Married men: what's the longest you've gone w/o sex?

[Forge]

What’s the longest amount of time a husband should have to go without sex from the wife? Or rather I guess, is no sex a good enough reason to get divorced?

I’ve got a buddy who is thinking of doing just that, leaving his wife because she hasn’t put out in almost a month now. It’s more than just that though. They don’t have kids, she has worked two full time jobs for the past few years, 80-90 hours a week. She gets to have off every other Sunday and Saturday afternoon, so they don’t get a whole lot of together time. Her life pretty much consists of working, eating, and sleeping. Recently she has simply not been in the mood for sex, and before that they only had sex once a week or so (for a few years now). He’s pretty sure she isn’t cheating on him (I’m not so convinced) and she tells him that she still loves him, but she just has no sex drive. And this girl used to really like sex when they first got married. He thinks she is just so stressed out that her sex drive is gone.

I told him he should give her a choice, either quit one of the jobs or get a divorce. He hasn’t been happy in quite some time, and he’s still young and only married five years, so starting over wouldn’t be too bad. I told him I wouldn’t stay married in a situation like that.

Do you guys think I was too harsh on him? Is sex really that important in a marriage, or can you have love and happiness without sex?

 

[Badbart]

I went 6 months, don't ever do that. I was one pissed off bastard and it ended in divorce.

 

[rnch]

feel sorry for your buddy.....my broly faced the same problem.

after the second (and last) child was born, the biatch informed him that she was done with all bedroom activites and to "find some little tart on the side" to take care of him.

he did, she found out, the marriage is in serious trouble........

"feminine loigic is a contradiction of terms"--quote from my dad.

 

[Forge]

feel sorry for your buddy.....my broly faced the same problem.

after the second (and last) child was born, the biatch informed him that she was done with all bedroom activites and to "find some little tart on the side" to take care of him.

he did, she found out, the marriage is in serious trouble........

"feminine loigic is a contradiction of terms"--quote from my dad.

Damn, to actually get the go ahead on cheating, that's unheard of.

I told a guy about this at work today and he suggested that it might be due to menopause (she is in her late thirties). I've never heard of women losing sex drive due to menopause...

 

[milo hobgoblin]

any married man who puts up with tthat shit for more than a few weeks is an idiot.

any woman who is too selfish and/or stupid to realize how important sex is to a man and how much in menas to men in terms of a relationship doesnt deserve a man at all.

 

[Badbart]

any married man who puts up with tthat shit for more than a few weeks is an idiot.

any woman who is too selfish and/or stupid to realize how important sex is to a man and how much in menas to men in terms of a relationship doesnt deserve a man at all.

Bump this, I learned this the hard way.

 

[DJ_UFO]

He should get divorced. And the reason is, for us, men, sex is more important. Girls always will say "you are an animal", "you don't think in other things". Well, we don't think in other things because we are men. And women are selfish. Women always will try to make you think as a woman and that's not fair. He's young and full of life. Take your buddy out of that living hell NOW.

 

[bluetwistedsteel67]

ok, tell your buddy to pump his brakes and really look for a solution. I was in the same boat. My wife had just lost that drive and it's tough to deal with because you want to feel desired and lusted after by your wife. I'm sure he still wants her as much as he ever has which was the case with me. In the talks I had with my wife when we were going through tis she told me she always ENJOYS the sex and certainly never regrets it afterwards but the initial "drive" just isn't there. I talked to her about testosterone cream in a 10% strength and we did our research. She has been using it for about 5 weeks and it has changed our lives. She is happier, more energetic and is truthfully wearing me out. I cannot believe the change. We went from probably once a week (maybe twice in a great week) to 5x per week. She gets more wet, is more orgasmic and best of all just wants to initiate all the time. Test is THE sex hormone and will do the trick, believe me.

 

[Forge]

ok, tell your buddy to pump his brakes and really look for a solution. I was in the same boat. My wife had just lost that drive and it's tough to deal with because you want to feel desired and lusted after by your wife. I'm sure he still wants her as much as he ever has which was the case with me. In the talks I had with my wife when we were going through tis she told me she always ENJOYS the sex and certainly never regrets it afterwards but the initial "drive" just isn't there. I talked to her about testosterone cream in a 10% strength and we did our research. She has been using it for about 5 weeks and it has changed our lives. She is happier, more energetic and is truthfully wearing me out. I cannot believe the change. We went from probably once a week (maybe twice in a great week) to 5x per week. She gets more wet, is more orgasmic and best of all just wants to initiate all the time. Test is THE sex hormone and will do the trick, believe me.

Woah, nice response, thanks. I read some more on menopause during lunch today and now I think it might just be that. Where can I find more about exactly what you bought? I'm going to try to talk him into joining tonight to get involved with this thread, I'll at least show it to him. You are correct in that he doesn't really want to leave, but he feels frustrated and like she doesn't care for him anymore. Maybe my advice was a little hasty, I never realized menopause was such a sex-killer.


DAMN, my wife is 41, I probably don't have too much longer to go....

 

[milo hobgoblin]

LOL.. bro my girlfriend is 40 and fucks like a porn star.. you got a LONG way to go..

my biggest fear would be marrying her and shutting that shit down..