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how to brake the ice with this girl i know?
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bigtasty25
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Excellent! Ill try a few of those and tell you guys what happens! thanks!
bigtasty25
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for all you that didnt get it..i was just kidding..although that is funny as hell
some real suggestions would be appreciated though...we still say hi to each other a few times week...but only have longer conversations when shes not training a boatload of girls (shes a personal trainer there..sorry if i didnt add that)..she trains a new hotty everyday there..
ive never once seen her talk to a male at my gym, or a male try to talk to her, yet shes there the same 2-3 hrs im there...i think theyre all just intimidated of her because shes so pretty/smart..as far as i know im the only guy she talks to, although i dont really care..just stating this be4 u guys say it was over be4 it started or some mess of a suggestion like that ugh lol..
some real suggestions would be appreciated though...we still say hi to each other a few times week...but only have longer conversations when shes not training a boatload of girls (shes a personal trainer there..sorry if i didnt add that)..she trains a new hotty everyday there..
ive never once seen her talk to a male at my gym, or a male try to talk to her, yet shes there the same 2-3 hrs im there...i think theyre all just intimidated of her because shes so pretty/smart..as far as i know im the only guy she talks to, although i dont really care..just stating this be4 u guys say it was over be4 it started or some mess of a suggestion like that ugh lol..
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heatherrae
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If she likes you she will just say yes when you ask her out for coffee. It sounds like she likes you. the "I'm tired comment was probably her just talking off the top of her head." If she says she has a bf, then she doesn't want to go out with you, and you should just cut your losses. If she says, "I don't know you that well" remind her that it is just a cup of coffee and a great way to get to know each other.
GoldenDelicious
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this is what you do.
walk past her just before you start your workout, then when she is to your side (ie to look at her you have to look over your shoulder 90 degrees, pause. the point is to make it look like youre incidentally asking her, NOT going up to her front on as if youre hitting on her) and say:
"hey (her name), before i start this workout (look at your watch. itll reassure her that you arent going ot hang around forever), do me a huge favour and suggest a nice champagne that women like. one of my friends sisters is having a housewarming, and hes asked me to go along to it to pad out the number of guests so that its a good party, because shes really sweet and would be really hurt if her housewarming party was a flop - but the thing is, i dont want to turn up empty handed and thought that along with a gift for the house, id take a nice wine - what do you think?"
the above story is obviously bullshit, but it demonstrates that 1) you are a good friend 2) your friend is a good guy, which makes you look even better for hanging with good guys 3) you are a good guy for looking after your friend and his sister, 4) are socially intelligent/thoughtful and 5) are not a cheapskate, because youre buying a gift AND wine.
the point of this story is to reopen dialogue with this woman and to give you somethign to talk about - and move on to a quick fluff talk about your/her training, your mom coming to visit you bal bla bla...whatever, talk like you did the other time but as you talk, DO NOT compliment her about ANYTHING and especially not on her looks until right at the end of the convo say somethign like "you know i really regret not talking to you much at the gym, but i focus on my workout really hard when im here...but ive really enjoyed this conversation, how can we continue it?"
she will 90% reply with "well, i could give you my number..." then exchange numbers. if she says nothing or says "i dont know" say "do you have a cell phone or email?" and she will without a doubt give you one of them.
asking her to go on a coffee "date" is pretty much asking her to date you, so its quite loaded...meaning she might say to herself "i dont want to express this much interest to this guy, but i do like him a bit" and say no - even though she wants to hang with you. but if you do what i said then call her and say "hey (her name) my coffee date just cancelled on me - why dont you throw something on and come meet me at xxxxx place. im totally in the mood for a coffee and i would love your company for a half hour or so" then by making each step of the process so small, so easy, theres a great chance youll wind up sipping coffee with your hottie quite quickly
and there you go
walk past her just before you start your workout, then when she is to your side (ie to look at her you have to look over your shoulder 90 degrees, pause. the point is to make it look like youre incidentally asking her, NOT going up to her front on as if youre hitting on her) and say:
"hey (her name), before i start this workout (look at your watch. itll reassure her that you arent going ot hang around forever), do me a huge favour and suggest a nice champagne that women like. one of my friends sisters is having a housewarming, and hes asked me to go along to it to pad out the number of guests so that its a good party, because shes really sweet and would be really hurt if her housewarming party was a flop - but the thing is, i dont want to turn up empty handed and thought that along with a gift for the house, id take a nice wine - what do you think?"
the above story is obviously bullshit, but it demonstrates that 1) you are a good friend 2) your friend is a good guy, which makes you look even better for hanging with good guys 3) you are a good guy for looking after your friend and his sister, 4) are socially intelligent/thoughtful and 5) are not a cheapskate, because youre buying a gift AND wine.
