Married people..How often do you get sex?

[Puc]

If your primary reason for having sex is to get yourself off vs pleasing your partner and being close, your marriage is doomed.

karma for you! incisive.

 

[TC2]

BMom - I have spent a good bit of time listening to women talk and listening to they guys talk about their women. I think there are several things going on with this. First of all I think the number of women who reach orgasm is very low despite what they say and usually it is not because their man doesn't care it is because they don't tell him what they need. Secondly, I think it would be interesting to see hormone profiles on these women. I am willing to bet that in almost every case they have low test and low progesterone. Then there is the bunch that are on prozac for whatever reason - I don't care what kind of sex drive you have before this drug it will become nonexistent with the drug.
A man goes to the doctor and says "I can't get it up" and they bend over backwards trying to solve the problem. When a woman goes in with no sex drive she basically has to go thru a whole explanation of how the relationship is fine, no she's not depressed blah blah blah and finally she ends up telling the doctor she wants some androgel and hopes he will give it to her.

Guys, do you think as many men would cheat on their wives if the wives were keeping them satisfied or is it not about sex but about sex with someone different???

Even if a woman(or man) has a low sex drive for whatever reason, that doesn't mean they get to neglect their spouse.

And about the cheating thing, I think that if more women took care of themselves(physcially) and their spouse's needs, guys would be LESS likely to cheat.

 

[TC2]

I've seen it so many times its unreal, once a women(not all but a LARGE %)gets married, they just let themselves go and sexually neglect their spouse.

I give mad props to a lot of the women of elite, who seem to actually care about their spouse's needs.

 

[casavant]

I'm not in one right now, but lots of sex will definitely be one of the stipulations.

 

[HUCKLEBERRY FINNaplex]

I get it once every 7-10 days. BM is soooooooo right- for the first 2 years we had sex 3-4X per week or more. After that it's all downhill. Sadly she's turned into a complete prude too.

LOL,damn bro,you just described my wife to a tee,although she was never a pleaser,just a please-ee.I can't do a single thing that is the least bit exciting or a turn on to me with her.She gets this crinkled-up-nose look like,"Eww,what are you doing?"After so many years of dealing with that,"I'm the only person that exists in the bedroom"bullshit,I've finally just tossed my hands in the air and given up.Five knuckle-shuffling with a good flick is far less frustrating,lol.I love my wife,but in the bedroom she's a nightmare.

 

[Fonz]

Good week : 3-4 times
Bad week : 2 times

Thats it? I'm shocked.

If and when i get married it ED for me........minimum.

Fonz

 

[Bikini Mod]

If your primary reason for having sex is to get yourself off vs pleasing your partner and being close, your marriage is doomed.

That was taken out of context.

I was making this statement in the context of a woman withholding sex because HE PISSED HER OFF. They are married. THEY KNOW THEY LOVE EACH OTHER and THAT THEY WANT TO MAKE EACH OTHER FEEL GOOD.

Too many women though, use sex as a weapon. I would NEVER do this because

A) It just isn't right.

B) If we have sex OF COURSE he will have an orgasm DUH! But I WILL HAVE ONE TOO! So why would I deprive myself? He doesn't get off because he pissed me off! Too many women FORGET the rest of that statement which would be - I DON'T GET OFF NEITHER!


I swear, I oughtta right a book about this. Too many women just don't get it. And Temple, I feel ya about the sex drive thing. I know that babies and such will wreak havoc on a woman's hormones and selfesteem. But if she REALLY CARED then she would try like a motherfucker to rectify the situation. Sex is akin to eating, breathing and sleeping. It is a normal part of life. So if I couldn't eat, sleep or breathe wouldn't I REALLY TRY TO FIX IT?

 

[Longhorn85]

I swear, I oughtta right a book about this. Too many women just don't get it.

Bmom you're going to think I'm flaming, but I'm not. I respect your opinions/comments. But why would one buy a book about marriage, and sex in marriage from someone whose marriage ended in divorce?

 

[Bikini Mod]

My marriage did not end because of sexual troubles. In that department it was AOK, despite the fact that I was married to a very controlling and possessive man.

There are TONS of women who just don't get the fact that they should NEVER use sex as a weapon. And this is A VERY COMMON COMPLAINT amongst married men. It never ceases to boggle my mind just how many women are screwed up in the head about this very important (though not the ONLY important aspect) of a relationship.

MOST of the women who posted on this thread ARE NOT the average female and of the ones who frequent this board who are, I am willing to wager that not one of them has the balls to tell the truth because THEY KNOW they will be flamed from here to eternity. - Disagree with me on that one.

And no flame taken.

 

[vixenbabe]

Thats it? I'm shocked.

If and when i get married it ED for me........minimum.

Fonz

What can I say? He's gettin old...