Last night I asked my girl to go down on me while I was driving us home.

[curling]

She doesn't even like me to go down on her , yes, she's THAT old fashioned i fuckin hate it, i KNOW there are many many women out there who would be fun as hell and WANT to try different things , who would love to loose control and be takin over the edge .

If we didn't have kids, you bet your ass i'd be gone BIG TIME .
I haven't fucked around ever, but boy have i been tempted many many times !

T [/B]

See this is the type of thing I was talking about in my thread. I think alot of this time it is the womens fault why a guy strays(but I appreciate dudelifts commitment to her. btw was she like that when you married her dudelift? But in Dudelift's position he is married so he has more of a commitment than you do crash.

I would find another girl. I mean you said she has gotten fat anyway so find a skinny one that knows how to be fun. Don't stay with her and end up being unhappy for the rest of your life.

My wife is pretty good in bed she does just about anything but she too doesn't ever initiate which would be nice every once in a while. Hell, us dudes got egos too?

 

[killerass]

I agree with alot of what Raina said. Sounds to me like she is depressed, stressed or not happy in the relationship on other levels or maybe in another major area in her life. Women tend to withdraw from sex when there are other things that are occupying their mind. The only thing I slightly disagree with is the idea that sex in different positions may feel dirty to her. Don't get me wrong - I love sex and in all positions, but there are times when I want intimate sex and doing it from behind etc is a little distancing, in those times I have my b/f lean into me and kiss my neck etc to bring us in a more intimate position. She may be the kind of woman who needs the intimacy more than the big "O" or any other part of the sex. However, a relationship is give and take and if she is not satisfying your needs and it's something you guys can't comprimise on, then she may not be the one that is meant for you. Try and find out if it is really about the sex for her or if there is something else wrong in her life,, then make your decision.

 

[crash3837]

Well its been a long time since I've posted on this thread, but I just wanted to say to everyone that shortly after this thread we had a talk about this subject. In the past I've asked her why she did not like to go down on me, and she used to say because she doesn't get anything from it (which I still don't understand). She asked me if I got off from going down on her and I said yes,,, she had a hard time understanding this, so I had to explain to her that the reason it turns me on is because I know or can tell when she is getting something out of it.
She then came straight out and asked me " What do you want" I kind of sat there without saying anything for a little bit while she started saying " Well I know you want to try anal, but I really don't like that"
So I then went on to say its not that, its just I want her to at least try, have fun with it, be spontanious ect, be a little bit kinkey, just do little things because the little things do count. She then went on to say that she does't know what to do or how to be sexual creative, because I'm the only person she's ever had a steady sexual relationship with. I told her this is not rocket science just do things that are fun and exciting ect so it doesn't have to be a checklist. She almost started getting a little touchy saying what do you want me to do be like those porno girls, but then she dropped it and said that she will try.
Its been about a month now and she is trying I think she could try harder but there has been some progress so we'll see how it goes form here.

 

[FreakMonster]

Well its been a long time since I've posted on this thread, but I just wanted to say to everyone that shortly after this thread we had a talk about this subject. In the past I've asked her why she did not like to go down on me, and she used to say because she doesn't get anything from it (which I still don't understand). She asked me if I got off from going down on her and I said yes,,, she had a hard time understanding this, so I had to explain to her that the reason it turns me on is because I know or can tell when she is getting something out of it.
She then came straight out and asked me " What do you want" I kind of sat there without saying anything for a little bit while she started saying " Well I know you want to try anal, but I really don't like that"
So I then went on to say its not that, its just I want her to at least try, have fun with it, be spontanious ect, be a little bit kinkey, just do little things because the little things do count. She then went on to say that she does't know what to do or how to be sexual creative, because I'm the only person she's ever had a steady sexual relationship with. I told her this is not rocket science just do things that are fun and exciting ect so it doesn't have to be a checklist. She almost started getting a little touchy saying what do you want me to do be like those porno girls, but then she dropped it and said that she will try.
Its been about a month now and she is trying I think she could try harder but there has been some progress so we'll see how it goes form here.

You need to be her teacher bro. Tell her how to do it and what feels good for you. If she keeps doing it she will like it.

It seems like she VERY UPTIGHT about sex and needs to loosen up. Maybe if she has a couple drinks she will loosen up and she won't be so uptight when you want to try anal with her.

I know how you must feel bro, very fucking FRUSTRATED but you just need to make her feel comfortable and make her feel like it's enjoyable and NOT DIRTY.

 

[crash3837]

FreakMonster easyier said than done. I was once a teacher to an exgirlfriend and I don't really know if I want to be the teacher again.

 

[M56M]

crash3837 ,

I have actually sat here and read every single post on the thread. Becuase i was in the same exact situation, or at least was, we have been together 9 months. I couldn't get my girl to give me head, she wouldn't let me eat her out, etc.

Well i started taking the initiative, once in the act of sex just be MORE aggressive. I mean when you are fooling around, go eat her out, and when she tries to stop you, say NO....and EAT HER OUT!!! I mean do everything in your power to put her in heaven. Then try to get her to suck you dick. And if you can get daring enough, 69!!!!! Once you start teaching her just a little bit, i promise you she will come around.

Its exactly what you a said "she has never had a REAL sex relationship", same with my girl.

I can't bet that she has never been FUCKED, kinda wierd to say but she could have been with guys who just wanted boring old sex(believe me i don't understand it either)!!! Actually last night in a comment about sex she told me, that she had never been FUCKED before me, i had to use like 3 pillows to go to sleep my head got so big, this coming from a girl who didn't like to use the word "fuck" when talking about sex.

Now i get road head, start fingering her, and the next thing you know we are pulled over and i am fucking her doggie style from the passenger seat.

BTW, i still haven't gotten her to go anal, but i am working on it.

M56M

 

[crash3837]

M56M, its not that she will not let me go down on her, and that she won't try 69 its just sometimes made out to be a big chore.
I'm working on the anal thing,,, almost had it in the other night.

 

[M56M]

M56M, its not that she will not let me go down on her, and that she won't try 69 its just sometimes made out to be a big chore.

Doesn't she enjoy it once you are in the act? What i did when my girl was all tense is i owuld get massage oils and massage her for like 15 minutes, when i was done she was like a swimming pool, then i would go down on her. Have you tried the massage thing it works great!!!

I'm working on the anal thing,,, almost had it in the other night.

Well Congrads bro, i am trying but running in circles getting no where, thank goodness the regular sex is banging.

M56M

 

[Longhorn85]

BTW, i still haven't gotten her to go anal, but i am working on it.

M56M

What is your approach to get her to go anal?

 

[M56M]

What is your approach to get her to go anal?

Ok well lets say i am 'planning' to go for it, i will do everything in my power to get her as horny as possible.

Its a process....
massage with oil(drives her fucking nuts)
then i eat her out....
start licking her ass a little(which makes her...say 'no' )
then i will keep doing it...
starting fingering her, and then start to accidentally idea: ) move my way in...
but then she stops me, (i obviously keep trying until i know it ain't happening)
then we have some pretty good damn sex.

M56M