Is it Puppy Love?

[THeMaCHinE]

Here's what this is really about and her motivations

I particularly like the last couple lines of the fourth quote. That is who this person is.

MANOFARMS .... no slut here ... just a stay-at-home mommy who's daddy is always away working too many long hours! It gets lonely ... and after ump-teen years with the same dude ... what's wrong with a little "fun and excitement"!! I guess it's different if a guy says he wants to get fucked, but hey, if a girl says she just wants to get fucked ... she's automatically labeled a slut, huh? Like that earlier post said, "I don't want relationship, I just want bang, bang!" I know where he's been, and he know's where I've been .... OH! No! now I'm going to be labelled something else because I'm "Planning on Cheating on my Husband" ... Oh well, what he don't know, won't hurt!


Say la vie!

Hey Whatevrmn -- Whatever!

There isn't anything "broke" ... so I can't fix it!! I knew somebody would say something about the fact that I'm married ... whatever!!! and I'm not getting a divorce, why should I?! I owe no explanation of this!

I just want to have some fun! No strings attached!! Whatever!

As far as I'm concern, there is nothing wrong with this! You only come this way once ... mine as welll do what ever you want!!! He'll never know! And, when I wake up in the morning and look myself in the mirror ... I won't feel the least bit guilty! In fact, I'll be smiling! So, what ... I'm an evil person ?? Oh well, I'd rather be evil and loving life!

I don't want, nor am I looking for any of that "commitment" mumble jumble ... I don't have time for that .... I just want the pure satisfaction of the physical sexual pleasure without the emotional involvement!!

LMAO!!!

I'm just trying to share all this love ... not with just anybody but with one person inparticular! I'm just having some fun!! I guess I have no moral conscience!! Is that such a horrible thing?! (a rhetorical question!) .... he'll never know! How would he ever! find out??? I might be crazy, but I'm not stupid enough to get caught!! He'd stay with me anyway! I have his babies! Oooooohhhh, I'm so evil!!! LMAO!!!

 

[Austin316]

ok seriously ifyour cheating on your husband then I hope you get what you fucking deserve, and believe me its NO happiness, goddammit people are deplorable nd don't know the meaning of the ord respect anymore

 

[Austin316]

yea, shit if I were yor husband and I found out Id slap you from here till next week, goddamm this is why i have no faith in people, worthless scum

 

[Burning Desire]

Ya ... I did say all that ... but emotions and real life have a way of changing ...

I really did fall in love ... and I've obviously been "outta love" for the old man a long long time coming.... otherwise, it wouldn't have come to this.

nobody has all the answers... most of all me.

every circumstance is different ... including this one that I'm in.

goodbye ef.

 

[Austin316]

godamm why coudn't youof just divorced him if you were unhappy? Are you proud that your actions might crush antother persons soul that you once loved and prob loves you? shit cheaters can all burn in hell, that shit is ridiculous

and btw, if your son to be ex decides to rataliate onis so called "love of your life", know this, no matter what he does to him, its YOUR FAULT, you are to blame..shit I hpe it happens to

 

[Frackal]

Burning desire is obnoxious in excess

 

[jubei]

BD, good luck with life, I hope things work out for you.

 

[PBR]

ILLUSIONS: Every fantasy, be it of love or hate, deprives you of knowledge for fantasies are the veil behind which truth is hidden. To lift the veil that seems so dark and heavy, it is only needful to value truth beyond all fantasy, and to be intirely unwilling to settle for illusions in place of truth...What is temptation...but a wish to make illusions real.....

 

[THeMaCHinE]

Ya ... I did say all that ... but emotions and real life have a way of changing ...

I really did fall in love ... and I've obviously been "outta love" for the old man a long long time coming.... otherwise, it wouldn't have come to this.

nobody has all the answers... most of all me.

every circumstance is different ... including this one that I'm in.

goodbye ef.

BD, yes, you are in love -- humans have the capacity to love more than one at the same time; the problem is that the love you have built with the OM is based upon fantasy and illusion. You're in the honeymoon stages with the OM -- real, mature love is something much different (as I'm sure deep down, you must suspect). Question -- is the OM married too?

Your circumstances are not different or unique, it's actually quite shocking how much commonality there is in affairs. People even use the same words and phrases. Hit the site in my sig. Read the letters from people involved in affairs, you'll see.

You have been "outta love" with your H for a long time. Granted. But you were in love with him when you married him, right? I know it seems like a long time ago, but try to remember...

You can choose, along with your husband, to restore that love and restore your family. You truly can be happy with him again if you choose it and you both are willing to work at it. I know it's not appealing because of everything you've established with the OM; and quite honestly, it's impossible to reconcile (even if you wanted to) while the OM is still in the picture, but at least think about the concept that you and your H could love eachother fully again. And better than you ever have before.

Wouldn't that be great? And if it happened, wouldn't that love be so passionate and intense (because it will be based on mature love) that it would wipe away all of the shit you're going through now? What if your husband found a job that kept him in town, devoted time to you, *really* listened to what you need? It is possible you know.

If you want to move him down that road, tell him what is going on. The vast majority of marriages that affairs are exposed in attempt to reconcile. Sometimes men have to be aware that they are losing something they value to really understand how much they valued that person and how much they took that person for granted. Many of these relationships fail because they do not have the tools to heal. This doesn't have to happen.

Take some time at the site in my sig. You can take the information or leave it -- nothing's lost if you find it doesn't agree with you. Do it for your kids if nothing else.

Again, I have little hope that you'll actually heed these words. Most people in your situation, akin to alcoholism, need to hit rock bottom before they start looking up. I say this more for me than you so that I'm not as dissappointed when I find I've spent my time for naught.

Give yourself permission to think about these concepts and evaluate the information at the site I've given you. Just evaluating doesn't mean that you agree or disagree with anything that I've said, just that you have an open mind and are willing to momentarily step back and evaluate things.

Good luck.

 

[PBR]

good post MACHINE.....I wish that my ex had wanted to do that....tragic.