I am SO Tired of fucking my Loved one

[BIGBUCK$]

get a chick on the side

 

[hardnosepbg]

Something doesn't make sense here. You guys have been together since you were about 18, you look better than ever and she's gaining weight but you clearly stated SHE is the one who isn't interested in you. Why do you think that is? Plus she's not taking care of herself ... sounds to me like you're s/o (wife/girlfriend) is short on time or energy, or unhappy about something. Either she's stressed, depressed, unhappy with life in general, or unhappy with you.

I gotta ask, while you're working out, going to clubs and flirting with younger women, while she's doing what? Staying home by herself?

Over the past 2 years we have seperated 3 times...that is when I went out and realized how much attention I could get...however I never accepted their attention other than innocent flirting. Yes, we got married when I was 19 and she was 20. Now I'm 30 and she's soon to turn 31. Dated 2 years before that..one of my high school sweethearts. I regularly make her bubble bathes with candle light with a glass of wine, cook nice dinners for her, bring home flowers at least once a month, take her out on the town when she is willing to go, and ect. I feel very unappreciated and unwanted. It was never like this when we were younger. I noticed a change in my wife when she became a school teacher. Her whole attitude changed. She became prudish...like I wasn't good enough for her anymore or something. At least thats the vibe I get. anyways....thats my story and I'm stickin to it.

 

[musclemom]

Over the past 2 years we have seperated 3 times...that is when I went out and realized how much attention I could get...however I never accepted their attention other than innocent flirting. Yes, we got married when I was 19 and she was 20. Now I'm 30 and she's soon to turn 31. Dated 2 years before that..one of my high school sweethearts. I regularly make her bubble bathes with candle light with a glass of wine, cook nice dinners for her, bring home flowers at least once a month, take her out on the town when she is willing to go, and ect. I feel very unappreciated and unwanted. It was never like this when we were younger. I noticed a change in my wife when she became a school teacher. Her whole attitude changed. She became prudish...like I wasn't good enough for her anymore or something. At least thats the vibe I get. anyways....thats my story and I'm stickin to it.

You sound like a good guy, take it as I'm saying it, you're facing a fact of life that is the major problem of young marriage, the late 20s mental shift -- and I'm speaking as a woman who got married at 18 going on 19. Honestly, do yourselves a favor: 1) go up to her and say, this isn't working anymore, I genuinely wish you well or 2) ask her if she wants to try couples therapy (knowing you might still end up saying #1).

It's a neurologic fact that our brains go through major changes in our mid 20s, and those changes create a different way of looking at life. Essentially, she isn't the woman you married (just like you aren't the man SHE married). Look at your new interests, different life focuses, I bet you can say the same about her.

I'm not saying to give up, but I am saying that sometimes you just have to look at things with different eyes. If both of your values have dramatically changed it's like you're horses pulling in opposite directions instead of a team. Nobody gets anywhere and everyone is unhappy.

 

[rnch]

just close your eyes


and


FAN-TA-SIZZZZZZEE!

 

[Lestat]

sad but true for most

 

[HodgeMN]

Have you tried couples counseling? If you want to save the relationship, this would be a good option. Most medical plans will cover this. Just be honest and open during the sessions. This would be a good step in determining if the relationship can be salvaged....

 

[EnderJE]

Maybe she's gay?

 

[EnderJE]

Wait. You said school teacher, right? She's not one of those school teachers who's banging the students, eh?

 

[digimon7068]

my wife and i have been banging like a screen door in a hurricane for over 18 years now and it's never gotten boring. . .i guess we're just weird. . .

 

[glover]

I've been with the same woman for 20 years. With a few hiccups along the way.
Do yourself a favor tell her what you want give her every chance to meet your needs.
Also ask her what she wants and do it. If she has no desire to make you happy then you consider alternatives.

But if you leave you might find the same issues with someone new 10 years down the road.