet). Then I discovered how I could REALLY control my body. Plus by the time I reached my mid 30's, I was seeing that super skinny didn't look cute - it looked OLD.
The thing that turned me on to weight training was learning that muscle burns calories even at rest, and the fact that a pound of muscle takes up less space than fat. I knew I couldn't spend the rest of my life living on air, besides I really like to eat, yet in my family it is virtually a requirement to be thin. Muscle lets me do both.
mrstamiina
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Pamela said:
She s 28.
wend
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Here's a review of a very good book I read when it came out over ten years ago.
Review of The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf
I would suggest, if she's a reader, that you get her a copy of it. You might want to read it, too, to get a better idea of the cognitive problems many in our culture experience as a result of the images we're saturated with.
Review of The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf
I would suggest, if she's a reader, that you get her a copy of it. You might want to read it, too, to get a better idea of the cognitive problems many in our culture experience as a result of the images we're saturated with.
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jenscats5
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"The Beauty Myth" is an excellent book. "My mother myself" is also very good as it can help you examine how you became so insecure. Negative self worth like she has can be very destructive. I've had a very low self esteem in the past & it can be very hard to get over.
mrstamiina
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jenscats5 said:
So did the book help or change you?
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