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help with boyfriends "roid rage"
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takniteasy
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Lil, I feel for ya. I went thru the same thing with my ex-husband. As I said before, KB, do what is best for you and make sure YOU come before the anabolics. If he doesn't control his cycle, then he doesn't deserve you. I wish you the best.
Just my $.02.
Just my $.02.
KB - there is some really good advice here. I think it is really important to tell him in advance that you will walk away when you see that he is losing control. I had an ex-boyfriend that walking away from him when he was angry would immediately escalate things into violence....that is why he is an ex. If your boyfriend is a normally a good nonviolent man and I believe that he probably is then the two of you need to discuss this in a calm, nonconfrontational manner and agree to some ground rules for dealing with each other while he is on. Don't argue with him while he is on, if you must get a notebook and write it all down and then jump his ass about everything he did once he comes off. He has to take responsiblity for controlling it and you have to take responsibility for not provoking it.
SofaGeorge
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KB, I was with my wife for 10 years. I loved her dearly... and never once did she have to worry that I might explode and hit her. You deserve the same.
gypsy
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There's a couple of things I agree with in here - yes, the roids are making him out of control and it isn't a figment of your imagination. I was in your situation but I DID get hit in the situation. I ended up not leaving, but the roid usage came to a halt from that point on. Another thing is avoidance - we were fighting, I was in his face and THAT set it off more then anything. If he won't stop, steer clear and don't push the issues.
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Frackal
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Ahhhh bullshit, roid rage if anything at all is probably not any stronger than women's PMS....tell him to quit being a bitch and control himself. I never get pissy on AAS.
KBgrl, I so know what you are going through!!! I'm actually really glad that you posted this b/c I have been wondering the same thing over the last month with my bf.
I have been noticing little things with him that made me question if there is something that I've been doing to annoy him. We have an awesome relationship, we're best friends and are very open with one another. But I was feeling rather 'empty' or alienated
...some days worse than others. I actually doubted myself a few times wondering if he was 'bored' with us, when in my heart I know this is not true, but it's just a feeling that's made me feel a little insecure. He's not been aggressive towards me at all, that's not his style at all just sometimes a little distant I guess. He has an incredible personalily, very very funny and always goofing around and when he's in his 'roid mood' it's all so new to me!! I know when to back off, and I've done so when appropriate but I've felt so awlful about it for some reason, taking it personally.
I realize now that his roid moods has nothing to do with me, I am after all a perfect gf
<lol>, and I think he appreciates that I don't get upset when he is in a 'mood'. I just leave him alone, give him the space until he's ready to be 'normal' again. It's just something we as humans have to learn to deal with and control. Control being the operative word.
I have been noticing little things with him that made me question if there is something that I've been doing to annoy him. We have an awesome relationship, we're best friends and are very open with one another. But I was feeling rather 'empty' or alienated
...some days worse than others. I actually doubted myself a few times wondering if he was 'bored' with us, when in my heart I know this is not true, but it's just a feeling that's made me feel a little insecure. He's not been aggressive towards me at all, that's not his style at all just sometimes a little distant I guess. He has an incredible personalily, very very funny and always goofing around and when he's in his 'roid mood' it's all so new to me!! I know when to back off, and I've done so when appropriate but I've felt so awlful about it for some reason, taking it personally. I realize now that his roid moods has nothing to do with me, I am after all a perfect gf
<lol>, and I think he appreciates that I don't get upset when he is in a 'mood'. I just leave him alone, give him the space until he's ready to be 'normal' again. It's just something we as humans have to learn to deal with and control. Control being the operative word.
Sassy69
New member
nrg --- I assume your bf acknowledges that his mood swings are coming from the roids, right? Just having an agreement between the two of you that, yes, the roids are the source of the moodiness and he won't get mad at you because you want to just walk away and he will also learn that its just part of the cycle and to go stand in a corner or whatever until the moment passes. You need to live "around" him, but he should also understand the source of it all and not take your response personally.
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