I will not sleep tonight.

[gonelifting]

"Drama" is a relative term. One person's drama could be someone elses "good morning hun".


Frankly, I'm surprised at Biteme for geting himself into this mess. From all his posts I thought he was beyond that, and knew better. Maybe it does get you from left field. Who knows. Gotta give him some slack.

 

[blueta2]

Biteme...please read this link. I really hope this helps you. Be alone for a while and feel better

http://www.nmha.org/infoctr/factsheets/43.cfm

 

[Bikini Mod]

"Drama" is a relative term. One person's drama could be someone elses "good morning hun".


Frankly, I'm surprised at Biteme for geting himself into this mess. From all his posts I thought he was beyond that, and knew better. Maybe it does get you from left field. Who knows. Gotta give him some slack.

I am NOT taking a cheap shot here because that would be like the pot talking to the kettle - I have had my fair share of drama with my fuckwad ex.

But Biteme keeps attracting and KEEPING these women around because he doesnt know any other way to engage a woman.

Took me a long time and a lot of therapy to snap out of the same pattern. But now that I have figured that part of myself out... it is SOOOOOOOO nice.

 

[Frisky]

I must correct ya here Frisk...she is not doing anything to him. He is making choices and doing it all to himself.
She has no gun to his head.
Biteme obviously has an intense need for this drama or we would not be reading all these posts on his on and off again situation.

We all make decisions that in time we regret, he seems to truely care for this girl and she's taking that to her advantage. Have you ever cared for someone and allowed flaw's to subside because of it? I know I have, with family and friends. She knows the course of her actions and is playing in her field. She knows he loves her and if she googles up to him the storm cloud blows over and all is well until the NEXT episode of drama. I (and if you read correctly) said I don't know her and she may be a wonderful woman... but he's allowed her to do this to him over and over again and its not healthy... therfore he needs to bail. BE DONE with all this bullshit.

If you know B, and have talked to him then you will know that he's a very giving person, she apparently also knows this and is taking it to her full advantage. Its sad what we will do and take from those we love, but sometimes that is life.

It can be looked at two ways... what is the difference between this and a woman whom is beat up often by her bf, and doesn't leave because 'he loves her?' emotional and physical abuse are on the same playing field IMO. Its not only women whom endure these speed bumps, men do too. Its hard to let love go and move on, and seems B has love for this girl, and wants to make something that isn't there. She's taking advantage of his sympathy and his kindheart. Thats all I'm saying, she knows what she's doing and I'll be damned if I will say he's wrong in this situation. She is an adult, as is he. He needs to just walk away, she's no damn fool... She's no virgin to this drama either.

 

[H_T_]

i will walk right out the front door, (or bathroom window). the first sign of nonsense. the scales have to be tilted completely in my favor, or i walk.

 

[AAP]

for the love of God someone tell me what she did.

 

[blueta2]

_____

 

[blueta2]

We all make decisions that in time we regret, he seems to truely care for this girl and she's taking that to her advantage. Have you ever cared for someone and allowed flaw's to subside because of it? I know I have, with family and friends. She knows the course of her actions and is playing in her field. She knows he loves her and if she googles up to him the storm cloud blows over and all is well until the NEXT episode of drama. I (and if you read correctly) said I don't know her and she may be a wonderful woman... but he's allowed her to do this to him over and over again and its not healthy... therfore he needs to bail. BE DONE with all this bullshit.

If you know B, and have talked to him then you will know that he's a very giving person, she apparently also knows this and is taking it to her full advantage. Its sad what we will do and take from those we love, but sometimes that is life.

It can be looked at two ways... what is the difference between this and a woman whom is beat up often by her bf, and doesn't leave because 'he loves her?' emotional and physical abuse are on the same playing field IMO. Its not only women whom endure these speed bumps, men do too. Its hard to let love go and move on, and seems B has love for this girl, and wants to make something that isn't there. She's taking advantage of his sympathy and his kindheart. Thats all I'm saying, she knows what she's doing and I'll be damned if I will say he's wrong in this situation. She is an adult, as is he. He needs to just walk away, she's no damn fool... She's no virgin to this drama either.

Yeah my ex was (and am sure still is) a drug addict and I allowed him to mistreat our relationship. It was a few yrs of hell with him. I stayed, I made a mistake I rectified it and I hope Biteme can also.

 

[Bikini Mod]

We all make decisions that in time we regret, he seems to truely care for this girl and she's taking that to her advantage. Have you ever cared for someone and allowed flaw's to subside because of it? I know I have, with family and friends. She knows the course of her actions and is playing in her field. She knows he loves her and if she googles up to him the storm cloud blows over and all is well until the NEXT episode of drama. I (and if you read correctly) said I don't know her and she may be a wonderful woman... but he's allowed her to do this to him over and over again and its not healthy... therfore he needs to bail. BE DONE with all this bullshit.

If you know B, and have talked to him then you will know that he's a very giving person, she apparently also knows this and is taking it to her full advantage. Its sad what we will do and take from those we love, but sometimes that is life.

It can be looked at two ways... what is the difference between this and a woman whom is beat up often by her bf, and doesn't leave because 'he loves her?' emotional and physical abuse are on the same playing field IMO. Its not only women whom endure these speed bumps, men do too. Its hard to let love go and move on, and seems B has love for this girl, and wants to make something that isn't there. She's taking advantage of his sympathy and his kindheart. Thats all I'm saying, she knows what she's doing and I'll be damned if I will say he's wrong in this situation. She is an adult, as is he. He needs to just walk away, she's no damn fool... She's no virgin to this drama either.

Whose fault was it that I chose to remain in an emotionally abusive marriage that ended when it finally escalated to physical abuse after 13 years? I accept full responsibility for my role but I was barely 21.

Now I am pushing 40 and because of my children I am tied to that bastard forever. Could you as a mother "let go" of the only thing tying you to Lucipher?.... think on that for a moment. You dont have to answer.

Now... 20 years and lots of therapy later NO ONE ABUSES ME. Because I wont allow it. No lying, no cheating, no yelling, no screaming, no taking advantage of because I said NO MORE.

My sister and her family are my only family. The rest are abusive and I have no time for them. Call it cold-hearted. I call it self-preservation.

This is not assign the blame game. The bitch is whacked especially when another man wants to care for her child. Men like that dont come around every day. But - biteme has to assume responsibility for his role. The BITCH played him and he should chalk it up to "life lesson" and move on before he REALLY gets hurt.... butterfly knife?!

 

[biteme]

Thanks for all the concern. I'm truly done with her now that I know the truth. I am not blinded anymore.. I need to get some rest so I'm going to sleep for awhile.