how to brake the ice with this girl i know?

[bigtasty25]

ill ignore that comment...
i dont really bang any girls unless i see a forseable future with them ...i just see the point in banging a girl then seeing her upset afterwards when she finds out you dont like...
and even if its just a slut, i dont really care for an std, or their short attention spans, etc

nursing actually makes a ton of money down here in south fla and im planning on doing nursing anesthesiology after for that matter which makes 150-250K on average..but im sure you make much more than that sublime..so who am i to talk..

but anywhoo i did go to the gym this evening..and what do u know...shes there again the same time as me in her black spandex pants and dark purple outfit..really tight...

well i go through my normal routine, (and heather..i must say..you were pretty dead on, she seems to def like me, i guess the 'gettin her jealous' thing worked)..i wait till shes in a place where its easier to talk to her, less crowded. well by the end of both of our workouts shes on the calf machine and nobody's around her, and shes looking at me about half the time id predict... so im about to do my thang n make a move, opportunity was perfect, its obvious she likes me now...well then my buddy and his friend come over (whom im both good friend's with) and they start asking me about juice n whatknot since they know im friendly and know quite a bit on the subject, can i hook them up etc...it got me sidetracked so i talked to them for a few mins..next thing i know when they leave, she's gone..ahhhhhhhhhh. Opportunity missed and a big slap in my face...i was so pissed!!! For all the guys that think im gay..lol...i talk to about 75% of the hotties that r regulars at my gym, im very social and ill talk to just about anyone as long as their friendly and dont put me down (purposely). Of the 95% of the girls i chat with regularly, im not really interested in any persay, just not my type, but its fun to talk to them nonetheless. but this one...is..just...different..she makes me feel so good when i talk to her...and when i see her, i light up (and i can tell she does too, its like we have radar for each other 100 feet away). Well i guess you can/understand why i procrastinated a bit in speaking with her, its not shyness at all (im extremely social)...it's just when u have a "thing" for a girl, it makes u feel all weird at times (reminds me of my younger dating days)...and u dont know how to talk to them lmao (although i have a feeling ill be ok). I've been dating on n off for almost 9 years now, ive had my share of long term relationships, this just seems so much better than all the rest. But hell, even if things dont go well, there's a billion other fish in the sea right?

I hate seeing guys say girls have control over guys...i feel thats because theyre not experienced enough to know how to put the cards in your hands...if you know exactly how to cater to what a woman wants in general, its usually the guy that picks what he wants, given all conditions r in tact (not the girl)...if a guy truly loves himself...the girl will pick up on that very quickly (and its a good thing...cockyness on the other hand, or being dictative and putting others down to make yourself feel better... doesnt mean u love yourself)...they have a radar for this thing a mile away..lol...

Sorry about that i went kinda off topic..tomorrow will be friday so ill give it a shot then, probably a better day of the week for a coffee lounge date (if the conditions permit !
=)

 

[GoldenDelicious]

Coming from a girl, these transparent ploys seem childish and thinly veiled. I would think you were trying to be a smooth mac daddy if you tried to play a silly routine like that. Just ask the girl to coffee. The confidence to ask without running some mac daddy scam is far more attractive to intelligent, sweet girls.

i have known many women who have said exactly the same thing when i have outlined my pickup strategies to other males in my group(s).

unfortunately for them, they were already conquered and represented by little notches on my fave boxers by that point

kinda hard to take them seriously after that, although pointing out how they had fallen for the same thing was beyond amusing

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never, ever, EVER EVER fucking listen to what a women has to say about picking up. EVER. they live in denial. including HeatherRae up there. one minute theyre telling you to be sweet etc etc...next minute theyre banging the football captain on the bleachers, even though hes exactly what they told you not to be like

then some guy comes up with EXACTLY the attributes of the perfect guy they described, and they dont date him. ask them why, and they say "oh...i just dont see him like that" or "i dont feel that way about him" or "hes nice, but hes just a friend"

thats because he listened to some other chick about how to be a man, and learned how to be...a very good woman.

and besides, it isnt a "slick mac daddy routine". its just an interaction giving me the opportunity to chat to them comfortably so that they can see if they like me. wheich they inevitably do, because...i look really, really good REALLY good

(loooooooooooool havnt said that in so long lololoollolololol)

 

[bigtasty25]

eh no worries i think the guys win on this one for the most part, although heather is partially right nonetheless on the KISS principle (if its said right)..although its not exactly WHAT you say...its HOW you say it...and how it comes off, and if theres attraction between both parties (most important)..

