Parenting a teenage daughter = red stress alert.

[musclemom]

We went to our first counseling session together tonight. Pure hell on the way there and back. She is so disrespectful and out of control. I'm really not worried about me, I can take all she has to dish out, I'm worried about her. The harder I crack down on her, I'm afraid she won't be able to handle it and run away or something worse.

You need to express that in a counseling session, or to the therapist privately, ASAP. That's something that you need to tell her, you guys are going to work out discipline issues, she has to accept that her share of being a family means that she has to step into line ...

Just remember, you make a line, hold the line, don't wimp out.

Contact the therapist on the side if you need to, you sometimes need accellerated issues when things are first getting worked out.

 

[biteme]

It'll start anywhere between 12 & 14.....then...LOOK OUT!!

TREASURE every day you have her NOW......and burn it into your brain...

Mine turned into a demon at 12 (about the same time she had her first period). It's gotten worse from that point.

 

[biteme]

what ever you do be supportive. be stong but dont rag on her to much. i dont know how many girls in highschool gave me head just off the cheap thrill of what they'r daddy would think. never specificly tell her not to date black guys is a point id like to make.

If some day she dates a nice, intelligent black guy that is responsible then that is okay with me. The way she is now, no guy would put up with her for long.

 

[HiDnGoD]

Mine's 20, but was possessed by Satan spawn from 13-18.
It's tough going, but remember, "This too shall pass.."
I can't emphasis enough, you'll make it, she'll make it, if you hold strong, & pick your battles. Don't rag on every thing she does wrong, all the time. When it's appropriate, just let her know the depth of your love, and even when things aren't smooth. you still love her.
Don't let her moods get to you. Even though you get the brunt, most of the time, you're not the 'cause, if she even knows the cause.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Biteme imagin 3-4 years of your life on a heavy does of clomid that is what your daughter is going through right now. Be strong I think the therpay sessions are a great idea for both of you.

 

[musclemom]

Mine's 20, but was possessed by Satan spawn from 13-18.
It's tough going, but remember, "This too shall pass.."
I can't emphasis enough, you'll make it, she'll make it, if you hold strong, & pick your battles. Don't rag on every thing she does wrong, all the time. When it's appropriate, just let her know the depth of your love, and even when things aren't smooth. you still love her.
Don't let her moods get to you. Even though you get the brunt, most of the time, you're not the 'cause, if she even knows the cause.

Damn good advice!!! You nailed it! I'd K ya but I'm K'd out

One of the toughest parts of being a parent to a teen is the redefining of the relationship. Things you once had a say in you have to realize, hey, I gotta let this go, but THAT SHIT, no WAY her ass is getting away with this!

 

[velvett]

God, my parents had it so easy.

 

[biteme]

Damn good advice!!! You nailed it! I'd K ya but I'm K'd out

One of the toughest parts of being a parent to a teen is the redefining of the relationship. Things you once had a say in you have to realize, hey, I gotta let this go, but THAT SHIT, no WAY her ass is getting away with this!

Yep. Some smart people here. You have to be strict but you don't want to be too strict. Have to walk a very fine line sometimes. Bottom line is, no matter what you do or try, if they are determined, they are gonna do the things you don't want them to do ( sex, alcohol, cigarettes). You can only decrease their oppurtunities and let them know that you are concerned and that you will be keeping tabs on them. Mine says that I'm suffocating her, yet I'm not strict enough. She wants to be 18 at 14.

 

[biteme]

God, my parents had it so easy.

Yes they did from what I know about you.

 

[velvett]

Yep. Some smart people here. You have to be strict but you don't want to be too strict. Have to walk a very fine line sometimes. Bottom line is, no matter what you do or try, if they are determined, they are gonna do the things you don't want them to do ( sex, alcohol, cigarettes). You can only decrease their oppurtunities and let them know that you are concerned and that you will be keeping tabs on them. Mine says that I'm suffocating her, yet I'm not strict enough. She wants to be 18 at 14.

What is it that she wants to do that you won't let her?

LOL - I think I would be a pretty strict parent....