the point of this story is to reopen dialogue with this woman and to give you somethign to talk about - and move on to a quick fluff talk about your/her training, your mom coming to visit you bal bla bla...whatever, talk like you did the other time but as you talk, DO NOT compliment her about ANYTHING and especially not on her looks until right at the end of the convo say somethign like "you know i really regret not talking to you much at the gym, but i focus on my workout really hard when im here...but ive really enjoyed this conversation, how can we continue it?"
she will 90% reply with "well, i could give you my number..." then exchange numbers. if she says nothing or says "i dont know" say "do you have a cell phone or email?" and she will without a doubt give you one of them.
asking her to go on a coffee "date" is pretty much asking her to date you, so its quite loaded...meaning she might say to herself "i dont want to express this much interest to this guy, but i do like him a bit" and say no - even though she wants to hang with you. but if you do what i said then call her and say "hey (her name) my coffee date just cancelled on me - why dont you throw something on and come meet me at xxxxx place. im totally in the mood for a coffee and i would love your company for a half hour or so" then by making each step of the process so small, so easy, theres a great chance youll wind up sipping coffee with your hottie quite quickly
and there you go
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heatherrae
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Coming from a girl, these transparent ploys seem childish and thinly veiled. I would think you were trying to be a smooth mac daddy if you tried to play a silly routine like that. Just ask the girl to coffee. The confidence to ask without running some mac daddy scam is far more attractive to intelligent, sweet girls.
bigtasty25
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golden delicious' scheme sounds a little more complex..but the philosophy of going from one small step, to a tiny bit larger one, etc etc...sounds like a great idea...she needs to know im a good guy with good intentions be4 i ask her out...
i do actually have my bro's gf down at the univ of miami (shes 20) about an hour south of me i chill with sometimes when her friend's r having a party..shes in a sorority so im sure they have all those housewarming things n whatknot...so it wouldnt totally be a lie..and i do stand up for my bro's gf alot...and whatknot...im close with my home family pretty much..so his plot/scheme isnt far from the truth...LOL.
Im not really a sweet talker...but i can be rather smooth/confident if i get a nice chance to talk to her because im usually quite comfortable around her and be myself (like i have for 2 of our convos in the past when we actually got a chance to talk)....so i'd naturally ask her for a cup of coffee at the big coffee down the street from our gym be4 i leave when im done talking to her.
be4 i leave after talking to her and refreshing up on how things r going...id part into be4 leaving...
"hey i see we're usually both really into our workouts and whatknot when we're here ...why don't we continue this over a cup of coffee at the Tap house?" (coffee place down the street, big place, real nice younger atmosphere).
and be4 hand id also say something like "hey...you know...i was gunna tell ya before...i would have talked to u more at the gym but im so focused on my workouts these days, especially since my competition which was a couple weeks ago, and after winning the show ive become so motivated that im doubly as focused, so dont think i didnt wanna talk to ya" (all the while smiling and talking confidently, looking right at her, so she'd know i am sincere...thats how i usuaully am when i talk to her, i look directly at her..shes too pretty not to).
thanks again guys (n gals)..great suggestions..
i do actually have my bro's gf down at the univ of miami (shes 20) about an hour south of me i chill with sometimes when her friend's r having a party..shes in a sorority so im sure they have all those housewarming things n whatknot...so it wouldnt totally be a lie..and i do stand up for my bro's gf alot...and whatknot...im close with my home family pretty much..so his plot/scheme isnt far from the truth...LOL.
Im not really a sweet talker...but i can be rather smooth/confident if i get a nice chance to talk to her because im usually quite comfortable around her and be myself (like i have for 2 of our convos in the past when we actually got a chance to talk)....so i'd naturally ask her for a cup of coffee at the big coffee down the street from our gym be4 i leave when im done talking to her.
be4 i leave after talking to her and refreshing up on how things r going...id part into be4 leaving...
"hey i see we're usually both really into our workouts and whatknot when we're here ...why don't we continue this over a cup of coffee at the Tap house?" (coffee place down the street, big place, real nice younger atmosphere).
and be4 hand id also say something like "hey...you know...i was gunna tell ya before...i would have talked to u more at the gym but im so focused on my workouts these days, especially since my competition which was a couple weeks ago, and after winning the show ive become so motivated that im doubly as focused, so dont think i didnt wanna talk to ya" (all the while smiling and talking confidently, looking right at her, so she'd know i am sincere...thats how i usuaully am when i talk to her, i look directly at her..shes too pretty not to).
thanks again guys (n gals)..great suggestions..
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