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[75th]

Shits not that hard to figure out in life. You think you would have started to plan this out and straighten your life out a little better after a bunch of Internet peeps sent you money over the Internet. And you're just realizing this now that you need a change?

 

[jnevin]

ok nev... been down this road already...
you need sole legal and physical custody of her to pick up and go without the mothers or other parents consent.
legally she can hold u wherever you are unless you write up a new mutually agreeable divorce/ custody decree. A modified stipulation would work as well as far as her visitation if you didnt want to change a divorce decree but she would still have to sign off on her leaving with you. This means you would state " i am moving to philly and u can have unlimited parenting time when in the state of Philadelphia as long as the minor child is not being taken further than (we will say) 30 miles from the childs primary residence without prior written consent and fathers permission" or something like that. Structure is the key word when moving away from a parent. you have one shot really to lay the ground rules, boundaries, do's and dont's.
Something as simple as a "legal" letter signed and notarized would be legally enforceable enough for you to move without having to go through the courts, but would have to be signed and notarized by BOTH of you to be enforceable and of course be as descriptive as humanly possible including visitation and all that other stuff i said. leave no rock unturned or it can come to bite you in the ass later on.

im a little confused how you have sole custody but have joint legal and physical... sole custody is you have final say over all legal matters, sole physical is the child remains and lives in one place.
for instance me and my gf have sole legal/physical custody of our son. if anything with his biological happens it has to have our approval on it first or he gets nothing.

So I have sole physical and joint legal.

http://le.utah.gov/code/TITLE30/htm/30_03_003700.htm

This is what has to be done if the ex agrees, but I can't see her having the time to take her for extended periods of time. If I need to pay for transportation, I'll be collecting child support and will use that to fund her trips. I know this is the best thing for my daughter, and I know it will be best for me. I just have to do it right.

 

[noodles1010]

So I have sole physical and joint legal.

http://le.utah.gov/code/TITLE30/htm/30_03_003700.htm

This is what has to be done if the ex agrees, but I can't see her having the time to take her for extended periods of time. If I need to pay for transportation, I'll be collecting child support and will use that to fund her trips. I know this is the best thing for my daughter, and I know it will be best for me. I just have to do it right.

You need to have a stipulation drawn up, formally serve her papers regarding the relocation, include a personal letter explaining how it is better quality of life for the child, express your concern with her being involved in her life and that you will use the child support to help pay to off set costs when she visits. Open a path of communication and opportunity for her to be a parent as well as expressing the well being of your daughter. Ie having family around for her, a more stable environment, happier environment, make it all about your daughter and have no prejudice towards ur baby's mom. The court only cares about the child not your selfish needs or wants. That's all they will look at and will look for your selfish wants and needs to weed them out. Fyi

 

[smurf2]

can I literally juice my brains out?

Can i juice until my heart explodes?

 

[binö]

damn jnev i thought things were on the up and up for you.
the dod thing, then the nursing thing, i thought all was set
for a massive rebound...i know you are from philly and this is just
merely my thoughts, but fuk that shithole...too many hood morons and random
acts of ignorance, and from what i noticed angry and shitty people.
i'd guess you'd live in the nicer part of town and could shield her from all the filth?
i dunno, after living out west i could not go back east esp to a city.
and i'm gonna take the opposite tack as SB, the ramifications could be neg and directed towards you.
basically you being responsible for taking mommy away, even if she is a pile of dung for a parent...that's how i would've felt imo

 

[jnevin]

damn jnev i thought things were on the up and up for you.
the dod thing, then the nursing thing, i thought all was set
for a massive rebound...i know you are from philly and this is just
merely my thoughts, but fuk that shithole...too many hood morons and random
acts of ignorance, and from what i noticed angry and shitty people.
i'd guess you'd live in the nicer part of town and could shield her from all the filth?
i dunno, after living out west i could not go back east esp to a city.
and i'm gonna take the opposite tack as SB, the ramifications could be neg and directed towards you.
basically you being responsible for taking mommy away, even if she is a pile of dung for a parent...that's how i would've felt imo

DOD thing didn't work out, and I'm working toward the mursing thing. I just have no time, no support, and I'm suffocated by stress and anxiety. I'd be about 70 miles outside of the city, surrounded by a pretty awesome family that would probably fight over the opportunity to watch Q while I get school banged out, and I'd get shit back on track. There's noting for me here anymore. I'm thinking a lot about having Q away from her mom, and I'll have to get her out here for her visits. What's worse though? Having my ex be an anchor around my neck and have it keep me from progressing in life and being the best parent I can? Or have her in a solid and stable environment, let me know success again, and hopefully have her mom appreciate the time she has with her?

She never wants her on mothers day, this will be the third easter she's gone out of town for, and 2 out of 3 christmases she was supposed to have her, she came at the end of the day because she was too busy with her bf and his kids. She doesn't deserve that.

 

[WoodyO]

Move. Move as fast as you can.

 

[smurf2]

Move. Move as fast as you can.

This.

 

[pdaddyII]

this.

x3

 

[jnevin]

Talked to my atty today and I guess all I need to do is tell her my plan in writing at least 60 days before I'm set to go. I can even send it in an email. If she wants to contest it we may have to go to mediation, but all that would be is getting the details down. If she really pushed to keep me here it'd cost her thousands in atty fees to get the entire custody agreement modified, which she wouldn't be able to do unless she could prove that I was some kind of violent felon. Now I guess I just need a plan, I need to approach the situation properly, and I need to execute.