I am going to get a woman

[gonelifting]

That works in your experience? what kind of success rate did you have in your player days? What was your approach? Just talk and make them laugh?

I never really had a problem with women. I always went for women who attracted me. Every conversation I had was to show me if I wanted to pursue her afterwards or not. Sometimes you talk for a minute and decide, she`s not right for you and move on.

I DID make them laugh a lot. That`s not really the only way, it was just my way of doing it. YOU HAVE TO PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES. Women want the same thing as everyone else. They want to meet a nice person that will make them happy and have a good time. SHOW THEM THAT you can be that person with your conversation, then ask them out. It`s not hard at all. It does`t have to be a long prewritten invitation, just "Can I call you?" Will do wonders. If they say "YES" They are saying yes to so much more than just calling her. Thdy are saying "YES I want you and me to try and make a relationship and hopefully something can come of this becaus I DO want the same thing as all my girlfriends want." lol

 

[Lao Tzu]

I never really had a problem with women. I always went for women who attracted me. Every conversation I had was to show me if I wanted to pursue her afterwards or not. Sometimes you talk for a minute and decide, she`s not right for you and move on.

I DID make them laugh a lot. That`s not really the only way, it was just my way of doing it. YOU HAVE TO PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES. Women want the same thing as everyone else. They want to meet a nice person that will make them happy and have a good time. SHOW THEM THAT you can be that person with your conversation, then ask them out. It`s not hard at all. It does`t have to be a long prewritten invitation, just "Can I call you?" Will do wonders. If they say "YES" They are saying yes to so much more than just calling her. Thdy are saying "YES I want you and me to try and make a relationship and hopefully something can come of this becaus I DO want the same thing as all my girlfriends want." lol

Good advice, its obvious advice that 90% of people don't take or do. Most people don't really seem to take into consideration that you have to have something before you ask a girl out, something about you that she would want or find attractive. Just asking out strangers doesn't seem productive unless you can first either build rappaport, similiarity, or show something(s) about you that are desirable to the girl first.

 

[Blade66]

this is the other thing that I am really worried about. ...

Blah blah blah

... I guess i gotta get past all these worries, and just find out if it is what is going to happen or not. I guess deep down inside me, I have a fear that I wont be able to find a girl that I have anything in common with, but the only way to dispell that fear is going to be by going out there and proving it to be wrong...

Blah blah blah blah blah

... Yes, it will be awkward when I do ask her out, no matter how long i've taken to build up to it though, that part sucks.

Goddamit, bro, I'm going to keelhaul your ass if you're not going to stop pretending to be a wussy. That's some fucked up, low self-esteem you got going. You're a good man. There ARE good women out there for you.
A girl saying "no" to you is NOT the worst thing that can happen. The worst thing that can happen is that you will do absolutely nothing to find that girl you want. Considering the fact that this is exactly what you have been doing up to this point, you can only do better from now on. Even if she'd say "no", it would be a positive thing, cause you'd make some progress in your search.
By the way, sooner or later, you will get a "No". there is not one person on this planet that would always get a "Yes".
In a way, It's sort of like when actors audition for a part in a play. If you're an actor and you get rejected, you can never ever ever take it personally - you are just not what they had in mind for that character. It does not mean you are a bad actor. You just were not right for that part. So you wait, and then go and try for another part (often a better! part). I mean how many times have you, for example, seen a woman, and thought "well, she's ok, and everybody else seems to be nuts about her, but I just don't find her intersting/attractive"?
If you like a girl, ask her out eventually, as the bro's here told you lots of times already.
You've got nothing to lose, obviously, and if she says no, then, what's the big fooking deal, mate? You just weren't right for the part. Talk to her some more, or move on.


Right, that's all nice and well, then, but here is the kicker, that just makes me want to break something:
While you're slowly dying behind this shiny shitbox, wasting your life away, and crying crocodile tears about how you can't build that stupid confidence up, some slimy, punk ass wigger, who's got those baggy pants half way down his legs, showing his smelly underwear to the whole world, is asking that girl out.
Does that not make you mad?

