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BIKINIMOM said:Whose fault was it that I chose to remain in an emotionally abusive marriage that ended when it finally escalated to physical abuse after 13 years? I accept full responsibility for my role but I was barely 21.
Now I am pushing 40 and because of my children I am tied to that bastard forever. Could you as a mother "let go" of the only thing tying you to Lucipher?.... think on that for a moment. You dont have to answer.
Now... 20 years and lots of therapy later NO ONE ABUSES ME. Because I wont allow it. No lying, no cheating, no yelling, no screaming, no taking advantage of because I said NO MORE.
My sister and her family are my only family. The rest are abusive and I have no time for them. Call it cold-hearted. I call it self-preservation.
This is not assign the blame game. The bitch is whacked especially when another man wants to care for her child. Men like that dont come around every day. But - biteme has to assume responsibility for his role. The BITCH played him and he should chalk it up to "life lesson" and move on before he REALLY gets hurt.... butterfly knife?!
Oh believe me... theres alot more to my story than I would EVER post here on EF. I ASSUME RESPONSIBILIYT, for allowing bullshit like that to happen. I've never been abused (as you have) and thats because of my bitchy strong attitude and having to stand up for myself for years on end.
Though I strongly believe B should have bailed the first go round, whom is the victim here? None of us know right? none of us are sitting in his home seeing what goes on. AND AS I HAVE STATED... she may be a great girl, I don't know. He's allowed her to walk all over him over and over in hopes of making something out of nothing. She took advantage of it. She also knows her actions and how to work them to her advantage.
In a nutshell, he just needs to bail... while he can and before it gets ugly.
