have you ever been involved with someone

[StickFigure]

That is physically and emotionally so attractive that you just can't get enough of them? Night and day? From the minute you lay your head down to the minute you open your eyes? You reach over and feel them and all you want to do is make love to them?

hmmm...sounds familiar. Yup.


btw, congrats chicky!! I'm so happy to hear things are going so well with this one.......and it sounds like you didn't have to put this one on a gram of test a day to keep up with you, LOL!!

 

[Wulfgar]

Dear, I don't throw that term around lightly because I know there are plenty of people who are deeply, deeply insulted when you say it.

Think about it for a second, Wulf, sex serves two biological purposes, first and foremost it is for procreation of the species, secondly it bonds us to our mates. If the act of sex provoked negative physiological responses we wouldn't be around to talk about it now, our species would have died out from the get go. Fucking, screwing, humping, making love, call it what you will, sex is supposed to feel good while you're doing it and leave you feeling good, a pleasant afterglow let's say, when you're done. You're supposed to feel so good you wanna do it again, seriously.

I mean, I can vaguely relate to you in that I actually DO have a phobia, sort of, actually it's like an automatic "retch" reflex, it involves saliva (mucus in general, cum, boogers, okra) specifically seeing anything that has the consistency of saliva (I truly find spitting utterly revolting), but I'M not gagged out with sex, I enjoy giving and receiving oral sex and I love kissing my husband (as long as he's recently brushed his teeth) ... I mean, considering most of the fluids involved in sex have the consistency of saliva if anyone was going to be yarked out with sex and bodily fluids, it would be me.

And I really love the way my husband smells au natural, freshly showered or slightly sweaty, it makes no difference to me, I truly adore the way every part of his body smells.

I worry about you Wulf, I really do and I'm sad for you.

I wasnt trying to be insultive when I said "u think?" I mearly was rhetorically questioning if u really meant what you said. No offense.
I can really see where you are coming from. I have a vague recollection of when I was a young teenager(11 or so) and I started having sex. I remember throughout my teenage years I was able to have sex several times in a row and really be able to control my nausea. Frankly, I controlled it so that I wouldnt offend the girls I was screwing. I still did and still do have the desire to have sex which is oddI suppose considering the after effects of retching and nausea. Anyhow, since I have gotten older Ive progressively grown less and less able to contain my reflex. So sex becomes kind of a sprint for me. Can I get a nut before I vomit on this girl? you know?
Ive learned that when I get a little more freaky(i.e. spankings, bondage, role-play, ect...) I can prolong the sex acts because its almost as if Im distracted by my other duties of being a Dom. Its the same if I am being videotaped or doing some thing that otherwise kind of "seperates" me from myself and puts me more in a role. Then I can get it on like Donkey Kong.
BTW my latest revulsion has been blood on my wang. even though its pretty common during sex I almost blacked out cause I got so light headed and nauseous last time it happened(2 days ago).
what do you think? I mean, ive had the nausea thing since I first became sexually active. True that I have been hurt and pretty emotionally scarred by girls in my life. But do you think it is soley from that? Or maybe this is not as uncommon as I think?

 

[musclemom]

Haven't you ever experienced pleasure, wanted to give pleasure to the person you're with? Wanted to give and receive joy?

Haven't you ever, well, loved the person you were being intimate with, at least a little?

 

[Wulfgar]

Haven't you ever experienced pleasure, wanted to give pleasure to the person you're with? Wanted to give and receive joy?

Haven't you ever, well, loved the person you were being intimate with, at least a little?

of course! thats the reason I do it. Honestly, the vast majority of the time I dont have sex for selfish reasons. I do it to make my partner happy and try to express my feelings physically. I have been in love only once. She crushed me pretty badly. but that was over a year ago.
I dont think its about love. I truly feel capable of loving. I really dont know what it is.
I feel like its a catch 22.

 

[Gymgurl]

Im really happy for you Frisky....must be nice to have thia kinda feeling! Don't let him get away if he is a good one!

 

[musclemom]

of course! thats the reason I do it. Honestly, the vast majority of the time I dont have sex for selfish reasons. I do it to make my partner happy and try to express my feelings physically. I have been in love only once. She crushed me pretty badly. but that was over a year ago.
I dont think its about love. I truly feel capable of loving. I really dont know what it is.
I feel like its a catch 22.

