How Important is Image to You?

[musclemom]

This may be a repost ... but something my husband was telling me this morning got me to thinking:

If you were with someone who was a real joy to be with, I mean totally easy to talk to, great in bed, no disgusting or bad habits ... BUUUUUUTT they weren't big on their appearance, i.e., never dressed nicely and/or needed to lose 20 or 30 pounds how much would that bother you?

And if the fact they didn't look like a model would really, really bother you, would you actually be able to stay with someone just because they were smoking hot to look at and always perfectly turned out, even for something like going to the grocery store, buuuuut they weren't very interesting to talk to, were a selfish asshole, pissed money away, and/or a total bore in bed?

 

[H_T_]

kinda. doesn't that mean they're not into taking care of themselves? if i could spin it that way.....

 

[puddlemonkey]

I think as we get older it becomes less important to us. Not so much how we look, but how others perceive us.

 

[musclemom]

kinda. doesn't that mean they're not into taking care of themselves? if i could spin it that way.....

Assume they're clean, their clothes are clean, they brush their teeth but they've worn the same style clothes/hair forever.

If it's a chick, she's not into makeup or getting her nails done.

People can be in decent shape (like doing okay on cardiac tests and stuff) and still be overweight.

 

[the_clockwork]

I don't consider myself being an egomanic just caring about myself

 

[ksharp01]

Well, I guess that if I truely loved this person it wouldn't matter to an extent...the weight would have to be a problem if it affected healt though.

I mainly just ask that my man be bathed and I'm good to go..lol

 

[the_clockwork]

Well, I guess that if I truely loved this person it wouldn't matter to an extent...the weight would have to be a problem if it affected healt though.

I mainly just ask that my man be bathed and I'm good to go..lol

high standards

 

[musclemom]

I don't consider myself being an egomanic just caring about myself

I'm not saying anything one way or the other about any specific person, no judgements (FYI, I actually do have someone in mind but they're not on this board so it's academic).

I'm just curious about image perception.

I mean, you could almost say the same thing, in a way, about your car or your house, you know? Many people trade in their car just because they want a new one, not NEED a new one; many people get bigger houses in more expensive neighborhoods simply because they can afford it, not that they necessarily need more space or are moving closer to people they like.

 

[Nathan]

I want to be physically attracted to who I am with, at least in the beginning. I can't figure this one out to be honest. I'm single right now and go back and forth between wanting a gf and wanting to just have fun. I don't tend to date girls I get along with really well but am not attracted to - it feels more like a friendship. I wish I could reach some sort of happy/content/satisfied point with it all though.

 

[ksharp01]

high standards

yep, very high. lol


seriously though I think I would still have to maintain some level of attraction for this person in the long haul.
I figure that if I do what I do to maintain myself then I would expect my SO to do the same.