i feel girls (as well as guys) can get an idea/vibe of what the other person is like after talking to that person for a good 10-15 mins...which we did after our initial convo...which is when the flirting began pretty much...

i dont think i really need to prove what kind of guy i am, i have a feeling she already knows, and i doubt she'd be suprised if i brought up the champagne thing..she already knows im caring i think...i asked her during our second convo (a month later AFTER my contest was done) how her cold was and how the dextromorphine hydrobromide i told her to take worked. She was really suprised i remembered that and she told me it worked like a charm, (and seemed really sincere when she said thanks for asking). 2 mins after i walked away she left the gym,( i think we satisfied each other's needs verbally during that gym session..lol.)


ive been in this game long enough to know what kind of girls i look and should go after, she fits that perfectly..so im going to try to make this a home run and ask her out tomorrow, if the conditions permit, saturday it will be..i have a strong feeling she knows I want to ask her out...call it a feeling..i dunno.


fyi im by no means the perfect guy, nobody is perfect, nobody ever will be, i just consider myself normal, and feel my life is great..just that little gap missing with the girl (ive had my share of flings over the last decade, and yes im 24, 25 later this month...gets old after awhile, for those of you that care to disagree...really think about what you're saying, having a partner doesnt mean anyone is "owned" its all about mutual respect..mutual is the key word)...im just trying to go after what i think should be mine
Im a bodybuilding competitor and she looks/seems alot like davani medina actually..that latino/italian flair...i just love it..lol.

 

[heatherrae]

Well, GoldenDelicious, maybe you are "banging" girls with low self-esteem. Congratulations on your mac daddy routine. You show a girl that you are a sincere and caring person by lying to them about some bogus party so that later they can be "little notches on your favorite boxers." Sorry, that isn't showing that you are caring. That is lying about being a caring person. Yes, I guess that it works on nice girls sometimes and we believe that you are a nice person only to find out later that you were running a little game. Congratulations. You're a genius.

However, I think that bigtasty is a nice person who is genuinely interested in getting to know this lady. I think he is doing a fine job of showing he is caring without having to put on an act. News flash-- because it isn't an act.

Cut the foolish games. When you are older you will feel like you were being a childish by putting "notches in your boxers" at the expense of people's feelings.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

Well, GoldenDelicious, maybe you are "banging" girls with low self-esteem. Congratulations on your mac daddy routine. You show a girl that you are a sincere and caring person by lying to them about some bogus party so that later they can be "little notches on your favorite boxers." Sorry, that isn't showing that you are caring. That is lying about being a caring person. Yes, I guess that it works on nice girls sometimes and we believe that you are a nice person only to find out later that you were running a little game. Congratulations. You're a genius.

However, I think that bigtasty is a nice person who is genuinely interested in getting to know this lady. I think he is doing a fine job of showing he is caring without having to put on an act. News flash-- because it isn't an act.

Cut the foolish games. When you are older you will feel like you were being a childish by putting "notches in your boxers" at the expense of people's feelings.

a few points:

i never said anything about me banging anyone. i dont 'bang' or even 'fuck', thankyouverymuch.

it isnt a mac daddy routine, it was a quick example of a story used to convey personality. obviously, thinking up a real story is ideal

i dont have favorite boxers

if i did they wouldnt have notches, im not a conquest counter

i dont lie to women. i just show them the part of my personality that is closest to what i THINK they want to see then and there...not unlike you putting on your favorite dress. there is no deception in it.

i dont hurt anyones feelings. half my social circle is built from people i have been physical with. i have really nice, caring relationships with them.

social interaction is a lot more complicated than "boy meets girl. girl meets boy. girl and boy like each other". there is a social dance that occurs with a bunch of preprogrammed elements that we cannot voluntarily deactivate, that will make or break the partnering. we must, therefore, consider them as part of how we choose to socialise. it isnt deception. its just the reality of the human condition. ethically there is no difference to influence how your prospective partner perceives you by wearing a push up bra, as by using a personality conveying story. at least if the story is true, its perfectly ethical.

anway thats something for another day. the real question is...did you ever meet the football captain?

 

[bigtasty25]

lol...i think you two like each other....i can sense it...find a room!!! haha...

anywhoo...both of you are right because yes you should be genuine to a girl, caring, and be yourself, and be honest...but as long as both parties had their fun, and nobody got hurt, then there's nothing to worry about. It's as simple as that really..