Hold on here ... you go away and send back the dude who likes to anally penetrate a woman, pull out then have her fellate you without washing up.

Because the guy who thinks sex is at it's best when it's dirty and degrading, who is trying to figure out whether he's gonna bust a nut or barf first ain't the same person as the one who just wrote this response.

HOW THE FUCK can you be wanting to make your partner happy if you think the most degrading act you can get her to perform is erotic?!

 

[Wulfgar]

Hold on here ... you go away and send back the dude who likes to anally penetrate a woman, pull out then have her fellate you without washing up.

Because the guy who thinks sex is at it's best when it's dirty and degrading, who is trying to figure out whether he's gonna bust a nut or barf first ain't the same person as the one who just wrote this response.

HOW THE FUCK can you be wanting to make your partner happy if you think the most degrading act you can get her to perform is erotic?!

MM come on now hon. its NOT like I am FORCING these girls to do this.
They willingly enjoy it and get pleasure from it same as me.
Just because Ive done all kinds of kinky shit to these women doesnt mean it was ALL my idea. and even when they were the girls still loved it and told me after how awesome of a fuck it was and how they liked how absolutely dominant I was and the shit I made them do.
Several of the times that kind of stuff was talked about and planned in advance through dirty talk, emails, Txt messages ect.

I mean, Im in it for both of us. Im not a rapist. Ive been told by these girls that they would never do this shit with anyone else but I have some kind of "carnal attraction" that makes them really dig it.
whatver the hell that means.

 

[musclemom]

MM come on now hon. its NOT like I am FORCING these girls to do this.
They willingly enjoy it and get pleasure from it same as me.
Just because Ive done all kinds of kinky shit to these women doesnt mean it was ALL my idea. and even when they were the girls still loved it and told me after how awesome of a fuck it was and how they liked how absolutely dominant I was and the shit I made them do.
Several of the times that kind of stuff was talked about and planned in advance through dirty talk, emails, Txt messages ect.

I mean, Im in it for both of us. Im not a rapist. Ive been told by these girls that they would never do this shit with anyone else but I have some kind of "carnal attraction" that makes them really dig it.
whatver the hell that means.

Oh, Wulfie, no, no, no, no, I didn't think you were forcing them!!! But I just wonder about your choice to associate with them, because I can't believe you respect them!

I mean, this is a dog chasing it's tail sort of thing:

1) Either you are comfortable with Dom role, and that's where you want to be, and you like that and those are the kind of relationships you want to be in, or;

2) you're falling into that role because it's a comfort zone thing; or

3) You, consciously or not, choose to associate with these types of women, women that are only really good for degrading sex, not someone you'd want to have a lifelong committement to, and certainly not a woman you would want to marry.

And where does the nausea come in?

Look, I really hated my ex husband, but I wouldn't have wanted to shit on him no matter how much I hated him (shoot, yes, shit on, no. I would have loved to kill him, but I wouldn't have enjoyed degrading him).

I really love my current husband, I'd do anything for him ... but if he got it into his head to try some of the stuff you've discussed on BTS I'd turn around and go, uhh, NO. And I'd certainly never want to do that to HIM. We respect each other ... when you have a mutually respectful and loving relationship you don't want to see your s/o degraded or put down or demeaned. It's not a turn on, it's heartbreaking.

I admit, I don't understand or relate to the whole B/D/S/M set, that's not my bag ... but it sounds to me you're not all the way into that boat, either (hence, the nausea).

Something inherently is really upset in you ... because sex is supposed to be about love and emotional nurturing and intimacy and you're trying to come up with shenanegans to take your mind OFF the sex to calm your stomach.

It's true intimacy you have problems with, the staring deeply into someone eye's as you embrace their body and all that stuff.

Don't take it as criticism, Wulf, seriously, I like you. I'd love to see you fall in love with a nice woman and live happily ever after ... but you're not in any condition to be involved with a nice girl right now, dear.

 

[H_T_]

i hope she doesn't freak out and get all jealous assuming that some other girl might be getting what she gets, when she is not around......i've juggled wimmens before. you might learn to trust him. as long as you can account for every single second of his time. and have it notorized....

 

[immortalis]

This turned into a Dr. Phil-oriented thread so fast...