Ladies be honest

[lil'tangerine]

I have. I think I was also a different person then. I didn't really know what I want and in the process of changing my mind a lot, I really dragged a couple of guys through the mud. I feel bad for it now.

Raina, I've done the same thing...It's unfortunate, but we hopefully learn from the mistakes we make. I have grown up since then and know what it is I want...I've also been dragged through the mud by a couple of guys...which sped up the process. I am the only one that can make ME happy.

 

[Bella Michela]

yea it was fun at the time...I'm not proud of it.

I used this guy to write a couple of papers for me in college. Got an A on both of them.

I got a couple tickets in the city one night, this other guy I took for a sucker paid for them.

Alot of guys bought things for me... List goes on and on.

Best part is all I had to do was be nice & smile. Worst part was trying to get rid of them.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

There are only 2 guys I have treated badly....one really bad, the other so-so. I didn't take advantage of them, but I did not treat them the way they deserved to be treated.But, most of it was due to emotionally immaturity...not really caring that others had feelings, putting myself above all else. Not that putting yourself first is bad, but not at the expense of others. I was younger and immature.

But on the flip side, I have been mistreated by several men too....verbally, emotionally, even physically. My self-esteem issues actually stem from the emotional abuse I took from an ex. I don't blame any of them though....nobody can shit on you unless you give them permission. I let my immaturity and emotional issues (abandonment) blind me to their problems.

I see a balance here......I was mistreated, to then I mistreated others. Must be the Libra in me...always seeking a balance.

I have never taken advantage of anyone, male or female. I would never use someone to get what I want simply for selfish purposes. To me, that is manipulative.

 

[Werd]

I am in a position to REALLY use a guy... he is BEGGING to be used. But I can't do it. On the one hand, he is such a nice guy, but he came off so needy that I got scared away. He is not really my type, but not bad to look at, is a successful accountant - WILL NOT GO AWAY and since I am not busy with anyone else (nor do I want to be really).... He WANTS to "help" me and I am sooooooooo in a position where I need it. But I don't want to be his girlfriend...

I don't want to be anyone's girlfriend.

I totally blew him off about a month ago and he just emailed me again the other day.

My "guy" meter is sooooo off (has been since I was old enough to know "what" guys were) LOL. I have given so many total abusive assholes so many fucking chances... what could be the harm in giving this guy another one? He whigged me a little last month, but he didn't come around or call, just sent me a few emails where he seemed a little "out there". As long as I am upfront (which I have been from the word go) then it isn't like I am really treating him badly.... is it?

Gosh, I hate that I can't figure the most basic relationship shit out. I feel like I really am 17... It depresses the hell out of me. Either I go on gobs of ONE-time-only dates or I end up developing feelings for assholes (or just guys that I should have them for).

Somebody just fucking shoot me already and put me out of my misery.

I'm a fucking grown woman, yet I am TOTALLY retarded about the most basic shit.

 

[L_Seven]

Yes, of course and I've apologized for it but won't grovel about it either.

same here...

 

[RottenWillow]

I realize I'm running the risk of sounding snotty here but I hope you guys who are more familiar with me will realize that isnt the case at all.

I think if your looks are such that a lot of dudes are jocking you then you are more likely to screw over some of them. You can get flaky on them, not really consider their feelings, use them a bit. With me personally I got a big ass head for a few years when I "blossomed" (sounds gay, sorry) and all of a sudden I had mass quantities of dudes buzzing around. I know there was a period of time when I seriously did not really consider guys feelings much. I had to learn that guys can become every bit as emotionally attached as a girl (even though they deny it) and in a pretty short period of time.

I just turned 21 last week and I like to think I'm WAAAAY more mature than I was even 3 years ago. So many things I used to do I avoid now. Just one little example is not sending pics to guys over the Internet which I used to run wide doing. Apart from attracting crazy stalker freaks it just sent the wrong message. I'm reminding of the flirting thread I posted on in the "player's forum" and how irresponsible it can be.

Man I could go on for a while. I gotta cut myself now before I bore everyone. LOL.

 

[Werd]

Not bored at all... Seriously, I am closer to 40 than 30 but because I have so little relationship experience (know EXACTLY how to be a wife - but no clue on the girlfriend thing) I feel like a total dork when it comes to this shit.

I feel like an idiot... God, I hate being like this. WTF is my problem?

 

[RottenWillow]

As long as I am upfront (which I have been from the word go) then it isn't like I am really treating him badly.... is it?

No it is not. End of story. Now stop mind fucking yourself over that.


And why KEEP going out on single dates with dudes? Hell do it for the next 5 fricking years...what's the rush? Have fun, be causual. Keep laying it down for every dude. Like "I am not looking for a relationship now, if that's what you want then keep stepping homie, I do not play games AT ALL, if I even suspect you're starting anything like that you wont be hearing from me ever again".

And STOP rushing yourself. You know how to be a wife because you learned how to be a wife. You'll learn how to be a girlfriend eventually but there's no need to even worry about that now.

 

[Werd]

No it is not. End of story. Now stop mind fucking yourself over that.


And why KEEP going out on single dates with dudes? Hell do it for the next 5 fricking years...what's the rush? Have fun, be causual. Keep laying it down for every dude. Like "I am not looking for a relationship now, if that's what you want then keep stepping homie, I do not play games AT ALL, if I even suspect you're starting anything like that you wont be hearing from me ever again".

And STOP rushing yourself. You know how to be a wife because you learned how to be a wife. You'll learn how to be a girlfriend eventually but there's no need to even worry about that now.

Yes mom.

I really appreciate all the time you guys take to help me out with these things that should be second nature for a woman my age... thank you.

 

[RottenWillow]

that should be second nature for a woman my age...

Says who? Where's that written?


Seriously you say stuff like that a lot I noticed. Your ass must be black and blue from all the times you kicked it yourself.