But anyways...I was just going to say, I talked to my friend at the gym today who knows alot of the hotties there, and told me he saw that girl i like...walking out with this kinda ugly dude once or twice (said its prob a guy she was seeing). Told me he doubt its anything serious because she doesnt seem that in to him. Well...i really feel she deserves better than this guy...maybe the guy knew what to say to ask her out, and whatknot, and may be slight...but I have a feeling she wants to be with me alot more due to all the clues she's been giving me lately. Yes she was there today when I was there and yes she looked drop dead gorgeous in this neon green tight outfit that matched her tanned out body, But i like to show off to so of course she looked quite a bit (and i ignored her). I've used the ignoring technique on most girls and notice it attracts them even more...I feel that I used this one on this girl excessively because she looked at me about 50 times as much as ive looken at her i guess...shit...i prob just glance over quickly at her from the corner of my eye 2 or 3 times total in a gym session . Im afraid that i may have her thinking that im not interested in her..ughhh! Well honestly I dont care about this loser she's dating because she obviously doesnt seem that happy with him...so im still going to ask her out when the chance permits-she was personal training alot of girls today at once-was impossible to talk to her even more. I shall try again for tomorrow but im not gunna give up on this one!

And im also not gunna worry myself about it...it is what it is..taking a chance...and well, she's just a girl...there's millions of others out there, so ill just ease my mind off it until I actually get the opportunity to do my thang with her.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

lol...i think you two like each other....i can sense it...find a room!!! haha...

no way. we'd never get along. and she has fake nails. theyre still nice though.



also, as per your "there are lots of girls" speech...PLEASE. stop being a pussy. tfaf, mofo

 

[jdevlin1985]

Always change the amounts of attention you give her. Give her your undivided attention for an extended period of time one day, and appear to be too busy to even talk to her the next. If she IS into you, it will drive her insane trust me, and you will be on her mind for the rest of the day. She will be wondering if she said or did something wrong, and she will become much more interested in you because she won't be able to think about anything else. Fact! Don't play mr nice guy, does'nt work. You need to show you have confidence and charisma, that you are different from every other guy in that room. Walk up to her when you feel the time is right, and my impression so far is you have no fucking clue, and throw it in a general convo. Do not just spit it out, it will just put her on the spot and she will be more likely to say no. How to say, and what to say? Use your fuggin head, i don't know what type of person you are so i can't determine what will work for you and what won't. Use something on the lines of "I'd like to talk to you again, is there a number I can reach you at?". Will always give you 'better results' because shes got to aviod saying "no" or she will sound stupid because that will mean there is not a number she can be reached at. It also makes you more original than every other 21st century idiot that asks for her number straight out. And finally, one thing that will always 'up you chances'. Show you are sure of yourself! Do not blush, do not stutter and do not fidget like you see many idiotic plebs do.

And if she does 'reject' your offer? You are not going to feel like a maing because it has been brought up in general and lets face it, SHE will be losing out. Keep your head up, smile and continue with the conversation. Until you see the right time to ditch and get on with what you were 'actually' down there for in the first place.

 

[heatherrae]

Okay, Golden Delicious. No harm, no foul. Yes, my nails are fake. I have them done and a pedicure every two weeks. I'm sort of high maintenance...lol.

I agree with what jdevlin says above. It is nice to leave us wanting more and not being too obvious.

I think you have been doing a little of that already. Am I wrong? She shows up at the gym at the same time as you every time. Maybe she wants to bump into you.

Anyway, Jdevlin has it right. Just put it in the coversation.

Also, if she turns you down, never take it personally. You never know what things have gone on or are going on in peoples lives to form who they are, their opinions, etc. You sound like a great guy. She will be a lucky girl when she takes you up on your offer.

=-)

 

[GoldenDelicious]

Okay, Golden Delicious. No harm, no foul. Yes, my nails are fake. I have them done and a pedicure every two weeks. I'm sort of high maintenance...lol.

I agree with what jdevlin says above. It is nice to leave us wanting more and not being too obvious.

I think you have been doing a little of that already. Am I wrong? She shows up at the gym at the same time as you every time. Maybe she wants to bump into you.

Anyway, Jdevlin has it right. Just put it in the coversation.

Also, if she turns you down, never take it personally. You never know what things have gone on or are going on in peoples lives to form who they are, their opinions, etc. You sound like a great guy. She will be a lucky girl when she takes you up on your offer.

=-)

"sort of" high maintainence? LOL

heather, youre cute. you remind me of my little sister. i want to adopt you

seriously though, im curious to know a little about your character. you seem prissy, like we'd never get along. fake nails? high maintinence? very polished avatar photos? no way. tell me though, why not..who do you think lies more, men or women?