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Married people..How often do you get sex?
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TC2 said:
After marriage - no, after childbirth I think it is very possible. Also as women age their hormones change. I don't know, I am just guessing based on my own experience with childbirth and aging. Listening to women talk, even the ones who are in a very active new relationship the sex often isn't about orgasm, it is about feeling loved and wanted yada yada. Even normal hormone levels in a woman does not produce a sex drive that is even close to that of most males. Ask any woman who has done an AAS cycle and I think they will tell you it was a very eye opening experience.
I think what often happens is that you have a woman who has low average test, pre marriage the relationship is new or at least there is conquest involved with the goal of marriage. This isn't hormone driven sex or orgasm driven sex. Males really have sex for one reason - orgasm. So, once you take a woman who does not have the hormones to support orgasm driven sex and she's got him so her sex drive isn't marriage driven there is really no purpose in having sex.
Personally I choose to manipulate my hormones to keep them at least at the upper limits of normal -I'm happy and my husband is happy. My point is that a little hormonal manipulation would go a long way in preventing a few divorces.
we're both happy too!
TC2
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I see what you're saying to a certain extent BUT.... ....
I've been depressed and tired before, but I would never neglect my GF, even if I was impotent, there's always ways to satisfy your spouse.
Seriously, how long does it take?? I'm not flaming you, you sound like you care enough about your spouse to look into hormone therpy.
But the fact remains, Most women cease to care about a man's sexual needs once they are married.
As Bmom states, this is a HUGE complaint among men, I don't know of any guys who dont complain about this.
I've been depressed and tired before, but I would never neglect my GF, even if I was impotent, there's always ways to satisfy your spouse.
Seriously, how long does it take?? I'm not flaming you, you sound like you care enough about your spouse to look into hormone therpy.
But the fact remains, Most women cease to care about a man's sexual needs once they are married.
As Bmom states, this is a HUGE complaint among men, I don't know of any guys who dont complain about this.
Longhorn85
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Temple,
(it is about feeling loved and wanted yada yada. )
...and all that other happy horseshit, right?
(Males really have sex for one reason - orgasm.)
I hope you are only speaking of those that have fucked you. There is more to it depending on who and the situation. It could be the conquest, pleasing her, making her squeal, revenge, killing time, making babies, etc, etc.
(My point is that a little hormonal manipulation would go a long way in preventing a few divorces)
Only if a lack of sex is the major reason for the divorce, which I'm sure accounts for a small percentage of the 85%
(it is about feeling loved and wanted yada yada. )
...and all that other happy horseshit, right?
(Males really have sex for one reason - orgasm.)
I hope you are only speaking of those that have fucked you. There is more to it depending on who and the situation. It could be the conquest, pleasing her, making her squeal, revenge, killing time, making babies, etc, etc.
(My point is that a little hormonal manipulation would go a long way in preventing a few divorces)
Only if a lack of sex is the major reason for the divorce, which I'm sure accounts for a small percentage of the 85%
Bikini Mod
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I don't know about lack of sex being a small percentage. Many, many problems arise from lack of sex. Just look at how fucked up a marriage gets when a woman gets pregnant, then when she has the baby. A LOT of changes going on. All normal, all natural, ALL FIXABLE.... But too many people let these little problems build into HYUGE problems and the next thing you know: BAM! two kids, a dog, a big fat fucking mortgage later they are headed to divorce court.
The only way that I can explain this simply is like this:
Your roof has a really small leak. We are talking a slow drip. So you set a bucket there and make a mental note to call the roofer to fix it. Then tomorrow turns into the next, into the next; small drip which is no emergency. Right? Then you realize the bucket is about to overflow, but you have to pay off some bills and don't have the extra money for such a large expense. It is only a small drip afterall. RIGHT? So you put a HYUGE barrel there and make a mental note to save up your cash and call the contractor ASAP. Only trouble is that the kids need braces and the car finally died, etc, etc.
You all get my point right?
One day the barrel overflows as now the tiny drip which has been slowly eroding the woodwork beneath the sheetrock that you couldn't see has given way to a massive flow and now what could have been fixed with a bit of care and work has turned into a very costly problem that may or may not be able to be rectified... and even if it is fixed, things may never be the same.
And yes, even then there is always hope as the roof may be rebuilt better and stronger than before, etc... but it may just be easier at this point to cut your losses and get out.
I know that this may not be a perfect analogy, but I hope that I was able to adequately explain my feelings.
This is exactly how two people wake up one day and decide, "This isn't what I thought it would be" after they had been "coasting along" for years.
The only way that I can explain this simply is like this:
Your roof has a really small leak. We are talking a slow drip. So you set a bucket there and make a mental note to call the roofer to fix it. Then tomorrow turns into the next, into the next; small drip which is no emergency. Right? Then you realize the bucket is about to overflow, but you have to pay off some bills and don't have the extra money for such a large expense. It is only a small drip afterall. RIGHT? So you put a HYUGE barrel there and make a mental note to save up your cash and call the contractor ASAP. Only trouble is that the kids need braces and the car finally died, etc, etc.
You all get my point right?
One day the barrel overflows as now the tiny drip which has been slowly eroding the woodwork beneath the sheetrock that you couldn't see has given way to a massive flow and now what could have been fixed with a bit of care and work has turned into a very costly problem that may or may not be able to be rectified... and even if it is fixed, things may never be the same.
And yes, even then there is always hope as the roof may be rebuilt better and stronger than before, etc... but it may just be easier at this point to cut your losses and get out.
I know that this may not be a perfect analogy, but I hope that I was able to adequately explain my feelings.
This is exactly how two people wake up one day and decide, "This isn't what I thought it would be" after they had been "coasting along" for years.
Longhorn85
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bikinimom said:
I disagree. You even said that in your personal experience the sex was good right? I think it is usually more a case of financial problems, physical or verbal abuse, a lack of love, separation, incompatible extended families or a plain lack of maturity/committment.
TC2
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I think most people get divorced because they got married too soon in the 1st place.
There is a lot of changes that a person goes through during their 20s, which is when most people get married.
And people get married WAY to quickly, How can you plan on spending your life with someone after only a matter of months in many cases??
There is a lot of changes that a person goes through during their 20s, which is when most people get married.
And people get married WAY to quickly, How can you plan on spending your life with someone after only a matter of months in many cases??
ttlpkg said:
I'm going to use a "Dr. Phil" here..."sex is only 10% of a marriage unless you're not getting any and then it is more like 90%" I am going to hold to my position that MANY WOMEN FAKE ORGASM and MANY WOMEN LIE TO THEIR GIRLFRIENDS ABOUT HAVING THEM. If it isn't hormone driven and if it isn't about orgasm being the ultimate goal for males then tell me why there aren't just as many women sitting here saying "I just don't know what happened....we got married and all of a sudden he won't put out any more..." How many men do you know who have sex on a regular basis and do not orgasm? I am not saying that orgasm is the ONLY reason a man has sex but without it the frequency would not matter as much.
