ceasar989 said:
I dont think I want kids now. Sounds too risky.
Children are a wonderful gift. If one allows, that child will "grow them up" in ways they never thought possible.
I never had any difficulty with mine when they were young, potty-training, bed-time - none of it. This adolescense thing is such a challenge.
Could some of the ex-helion female board members share why THEY THINK they gave their parents such trouble growing up.
It is amazing how our viewpoints of THE SAME life experiences change as we get older.
When I was a kid I used to think that my mother was nuts (and now that I am an adult I understand a lot of what she did and why she did it. I have kept those things that I have agreed with and discarded what I did not.). But now as I see my oldest testing to the nth degree even though I am NOTHING like my mother was - I talk and listen, spend time, share myself as best I can - I see now that it was NOT my mother necessarily - but it was ME. I always had a hard time understanding the world around me because I was always so different. Now that I am nearly 40 I actually revel in my individuality, still it comes at a heavy price because I am so often judged for it. But it is what it is.
I gave my parents their fair share of grief. But my grades were always good and I never even sat in detention. I was far too obedient a child for that. I did dumb shit but never the type that my oldest is doing.
Mothers and daughters...
The social worker said to me as he left my apartment scratching and shaking his head, "As our children reach about 12/13 we as parents lose them and dont get them back until they are about 17/18."
I am comforted when I hear this from parents of young adults because they aren't spewing judgmental willy-nilly nonsense. They are giving calm words of comforting advice.
Thank you again to all the board members who have navigated the often turbulent waters of parenting a child to adulthood. Your advice is greatly appreciated.
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