I am going to get a woman

[fyxgel2]

I've had it for too long, its time I put a stop to this, its time I learn how to start approaching girls that I dont know that well, and learn to mack on them, and eventually ask them out, and then learn to date them.

Yea, I've decided that I dont care now even if they arent 'perfect' looking. I mean the heck, I aint perfect by any means. I'm willing to take a chick as long as I am somewhat attracted to them. Heck if I find a great hottie that wants to go out with me, sure that would be hella awesome. I would ask girls out even if they are more attractive then me, but I will also try asking out girls that arent super duper hot.

Yea, I got a lot to work on. I need to know how to mack on girls in public which I think are attractive. The problem is that when I want to do this, I am always afraid I'll get rejected. It feels like I will be rejected "everytime" no matter who I ask, or when. It feels like no girl in the world would want to have anyhting to do with me, as more than a friend.

I dont know if this mentality is true or not, but I need to break past it. I need to grow some balls, and I need to meet some women.

And hopefully, lets pray to God, that there will be some woman out there who is remotely attractive, and likes me back.

And once I find a woman like this, I am not going to worry about 'upgrading' if I see a woman out there who is hotter. Why? Because thats just wrong, and you should have a legitimate reason to upgrade, instead of saying: that chick is hotter than my girl.

 

[Lao Tzu]

A good trick to get you warmed up is just to start talking to them. Don't think of asking them out after you finish talking ot them. Just talk to talk. ask questions about them and actually listen to their answers. Show you're listening with followup questions. 96% of rational humans like it when strangers of either sex talk to them and show an interest in that person's goals, ambitions, desires, views, etc.

However your (apparent) self loathing and mentality that failure is guaranteed will really work against you.

Out of curiosity, have you ever approached a woman?

 

[vinylgroover]

just remember to post pics, even if they're ugly........after all the advice we've given, it's the least you can do.

 

[fyxgel2]

A good trick to get you warmed up is just to start talking to them. Don't think of asking them out after you finish talking ot them. Just talk to talk. ask questions about them and actually listen to their answers. Show you're listening with followup questions. 96% of rational humans like it when strangers of either sex talk to them and show an interest in that person's goals, ambitions, desires, views, etc.

However your (apparent) self loathing and mentality that failure is guaranteed will really work against you.

Out of curiosity, have you ever approached a woman?

I have talked to and approached women before, yes, but thats about all I've done. I dont know how to get to know them better, getting beyond the introductions, how to ask them out, etc. I am horrible at that.

For example, tonight there was this beautiful girl at this church service named Andrea that I wanted to talk to a lot. I talked to her a little, said hi, asked how her weekend was, how her classes were going, but that is all i could eak out. She strikes me as the shy type, but she is incredibally beautiful.

I know that the self loathing mentality will kill me, but what if its true? what if there is no such thing as a 'hot girl' out there who would want anything to do with me? heck maybe a 'semi attractive girl' might, if I tried enough times with different girls.
Heck, why do I have this kind of self doubt? Is any of it true, or is it all a mirage?

I really just want to cut to the chase and see if I have a chance with some of these women that I am attracted to.

just remember to post pics, even if they're ugly........after all the advice we've given, it's the least you can do.

totally, I will post pics, as long as they late me take them. I love taking pictures of beautiful girls. and thanks for the advice all!

 

[awittyusername]

Dude, you are a good looking kid and there is probably lots of girls thalike you. We all are afraid of rejection. Be confident and start approaching girls as a man not as a nice guy who would make a good friend.

Upgrading is a term guys use meaning find a girl you really like. Don't settle for the first girl that goes out on a date w/you. It's not fair for either party when you settle. There are millions of girls out there to discover what you really like. For ex. I was raised that skinny blonds were the most beautful girls. but, after experiancing other women I learned that that type is not what I really like. I'm glad I gave a more full-figured dark haired girls a chance. But, as you already know looks are not important.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I wish you luck......again.

 

[-SD-]

So now we are back to square one. You are still yapping and posting useless pathetic crap that proves your confidence is zero.

 

[vinylgroover]

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For example, tonight there was this beautiful girl at this church service named Andrea that I wanted to talk to a lot. I talked to her a little, said hi, asked how her weekend was, how her classes were going, but that is all i could eak out. She strikes me as the shy type, but she is incredibally beautiful.

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That's pretty good going for the first chat Fyx. You don't have to close the deal the first time you talk to her. You just make talk and that's what you did. Next time you see her, talk to her again and then when you feel ready ask her out. Don't make it an announcement, just say 'hey, if you're not busy next weekend would you be interested in having a drink or coffee......'

 

[Deleted member 33117]

All good advice. Now get your ass out there and start asking girls out. Don't settle... date as many as you can until you find one that strikes you as worth keeping.

 

[awittyusername]

I have talked to and approached women before, yes, but thats about all I've done. I dont know how to get to know them better, getting beyond the introductions, how to ask them out, etc. I am horrible at that.

For example, tonight there was this beautiful girl at this church service named Andrea that I wanted to talk to a lot. I talked to her a little, said hi, asked how her weekend was, how her classes were going, but that is all i could eak out. She strikes me as the shy type, but she is incredibally beautiful.

I know that the self loathing mentality will kill me, but what if its true? what if there is no such thing as a 'hot girl' out there who would want anything to do with me? heck maybe a 'semi attractive girl' might, if I tried enough times with different girls.
Heck, why do I have this kind of self doubt? Is any of it true, or is it all a mirage?

Bro, you did good talking to Andrea at church. Its a nice start. Next time talk a little more, find out what she likes etc. If she likes to goto the beach (or whatever) just say I like it to lets go Saturday. (dont ask Assume she wants to go)

I know when your young, having "hot girl' is important. But, looks are not important. Thats why everyone tells you to lower your standards. Most "hot girls" are only going to hurt your self doubt. Just find a girl who is nice and you like.

Yes, you are right, self doubt is a mirage. You can take steps to change it