As brothers here mentioned already, you are a good man. Give yourself some credit, will you? And don't settle for fugly neither. Doesnt matter whether you need experience or not. If you're not attracted to some girl, move on, and don't waste your time.

Go out there, young one.
And as the good old Nobby would have said, "Take bloody charge, mate!"

 

[biteme]

Just wear a bra. It worked for me.

 

[alien amp pharm]

By the way, sooner or later, you will get a "No". there is not one person on this planet that would always get a "Yes".

Fonz does.

 

[Sub-Zero]

And hopefully, lets pray to God, that there will be some woman out there who is remotely attractive, and likes me back.

And once I find a woman like this, I am not going to worry about 'upgrading' if I see a woman out there who is hotter. Why? Because thats just wrong, and you should have a legitimate reason to upgrade, instead of saying: that chick is hotter than my girl.

this has gone beyond pathetic-

you have no hope for a legal lay, buy some roofies

 

[Sub-Zero]

totally, I will post pics, as long as they late me take them. I love taking pictures of beautiful girls. and thanks for the advice all!

why dont find windows that face big trees, climb up with your camera and binoculars and form your plan of attack while watching them undress

 

[Sub-Zero]

oh i have a followup question that will help me as well as fxygel

if you get a girls number and call them, and cant think of anything to talk about, like you are both quiet and its really weird and your having trouble using your deep phone voice because you have a stuffy nose, should you just snap the phone down and hang up and try the next girl, or just make small talk

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

"Whens gonna be my time, Lord! When!?"

haha
morose motherfucker
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[Lao Tzu]

Goddamit, bro, I'm going to keelhaul your ass if you're not going to stop pretending to be a wussy. That's some fucked up, low self-esteem you got going. You're a good man. There ARE good women out there for you.
A girl saying "no" to you is NOT the worst thing that can happen. The worst thing that can happen is that you will do absolutely nothing to find that girl you want. Considering the fact that this is exactly what you have been doing up to this point, you can only do better from now on. Even if she'd say "no", it would be a positive thing, cause you'd make some progress in your search.
By the way, sooner or later, you will get a "No". there is not one person on this planet that would always get a "Yes".
In a way, It's sort of like when actors audition for a part in a play. If you're an actor and you get rejected, you can never ever ever take it personally - you are just not what they had in mind for that character. It does not mean you are a bad actor. You just were not right for that part. So you wait, and then go and try for another part (often a better! part). I mean how many times have you, for example, seen a woman, and thought "well, she's ok, and everybody else seems to be nuts about her, but I just don't find her intersting/attractive"?
If you like a girl, ask her out eventually, as the bro's here told you lots of times already.
You've got nothing to lose, obviously, and if she says no, then, what's the big fooking deal, mate? You just weren't right for the part. Talk to her some more, or move on.


Right, that's all nice and well, then, but here is the kicker, that just makes me want to break something:
While you're slowly dying behind this shiny shitbox, wasting your life away, and crying crocodile tears about how you can't build that stupid confidence up, some slimy, punk ass wigger, who's got those baggy pants half way down his legs, showing his smelly underwear to the whole world, is asking that girl out.
Does that not make you mad?

As brothers here mentioned already, you are a good man. Give yourself some credit, will you? And don't settle for fugly neither. Doesnt matter whether you need experience or not. If you're not attracted to some girl, move on, and don't waste your time.

Go out there, young one.
And as the good old Nobby would have said, "Take bloody charge, mate!"

Damn, that was brilliant.

I think one of his concerns is that women don't want to be hit on though, i've heard him talk about that. That is a concern i have too. But it doesn't apply to all women, just 30% or so i would assume. I try to keep that in mind and pick up on body language or verbal language signals so i can get the hell out of dodge. It feels very demeaning to hit on someone who is offended by it.