I have made some decisions

[chesty]

Thanks bro. The ball is in her court now. She says she is abiding by the counselors rules for the 6 months of no partying, no looking, no getting, especially with said ex-dude (which she still has to actually tell it is over, not just stop seeing him) celibit even between us until the counselor says it is cool to not be (just between us)

The counselor told me to sit down, shut up, hang on and get ready for the roller coaster ride of my life! She said it could go way south and get ugly before it gets better because this dude is still in the shadows and will be until she actually tells him to take a hike. But the first week of separation like this was not fun for me. She didn't do so well I think. Had some mood swings, etc. Of course when it is her turn to leave the house, she is really excited which makes me think that she still has not got it yet. This is serious business. She may think she is a good liar, but the counselor will nail her ass every time on it. However, I really do believe she does not have any intentions on seeing him again (although, he might and of course that would be okay since she didn't intend on seeing him, he intended on seeing her) and hasn't. But, she still needs to physically call it quits. If he gives her grief on it, I will get 10 of fellow Marines to pay said person a visit with a gift from Uncle Sam.

I have to believe she is where she says she is, is not sleeping with said dude and is not intending on sleeping with him again, not partying, looking, etc. This gets one in trouble.

If I don't believe her I will never heal myself. But, whatever happens do not lie to me! She has already done that with this dude, it would be wise not to do it againe.

 

[biteme]

Thanks bro. The ball is in her court now. She says she is abiding by the counselors rules for the 6 months of no partying, no looking, no getting, especially with said ex-dude (which she still has to actually tell it is over, not just stop seeing him) celibit even between us until the counselor says it is cool to not be (just between us)

The counselor told me to sit down, shut up, hang on and get ready for the roller coaster ride of my life! She said it could go way south and get ugly before it gets better because this dude is still in the shadows and will be until she actually tells him to take a hike. But the first week of separation like this was not fun for me. She didn't do so well I think. Had some mood swings, etc. Of course when it is her turn to leave the house, she is really excited which makes me think that she still has not got it yet. This is serious business. She may think she is a good liar, but the counselor will nail her ass every time on it. However, I really do believe she does not have any intentions on seeing him again (although, he might and of course that would be okay since she didn't intend on seeing him, he intended on seeing her) and hasn't. But, she still needs to physically call it quits. If he gives her grief on it, I will get 10 of fellow Marines to pay said person a visit with a gift from Uncle Sam.

I have to believe she is where she says she is, is not sleeping with said dude and is not intending on sleeping with him again, not partying, looking, etc. This gets one in trouble.

If I don't believe her I will never heal myself. But, whatever happens do not lie to me! She has already done that with this dude, it would be wise not to do it againe.

Amen. She should come clean with you. From what you've said, you were probably an overbearing abusive husband, but the things that she has done are wrong. Do you have children? I hope yall can get it worked out.

 

[chesty]

The counselor told me we would be fine. (of course, no guarantee)

Oh, I was a major prick. I would also want her to gather anything and everything that she wore for him, he touched, paid for, gave money for, gave as a gift, jewelry, any money, etc.

Put it all in front of me, including any and all pictures as well. I will start a fire and incinerate every item

 

[Gambino]

bro, sometimes in a relationship it is easy to accept less than good treatment...kinda like better than nothing. I've been there, not easy. You deserve 5 star treatment bro, if your not getting tha, then you need to fold 'em, however hard it is. Look at it like this, you know that you are a quality person, having a partner who does not see this is a insult to your persona...my condolences...

 

[chesty]

If I had been treating her right for the last 17 years I would agree. But I wasn't nor was she treating me right. So, we seem to be destined for each other, but then again, no gaurantees. I trust God will work through me and her and show us the way back together. Again, he doesn't have to answer our prayers in the way would like.

Only time will tell. I have at least 3 different congregations and members praying for her, me, us, and the kids as well as people from all over in general. Still could use more!

 

[biteme]

o.k. man, you got one more praying for you. You can do it.

 

[crew9]

I am going to ask the counselor if there shouldn't be some sort of deadline for breaking it off with this guy or else she is to leave the house, no kids, clothes on back. Of course the deadline wouldn't be known to her at all, just that there is a point and if she crosses it bye, bye.

I agree with everything you say and feel.... EXCEPT THIS.

THIS IS PLAIN WRONG.

This is only about mindgames, revenge and control. If you behave this way, then all the work you have been doing to become a better person yourself will go straight out the window.

Unless she is into drugs, drinking, abusing the kids, etc THERE IS NO REASON OR CALL FOR SUCH TREATMENT.

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Please explain to me how a wife who is doing nothing to fix their problems, who is out fucking around on him deserves to live in the house and have her shit payed for. I really would like to hear the explanation. Please don't give me one saying how it's not fair to her, the kids, etc. You need to let go of what happened in YOUR past when giving him advice. He's doing what he can to fix things and she is not. That is the present. So why does she deserve the benefits of being a wife when she is screwing him over?

 

[gotmilk]

She has saids she is no longer seeing dude, but still needs to actually call and break it off.

I say snipe the bastard and make it look like a drug deal gone bad

 

[Lumberg]

I am just going to put it back on her, by going out like she does and not telling her anything about what I am doing.

That's real mature.

 

[Werd]

Please explain to me how a wife who is doing nothing to fix their problems, who is out fucking around on him deserves to live in the house and have her shit payed for. I really would like to hear the explanation. Please don't give me one saying how it's not fair to her, the kids, etc. You need to let go of what happened in YOUR past when giving him advice. He's doing what he can to fix things and she is not. That is the present. So why does she deserve the benefits of being a wife when she is screwing him over?

You obviously glossed over the part where I clearly said that she NEEDS TO GET A JOB AND SUPPORT HERSERLF.

That is not the same as saying, "Get the fuck out of the house tonite with nothing but the clothes on your back, no car, no cash and WITHOUT YOUR CHILDREN."..... is it?

YOU need to let go of my past darlin' and better comprehend what is is that I am so simply writing.